I'm a single mum, with no money to go out or pay for babysitter, will i ever have a social life again?

Question

Don't get me wrong i love my daughter to pieces, but we all need time for ourselves. been chatting to peope on the internet but as i said, no money to meet up.
I refuse to borrow money and suppose i feel the need to prove i can cope as a single mum (which i do very well) might i add.

Answer 1

I think being with your children is better than being with anyone else.

You can take your child out to play or to the park or to the school to drop pick your child and you will meet other parents. When I go to drop my child I meet with other parents and we talk for hours.

If you want to meet a guy then wait till your child get a bit older and then you can.

If you don't have money then why not try a job like starting a baby day care center and then you can look at your child and other children and earn money.

Don't worry everyone goes through bad time. After every night there will come a day and with it new light. Yours will come and make your life bright.

Don't worry cause after all you are spending time with your very own child.

Good luck. I'm a muslim and tonight is a special night where we ask god. I'll pray and ask god for you as well and everything will turn out right.

Answer 2

Yes, but your going to have to escape from your comfort zone. Forget all the stereo typing you've heard about church people and just go visit a ...oh lets say a "baptist church". Or a "church of God". You will be surprised at how much fun these people have. I was shocked. Softball leagues, camp outs, in church social groups that have a sitting room already set up. You get the social life you want with the knowledge that your daughter is cared for just yards away in a great atmosphere of fun and learning. Also you mentioned your a single mom. There is few better places to find the RIGHT guy than a church. There are losers there too!!! Lots of em, but think how many churches are out there and you might just have a chance at happiness that may last longer than a lifetime! Guess what? Churches cost nothing! It's a win win situation. oooh I hate that phrase but it's true.

Answer 3

Find some other people whom you trust and know and organise some baby-sitting swops.
You may not be able to swop and sit for them at night, but you could offer some weekend day time.
There are always other people out there in the same situation.
You dont say how old you daughter is? If you are still in contact with your Health Visitor, maybe she can put you in touch with other single mums....
try a family centre
try going out during the day....
By the way, who are you trying to 'prove' what to? If you know you are doing a good job, relax a little and take some pressure off.....we are all allowed to go out and have a life!
You CAN be a parent AND a person too!

Answer 4

Find two other single mums, find two jobs where you can all job share, one of you looks after the kids while the other two go to work. Each of you takes a turn at being with the kids for a week.
Not only will you have money but you will meet people you can go out with. Good luck.
(where I am there are plenty of single mums who won't work and far too many "economic migrants" who do the work they should be doing, so well done for not sponging).
P.S. Just seen your question from yesterday - it looks like you will be socialising very soon :-)

Answer 5

Yes you will. And you'll look back and the best times you'll remember are the ones you spent with your kid(s). That said, you still need to get out and be around adults. So, look for a Mom's group and make friends with other moms who can help you form a babysitting pool. Then, look at some way that you can set aside a few dollars (or pounds) until you can save enough for a night out. Or, find cheap things to do. I dont' know where you live, but join a group with people who have a common interest: hiking group, writing group--those things are free. Where there's a will, there's a way...

Answer 6

You generalize. My mom exchange into with my father for 4 years, and making plans a marriage whilst she grew to become pregnant. She exchange into 19 on the time. He left her for yet another woman as quickly as she informed him she exchange into waiting for. She almost died throughout the time of being pregnant and delivery, and that i exchange into born 2 months untimely. My mom worked 3 jobs to pay off our well being facility expenses. at present, my mom is a effectual and rich company woman, and is married to a impressive guy. whether I grew up with a single mom, i'm far from being a "antisocial". i'm a 23 year previous, fortuitously married, stay-at-living house mom. i'm going to no longer be somewhat of the working international, yet i think that being a mom IS somewhat an invaluable company. i'm unsure precisely what ingredient you attempt to make, yet your vast generalizations point out questionable intelligence. in simple terms by way of fact some "multi-dads" and single mothers are idiots, does not advise that they are all a drain on society. some use their circumstances to alter into much extra ideal than they might have in any different case had the incentive to be. while you're so in touch approximately this situation, then step off your cleansing soap container and do something clever.

Answer 7

have you got a relative or a friend that would be kind enough to look after your daughter for just one night i'm guessing by your question the answer is no. Since you cant go out on a night why not take your daughter with you arrange to meet some old friends and catch up.

You say you have no money to meet up with other people why not tell them to come to you?


what is the harm in borrowing money when you can pay it back when your daughter is over.

Answer 8

hello,

I I am a mother of two children.You will have a social life,you can get round this..and it is very human to want time to yourself..gosh,i feel like this at the end of a busy school day!!
Please do not go down the internet route,there are plenty of other ways to meet other men,and do not be in a rush..do things for yourself and please you,look at walking groups in your area,maybe freinds would baby-sit.Start upa baby sitting cirlce in your area,have a few people round with thier babaies on a weekday moring,the gym has creche often.Our confindence can take a dive at times whcih is why you are on the internet chatting up men,this is o.k..but real happiness can be found out there for you,you only have one child..you could do so much,live anywhere you wish to..i lived in Guernsey for 5 years.Look at the wider picture..being a single mum is hard at times,but you are doing the best job anyone could do..so you deserve to give yuorself and your child a fresh start.

Answer 9

Yes. Find other mums, who had no money to pay for a babysitter. And than one of you take care for the kids, and the other is able to meet friends.

Answer 10

Congratulations for coping on your own without handouts for a start! Is there a free play school you could go to? You could maybe go there and meet other mums who are in the same situation as you.