I was raised to be polite, always say please and thankyou, hold doors open for the people behind me. But it seems that fewer and fewer people in our society have manners. So I was wondering, do rude people get more out of life somehow? Is life easier being rude?
2006-10-21 08:04:46 · 50 answers · asked by bashleyf2000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No joke, but for some people, life IS easier for them.
Rudeness is actually a survival trait. In more primitive times, the person who could get more for himself had a better tendancy to survive. Rude individuals got the most food, the best mate and the warmest spot by the fire.
Eventually, we humans developed a concept of "society." The society was much more efficient at obtaining food, defense and creature comforts. In order to function in the society, we had to invent rules of behaviour. What we call ettiquite.
Society still flourishes pretty well as long as people follow the "rules." Laws are one form of rules, but other behaviours are not written. These are the ones you write of. For the most part, "rude" people tend to be eliminated, either by shunning or, if the behavior is rude enough, they break a law and get arrested.
Very few people manage to last their entire lives without changing. It happens, but in the more developed cultures, it is VERY rare. A rude person MAY, once in a while get away with cutting in line, shouting at waiters, and other innapropriate behaviors, but, sooner or later, he or she loses friends, and the cooperation of coworkers and the respect of peers.
But it is a "natural" behavior. Politeness has to be learned. No creature is more rude and selfish than a toddler. If left to his own devices, he will not share, demand immediate satisfaction of his slightest whims, and expect the biggest piece of cake.
I agree with you, that these behaviors are, either learned from parents, or are the result of parents not correcting these behaviors before the young adult is set loose on the world.
2006-10-21 08:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Vince M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think being rude is getting anyone further in life, nor do I think it's easier. I think people are rude when there in a hurry, and things are not going fast enough, or there going through a hard time in life, or just simply having a bad day. Also people have less time to teach manners to their kids, let alone Time.... I think being polite gets you further in life. Sometimes just being nice, giving that person a smile or a compliment changes their whole demeanor.
2006-10-21 08:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Greer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think it would be easier being rude. People don't like you as much and don't respond to you in a positive way if you are rude. Can you ever remember feeling really good and wanting to be kind to a person who was just rude to you? I haven't. They are annoying at the least and infuriating at the most. I grew up with good manners also and have taught them to my daughter. She's just 12 years old and I am appalled at the behavior of other children her age. I don't think it's getting any better.
2006-10-21 09:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre right in a way. It IS easier to be rude than nice, it seems....for so many ppl. They do it..thinking they are being funny, or truly wanting to bother ppl.
No, they dont get anymore out of life being rude. It gets them nowhere, and they arnt smart enough to see that.
I was raised like you were. Many rude ppl were also raised that way, but the rudeness still finds its way out of them. Some have learned that behavior and some havent. Either way, there will always be rude ppl and the best thing to do, is stay away from them.
2006-10-21 08:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. rude people don't care about other people, that's why they're rude. being nice can be a good thing. if you are nice instead of being rude, you can get away with no arguments and feel good about yourself. in my opinion, rudeness menas not caring about other people's feelings. of course, there are some instances that's ok of being rude. for example is that if someone s rude, you can be rude back. the full answer is that i guess it depends on how you look at it. people who are rude might find life better and easier, more than not.
i remember an instance as if i gave a rude remark, i would get into an argument with my sister. if i was nice to her then i would avoid it. but sometimes i am both. depends on the situation
2006-10-21 08:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dodo bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are rude, in part, because those around them are rude. Many folks are learning that, unfortunately, manners are getting them nowhere and nothing except being stepped on or taken advantage of. So, they behave in a rude manner in an attempt to somehow keep the other sharks from biting. It's sad.
2006-10-21 11:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude people are unhappy people. They go through life not knowing the people they missing out on and the love their missing out on. Life is not easier for them. They need to be able to admit their rude before they can begin to fix their problems. Keep doing what your doing. Someday you will touch the heart of a rude person and they may change never to forget the one person that made them see life in a different lite.
2006-10-21 11:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are rude because of the environment they were raised in and because of their parents. If their parents don't teach them manners or are rude themselves, or just don't care, the kids take after their parents, being rude. And if peer pressure affects the kids, they can be just like their peers. If a child grows up in a rude environment, they will become rude, unless they are extremely intelligent and can figure these things out themselves, like I can. Rude people don't get more out of life, as I see it. When you are polite, you can be respected and trusted, and will earn more privelages. Life is not easy in the first place, and rude people get by certain things with their rudness, but they certainly don't learn anything from that obstacle and don't get much out of what they overcome, because their rudness made them just pass it by. Polite people certainly get more out of life because they can learn what is right and wrong and are more respected. So, keep up your politeness!
2006-10-21 08:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are rude because it's just the way they're programmed, I guess.
I wouldn't say life is easier being rude, because I would think you would really have to try to be rude, and think of rude things to say, and I would think that a lot of people would have negative views on that rude person which could leave that person friendless. Being polite just kind of comes naturally, you know?
2006-10-21 08:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by J13891 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you might come at the wrong moment and the person is already pissed off; we are only human. On the other hand, sometimes people just haven't made good choices in life and it has come back to haunt them. And last, but not least, people can be acting stupid and others around them want them to leave; this is a nice way of having them do so especially if it is not the time of the place for their stupidity.
2006-10-21 09:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋