2006-10-21 07:27:04 · 11 answers · asked by jay s 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Gone thru this with both of my kids. We always rewarded the fact that they told the truth. Meaning, they either would not be grounded at all or punishment would be light. We do have the responsibility to teach our kids to be honest.
2006-10-21 08:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two aspects to this question:
First, the difference between punishment and discipline:
When a child misbehaves, it's best to look for NATURAL consequences and use them to develop a way to discipline a child. For instance, if a young child draws on the wall, a good way to discipline him is to have him help clean it off. Punishment would be putting him in time out while you do it yourself. Discipline is a good way to demonstrate the natural consequences of his actions: you draw on the wall, you have to spend time cleaning it up.
The second thing to consider is whether or not there was a lie involved. Lying must be dealt with separately from the misbehavior, because it is an additional misbehavior. I remember my mother telling me when I was a child, "I don't care who broke my vase... it was an accident, and while I'm sad that my vase is broken, I'm not going to be mad. But if you LIE to me about it, you've done something wrong..." I fessed up about accidentally breaking her vase, apologized for being careless, and never forgot the lesson.
2006-10-22 10:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by charmian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your child that if she/he would have lied the punishment would have been something like a week grounding...or a long time out.....but since she/he told the truth the punishment will be a 2 day grounding or a shorter time out. If there is an issue with lying tell him/her EVERY time there is a punishment needed so that they see that telling the truth helps out ALL the time....
Hope this helps!
2006-10-21 14:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) It depends on the offense
2) You should punish them but much less severly than if they lied to you
You have to still let them know they were wrong, but since they admitted it without lying to you first, Try to make them see it would have been much worse if they lied. hopefully they will understand that if they mess up they have to accept the consequences, but if the are truthful, the consequences won't be worse.
2006-10-21 14:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by flashpro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose since the worst thing our girls can do it lie, we have to be thankful they told the truth.
They would be saved from any punishment, but there may be some form of restitution depending on what they did.
2006-10-22 10:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reward for honesty but punish the infringement??
that's a tough call.
if it wasn't too serious how about a 24 hour grounding without TV or other privileges?
2006-10-21 14:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should'nt punish him for being honest about whatever is and ask him what have you learn from this and is it going to happen again we would hope not you want your children to be honest and tell you things your child did that if you punish them he will never come to you honestly again
2006-10-21 17:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by twilla l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They still should be punished. other wise they will learn that is OK to make mistake and admitted and get away with it.
2006-10-21 15:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With love and understanding!
2006-10-21 14:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hug him and tell him that you appreciate what he did and you love him....thats the best i know...
2006-10-21 14:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋