My "aunt" moved here from another country, shes mean, shes rude, she thinks shes better then everyone in the family, she called my best friend a lesbian, she cusses a lot, she said that my boyfriend dont care about me at all, now she wont even talk to me all she does is give me evil looks, I have about had it with her... What can I do, any advice???
2006-10-21 07:03:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, if you are too young to move out, tell your Mom or Dad what is happening. You didn't mention what country she is from. That may have a lot to do with it. She may just be upset from leaving a place she loved or is very used to.
Hopefully, this is a temporary situation. Just remember this...when people try to make others look bad and feel bad, it is only because they want to make themselves feel better.
Stay out of her way before she does permanant damage to you and pray she moves out as soon as possible.
Good Luck!
2006-10-21 07:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by onemelbgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIm is right in saying that your aunt is just trying to establish herself in the hierarchal order of the family. You should not, by all means, treat her as she is treating you. That will not resolve anything. It is easy to ignore her crass remarks and in time, perhaps she will stop. If she sees she can get a reaction from you, she will continue. Because she is your aunt, you should respect her but you do not have to let her insensitivity get to you. Her negative behavior is something you can ignore. Is it possible to sit down with her over coffee and have a "heart-to-heart" talk where you tell her how you feel? You can do so by saying, "Aunt, it hurts me to have my friends called lesbian." "Aunt, I am offended when you curse." "Aunt, I know that my boyfriend cares about me and it bothers me to hear differently." "Aunt, I would like us to co-habitate together peacefully; how can we share our space without offending one another?" I know it sounds like you are doing more of the giving in the relationship, but you are also teaching her how you want to be treated. This could have been an acceptable way of life for her in her hometown. Help her learn a better way of life. :)
2006-10-21 07:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really only have two choices in a situation like this. You can either avoid her like the plaque. Only deal with her when you absolutely have to. Or, you could give her a dose of her own medicine. Try treating her the way that she treats you. It would take some courage because it sounds to me like you are all pretty intimidated by her but it would be worth it. I have had to do that to many people and after wards they always respected me more and we have rarely ever had problems since. People will treat you the way that YOU allow them to treat you. Stop putting up with it!!! Just take the upper hand back.
2006-10-21 07:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Laura D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my grandma is the same way and i hav to live wit her...wat i do i just go outside and read or play bball goin on a bike ride or ill just grab my music player turn it up really loud so i cant hear her...but u can also like when she called your best friend a lesbian go up to her and ask her is ther something wrong with my friend i was just wondering how she is a lesbian...and the cussing i would just plez ask her to stop bc i would not other kids to hear u and them gettin in trouble for not knowin wat they r sayin...and about the boyfriend just tell her that well u know u hav never dated my b/f so u wouldnt know i he dosnt care about me...if he dosnt ill find out later on....now im tryin not to hurt your feelings but i just dont want u hurting me other peoples feelings anymore...thats wat i would do if i were u...and if this dosnt work u should go to your parents or a close relative or older friend
2006-10-21 07:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by bball_plyr_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your aunt not your mother. Tell her if she interfere in your life you don't want her around and you don't care if she talke to you or not. You are not going to loos any thing, you were doing OK before she comes here so why do you care if she's talking to you or not.
2006-10-21 07:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go up to her face and say what is ur problem???
if she says exeuse me say well u called my friend lesbian, you said my boyfriend dont care about me at all, and now u aint even talkin to me!!!!
there is a problem
2006-10-21 07:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care if she moved from Mars, stay away from that evil woman.
2006-10-21 07:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stay away from a person like that, their unhappy and want every one around then unhappy. She isn't worth worrying about,
tell her to get lost.
2006-10-21 07:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother about her much. you just listen to her if you happen to, and forget it. She trying to establish her position making you all feel that she is helpful, but not in a rightious manner. She can advice she cannot command, she can suggest but she cannot demand. she can love but she cannot be possesive.
2006-10-21 07:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by DIm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to coffee and lay it on the line. Let her know you won't stand for it.
2006-10-21 07:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋