Think about YOUR realty as a person. Not life in a movie.
Say you fell in love with a person of a different Religion..
Would you change your religion (convert) to theirs in order to marry them?
If yes, then the reason is clear..
If No, would you tell me why?
2006-10-21 07:03:16 · 32 answers · asked by Whatever 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If I knew more about his religion and could see that it was something that would benefit me and my marriage...Yes I would...because when you stop to think about it...We all pray to the same God...just in different ways
2006-10-21 07:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Here's why.
Converting to a religion in order to marry someone is not a conversion based on belief. In other words, it's not a REAL conversion. You don't really believe it, and you betray your own beliefs at the same time. It's like asking if you'd be willing to lie to someone in order to be with them. That's not love, darlin'.
Secondly (and this will be extremely unpopular) love is not sufficient reason to marry someone. It is a necessary reason. It has to be present in the relationship in order for a marriage to work, but it's not enough. There has to be other things. Like will he contribute to our financial security? Is he a morally righteous person? What will we teach our children about God? The list goes on and on.
Too many people have these romanticized and televised notions of love and what it means. Too many people believe this soul-mate garbage. Maybe that's why 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Obviously marriage is tough enough without bringing in different religions to gum up the works.
SERIOUS thought is required. Serious rational thought. The consequences could affect more than just one person for the rest of their lives.
2006-10-21 07:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is neither "No" nor "Yes", it's NEVER and this's not considering a life of a hero in a movie, and the reason is............
As a Muslim, my religion is the most precious thing that I can have in my life, that's because Islam provides me with every thing I may need in this life, I mean it, every thing. Some people may consider spiritual matters are so sufficient for someone to go through this life, but they really are, Islam provides me also with teachings that give me keys of happiness and success in this life and the other one (after Judgment Day).
There's something else that would solve all of this, Allah (or God) permits Muslims to marry women from other religions.
And in case the religion of that woman does not permit her to marry from another religion, then I would forget all about marrying her, and at this time Allah will reward me greatly as I gave up something to be obedient to Him (Glory Be To Him).
2006-10-21 07:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by Green visitor is back :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to change your religion to suit anyone. If the person is of a religion that says to only marry within their church then that person needs to take another look at their beliefs. Keep in mind that Christianity is from God and religion is from man. If I truly loved someone their religion would not matter to me.
2006-10-21 07:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not change my "religion". Christianity, first of all is not a religion, but a relationship with God through the Lord Jesus Christ, I would date them, perhaps, depending on the circumstances and what their beliefs were, (maybe the Lord led them to me to share my faith), and see if they were sincerely searching for God. If they were, I would wait until they were Christian before marrying them. I'm speaking from experience, because I got saved after I was married, and my husband is not yet a believer, however, he is a wonderful man who has an open heart, who I feel is searching for the truth, We have no conflict in our marriage. I adore him, and he treats me like a queen.
2006-10-21 07:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in this situation, I love a Muslim and I don't believe in any religion. I don't convert, because it wouldn't be honest, it would just be pretending to believe in his religion and saying creeds without true belief, it would be lying. It is not because I think Islam was a terrible religion and all this, but I simply don't believe in it, esp. I can't believe in the concept that there are prophets and relevations. I have studied it quite a lot, but my thinking is different.
I know he would be very happy if I believed in it, but I don't and I can't lie to him and I share everything openly with him that is in my heart, and he also doesn't want me to convert just for doing him a favor and not because of my true belief.
2006-10-21 07:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Elly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would not (this answer has actually ended one relationship for me about three years ago) for three reasons.
1. If the other person is so intolerant of my religious beliefs (or lack thereof) that they cannot allow me this small degree of autonomy, I cannot imagine spending the rest of my life with them.
2. I would not be able to offer a true conversion, it would be a conversion in name only.
3. Either consciously or unconsciously, my significant other would never be able to trust me, (knowing that I was willing to lie about something as personal and defining as my beliefs to get what I wanted).
2006-10-21 07:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Murph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not change my faith.
Only faith that is untrue can waver...and therefore not faith. If one is religious in order to belong to a certain group or to identify oneself in a certain way, then it is just being part of a club. If one's heart, mind, and soul have been transformed via the acceptance of salvation offered through the Son of God, this is a whole other matter entirely.
Jesus owns my life. Period. There is no way that I can deny this.
So, to answer your question, absolutely not.
Then again, I would not fall in love with someone who didn't know Christ. It is impossible. This may sound extreme to you...but if you know Christ, you know what I mean.
2006-10-21 07:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he asked me to convert, then that means (to me, at least) that he doesn't think much of me as a person. That he doesn't respect my beliefs. I am in love with a person with religion, and his mom is trying to convert me, but he isn't. There are plenty of ways to get married without a church...
At any rate, I don't try to make him see the obvious problems with his bible, and he grudgingly respects my disbelief. It's simply not something we talk about - we agree to disagree on it. I don't seek friends or lovers based soley on their beliefs.
2006-10-21 07:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by ReeRee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making a slight change in beliefs is still difficult if you consider lifestyle, time to attend meetings or whatever. I don't like difficulties in life because there are enough without trying for another one. When you are considering child rearing that would pose other difficulties if you are not joined in purpose and belief. My vote is a no for those reasons.
2006-10-21 07:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not,
The bible expressly says to marry only in the lord ( same faith)
first, If I found my self developing feelings for someone, I would make doulbe effort to not be around them,
I view it as an act of loyality.
I am married now, but I was single for a long time,
and I wanted to get married,
it took me a while, ( and a near freak accident) to meet my wife.
There were women out there looking, but I keep my promise to obey best I can.
2006-10-21 07:06:40 · answer #11 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋