STILL not engaged???

Question

My boyfriend of 51/2 years has not proposed to me. He says Ive been a great girlfriend...very supportive, fun, all that...I'm 23 and he's 24. I think 5 1/2 years is more then enough time to make that decision and we are certainly old enough. I'm considering ending the relationship over this. I feel like I am being used and he is stringing me along. I've told him that it hurts me that we are not engaged and I think it's time, but he seems to avoid the issue or tells me a very vague "maybe sometime in the next year..." I think being in a relationship for 6 years with no ring is pathetic! I'm a great person and very attractive...I could certainly find another guy. I feel like I'm wasting my time with him when I could be meeting someone who will appreciate what they have. Should I move on?

Answer 1

I AGREE BABY GIRL IS HE AINT SURE WHETHER HE CAN SPEND OR EVEN WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF HIS LIFE WITH U AFTER 5 YEARS AND 6 MONTHS HE AINT GONNA MARRY AND IT SHOULDNT TAKE 1 2 OR 3 KIDS TO KNOW

GET IT TOGETHER GET A NEW MAN I MEAN TIME IS EVERTHINGI N THIS WORLD NOW
AND IM PRETTY SURE YOU'LL FIND BETTER
U ARE WASTING YOUR TIME AND HE'S ALLOWING U TOO
U KNOW WHETHER U WANNA BE WITH SOMEONE AFTER 3 YEARS OG BEING WITH EM
I THINK HE'S STINGING U ALONG TO
SO RID OF HIM EXPLAIN TO HIM WHY AND START YOUR JOURNEY AS A BACHOLORETTE

GOOD LUCK
YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO WAIT 5 MORE YEARS FOR AN PROPOSAL

Answer 2

You are absolutely right!

I say this from personal experience. I was w/a guy for nearly 7 yrs. We actually got engaged after 2yrs, (the ring he gave me was pathetic! The cheapest one he could find at Montgomery Wards- $139. 18th of a karot & not even a real engagement ring- a promise ring) He kept saying he wanted to marry me, but then kept sabotaging any efforts for there to be a wedding.

Basically the point is, no body makes us do anything we don't want to & we all do things when we want to. It's been 5 1/2 yrs. If he had wanted to marry you, he would have proposed by now & if he really wanted to get engaged, he wouldn't be so vague about when he "might" want to do it. Guys are very black & white- they either do or don't. If he did, he would have already made an effort & gone ahead.

He is simply stringing you along, giving you little flickers of hope in order to keep you so that he doesn't have to be alone. My ex did this, too.

Dump him before it's too late. Before you're more hurt & bitter & before you realize that the both of you have become a joke. Ppl used to always ask us when we were getting married, my ex & I would always say "Next yr..." But then "next yr" came along & well, no wedding. After awhile, we became a joke.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

If this relationship is not giving you what you need move on. You forcing him to give you a ring is only going to push him away. Maybe taking some time apart will be the best thing for you.

Answer 4

I don't know, in my opinion 23 and 24 are still too young to get married. the 20's are your fun years where, in my opinion, you should be having more fun rather than be in a relationship and settling down. I wouldn't even think about marriage until I'mat leas 30.
Then again, women emotionally mature faster than men, so you might be ready to settle down, but he won't be for a few more years.

Answer 5

you need to try and get him to really talk about and not just accept the one liner for an answer if you are still convinced that he is having commitment issues then it might be time to move on telling him that you feel this way is key you don't want to corner him into marrying you but letting him know you're on the outs might spark some more intelligent thoughs in his small man brain

Answer 6

I would normally tell you that a ring dosen't make a relationship better. and you can't base your relationship on reciving a ring. If he is treating you badly or using you. Then yes move on but you have so much invested think it out first.

Answer 7

i think the ring symbolizes more to you, perhaps you need to think about whether he really actually does love you. it sounds like he's holding back to me, not just about the ring but other things as well, what i would start to do is give less... see what he does, be there but turn part of you off so to speak or dwindle the lights a bit and see if he asks for favors then you can bring it up again so he can feel how it has been hurting you...hey can you answer some of my guy woes about girls?

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Answer 8

maybe he's trying to make u think he's not for marriage but in reality he really is, but just isn't saying anything

or

maybe u should move on.....or at least take a break. him being away from u should let him realize that he always wants to be with you, for the rest of his life

good luck hun :) i'm really sorry this is happening to u :(

Answer 9

If you love this man, you should stay with him. Do you really need a ring to prove that he loves you? You are in a commited relationship, do you really need a legal agreement to prove that. Be happy with what you have.

Answer 10

a ring dont prove nothing, he just need more time to think about it, or it could be some problem in his familly. if you really think you don't like him then move on.