She is 19 and I am 26, but I know she was interested at first and still fancies me. If I told her that she can still have freedom and I wont be a control freek as long as she is loyal would that help?
2006-10-21 06:54:10 · 18 answers · asked by sija_uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of the time when girls say stuff like that its really true for whatever reason. Girls have to be ready to get in the relationship for it to ever happen. I would say that the worse thing you could do is keep pursuing it and let her know that she has you. You need to give her a chase, don't let her know that you are really into her because she won't want you then. Play a little hard to get and she might come around. Trust me, it has worked for me quite a few times.
2006-10-21 06:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Blake H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It's an interesting question, I don't know if I can give you a straight yes or no answer, but I can offer some advice.
At 19 she's still quite young, she probably still wants to experience life , so trying to win her over too hard could have the opposite effect I'm afraid.
If she fancies you, just let nature take its course, just carry on seeing each other ( even if it is only as friends) let her get to know you better and then who knows, maybe a relationship between the two of you will develop naturally !
My husband and I started off as friends, we went with the flow, and a few years later we were married and we're very happy ! There is a few years between us too. He didn't pressurise me in any way, he was my friend and companion at first, and I honestly think that you should do the same. If it's meant to be, it will happen ! You can win her over by simply being patient .
Good luck , hope it works out for you .
2006-10-21 14:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Paris69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to younger chicks, do what you want not what they want. She probably does like you and thinks you are hot, but telling her she still can have her freedom if she dates you shows her you are weak and she can walk all over you. Women don't like that. If you really want to win her over, you need to tell her you think she is hot and would love to really get to know her sometime and if she turns you down on a date. Then walk away! She has to think she is lucky to date you, not the other way around.
Not wanting a relationship is usually bullsh t. It means she doesn't want a relationship with you, even though she thinks highly of you. You have probably shown her that you are way into her, and she is not ready for that. You are showing her your emotional needy side, which a guy shouldn't do until he knows she absolutely wants him.
The only way to win her over is to step back and lose interest in her. It sounds stupid, but that is how girls, and guys for that matter, act. If you come on too strong too soon, it doesn't matter how hot or cool you are. It will make her freak.
2006-10-21 14:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. Find other things to keep you happoy and enjoying life. If she has any sense she'll soon realise what's slipping out of her fingers. Nothing sharpens a woman's mind more than thinking they are about to lose something special. Nothing blunts it quicker than thinking they have it in the bag. Nothing needs telling. You're cracking guy who can get other women. Go have some fun and it's a win-win situation.
2006-10-21 14:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. Yes, you most likely can win her over, but if she's not ready she may end up resenting you after some time. If she's not ready for a relationship she probably has a reason and as hard as it may be I'd try to respect that.
2006-10-21 14:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by bashleyf2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything to her to be honest, because it would come across as desperate and make you look as though you are trying to cling onto her.
Might be better to play it cool as though you're not really bothered by her decision (even if it is killing you inside) and just say, "Fair enough." Then go and find some fun elsewhere. Carry on seeing her though, but be more distant until she decides what she really wants. Don't chase her away by throwing yourself on her, let her come to you if and when she's ready.
2006-10-21 14:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont work..the age difference is too much. Shes 19 and needs to live a few more years and build experience. Trust me
2006-10-21 13:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by fatboyslick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the things u told her was very sweet...just continue to give her time, but, at 19, she may not be ready for quite awhile to get involved in a relationship....as i said, just hang in there and give her time, but, don't waiste ur life trying to hang on to sumone if they don't give u any hope...move on and find sumone whois ready for a relationship...lots of fish in the sea as they say..:)
2006-10-21 14:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Viki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she can't stand you and is using the not ready for a relationship as an excuse.
2006-10-21 13:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sorry but, saying she's not ready for a relationship is a polite way of saying she doesn't want one with you. Don't you want someone who wants very badly to be with you? It's not her.
2006-10-21 14:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋