I've went on a few dates with a new girl and shes has came over my house a dozen times. Last night she wanted me to go to a bar she hangs out at sometimes and I didn't want to. She got pretty upset and asked me to just take her there and drop her off in the middle of our night out. The question I have is....should I have went anyway even though I don't like going to bars because I can't stand drunks,smoke or the atmosphere? I really like her....and now this could present a problem. She new how I felt about them but still insisted we just go so she could have a few drinks.
2006-10-21 07:29:23 · 5 answers · asked by moraly c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships are all about compromise. It is a new relationship and you said she knew you didn't like bars from the get go. I would respect that. She can get drinks from other places other than bars if that was what she really wanted. She probably wanted to go there to hang out because she knows people there and feels comfortable there, not to just get a drink. If so, she should have told you that. I know guys won't take me out to places that have smoke since I don't like smoke. It is a matter of respect. Maybe you are getting to know the real her now. Better you know now than later. You could talk to her about it later to see if there could be a compromise. of sorts. Maybe you could have went so she could have had a drink or two just to see what she was really like in her own environment.? I wish you the best on whatever your decision is. Remember, you don't have to change yourself to make this girl like you. Don't let her tantrums make you do something you don't really want to do in the first place.
2006-10-21 07:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it..If you don't drink going to bars is a good way to start drinkin boose and smoking. If she isn't smart to see that and see what it can do for you and her than drop her.
There are many people who go t obars(I am one who used to ) but they are good for meeting people with the same problem you have or to become like them and acheive their problems yourself.
If she would you in the middle of a date to g ot a bar it's likely she would leave an infant child wiht you to visit the same bar were you to be married later.
2006-10-21 14:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a good time to find someone else who will respect your feelings. This girl did not respect you. She knew that you did not like to go to bars, but she expected you to go anyway.
Don't waste your time on someone so selfish that they put their own pleasure above your convictions. She will only bring you more heart ache down the road.
2006-10-21 14:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not compromise your beliefs for anyone. And if she wants you to compromise your beliefs this early in the relationship can you imagine what she'll be demanding of you years from now? I was going to say that you should explain to her how you feel, but then I read that you already did that. If she got mad at you after you explained your feelings then she obviously doesn't respect you.
2006-10-21 14:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by bashleyf2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not going to work as a relationship if she cant respect your wishes - no, you shouldn't have gone. if you really like her why not set up a mock bar in your house - smoke and drug lord free? also explore the possibility she is an alcoholic?
2006-10-21 14:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋