Sorry i did not know how to amend this question so i am writing it again.
I am 26 and she is 19. It was her that made the first move and told someone that she likes me. She is a shy person and from what I know has had problems. We spent a day out with eachother and we really had a good time. I gave her my number and later she text me hers.
After many texting she comes out with the text that she enjoys being alone and doing what she wants and having fun,
If I told her that she can have freedom with in her realtionship and as well as have lots of fun times together with me she can do her own things along as she is loyal would that help?
2006-10-21 07:14:33 · 12 answers · asked by sija_uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be hher friend ,be there for her and give her time , When she is ready I am sure she will let you know . Enjoy the time you have with her
2006-10-21 07:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how it feels to be shy , i have a male friend who is older than me, i value his friendship loads, and knows that he wants more and wants a relationship,. Although sometimes i feel that i want this aswel, i too say that i like being alone, doing what i want when i want and have fun its my escape route.
For some people a relationship is a really scary thing, and if she has been let down before by boyfriends or even her own family then can u blame her for feeeling that she wants to be alone. Deep down she may really want a relationship, but is scared of what could happen and being let down again. You seem like you really like her, tell her this and say that she can have her own space and spend time with you. Just give her time and dont pressure her, she will appreciate it trust me, and giving her time shows that you mean what u say.
Good luck and hope you both get what you want
2006-10-21 14:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by pinkpetal86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice stands:
Walk away. Find other things to keep you happoy and enjoying life. If she has any sense she'll soon realise what's slipping out of her fingers. Nothing sharpens a woman's mind more than thinking they are about to lose something special. Nothing blunts it quicker than thinking they have it in the bag. Nothing needs telling. You're cracking guy who can get other women. Go have some fun and it's a win-win situation.
Believe me. It might feel like you're helping out by being the nice guy, but you're not. Be honest to yourself. The situation sucks, she might lose you. She needs to chase you. Scarcity IS attractive. And right now you're available in abundance.
2006-10-21 14:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think shes trying to tell you that shes not ready yet. Maybe shes really enjoying her freedom. The type of freedom that you loose when you get into a relationship
2006-10-21 14:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by remove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking she is a prize that you have to WORK FOR to win over. YOU ARE the PRIZE. SHE has to WIN YOU over. Only when you start thinking like that will 'life' be easier and an attraction be created. Hope that helps, here's a website you should check out:
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2006-10-21 14:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by jewl 32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but you are way old (as she sees it) and she understands that her preferences are changing. She is being smart & not getting serious until she grows more.
You can always just be your normally fabulous self and hope she is inspired enough to get over your age, but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for a long term relaitonship. Date her & date girls your own age & be honest with everybody that you are dating several girls, ;until something works out.
2006-10-21 14:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may say that she likes you,
But if she tells you that she does not want a relationship,then that is how she feels.
Personally I think that you are wasting your time.I get the feeling that she is trying to be polite,go and find someone else to be with.
2006-10-21 14:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go OTT adding the specifics of what you are prepared to do to be with her. Go with the flow. Be her friend. Give her space yet make it clear that you are there for her when she wants. Be patient - she will soon go with her heart if it's you she truly wants.
2006-10-21 14:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by cathedralkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these situations it is the woman that decides what is right. If you apply any kind of even discreet pressure you will just scare her away.
Be patient take your time, let her take her time.
2006-10-21 14:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only say that she might be insecure about it because of age difference,maybe shes afraid of telling her parents,i mean she still a teenager,I'm 28 and I'm still scared of telling my parents everything i do,lol they only get 1/2 the story,lolbut stick around,and be patient it ill pay off
2006-10-21 15:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋