He is not even hadsome but he has something that makes me smile each and every time I see his face. He has beautiful eyes and his words are rude, I knew him in January and it´s October and I don´t know what to do.
2006-10-21 06:53:38 · 17 answers · asked by Jessica Anne de Oliveira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You look up to him as an authority figure, but he can have NOTHING to do with you in a romantic way. He'd be bounced from his practice in a heartbeat. Sorry.
2006-10-21 06:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Audio God™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called transference, Jessica. You have probably been talking to your shrink about relationship stuff. It is very common and normal that a client will begin to have feelings for a counselor. If your shrink knows how to handle it, it isn't a problem. You will begin to talk to him in a much more personal way and this will help you sort out your feelings about relationships. But if one or the other of you doesn't know how to handle transference, it could cause either or both of you to do things you might regret later. I can't tell you what to do, but I recommend that you remember that you are going for counseling to help you work out mental and emotional strategies, not to fall in love with your therapist. He could get in serious trouble if you get involved in an improper way. So having the feelings that you have is an important and even an expected thing, but getting physical with your therapist is where you need to draw the line.
That's why he's rude- to keep you from getting too attached.
2006-10-21 14:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by anyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is unethical for him to use his power to get in your pants and that will happen if you let it and it looks like that will happen- you and alot of others do it all tiome time so you'll be just another conquest from him and a notch on his bedpost-- sorry but you need someone besides a shrink telling you how you feel for this or that--------
2006-10-21 13:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to fall for the shrink. He listens to your problems and it would be very unprofessional to date him. If you really are worried about your feelings for him switch doctors and request for a female shrink.
2006-10-21 13:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by steve s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's common for a patient to have an infactuation with their shrink.
I know trust is hard but I think it best to move to another shrink.
2006-10-21 13:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yea i think u should run.. its probably just a small crush cuz ppl tend to fall for ppl that they can be open with. in this case ur paying him wut.. by the hour, by the session?? not a good idea.. get a new shrink
2006-10-21 14:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by fewchure/sex_ologist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love having someone listen to you and acknowledge your feelings. It is not uncommon for people to fall in love with their therapists. If you or he act on this, his job is in jeopardy.
2006-10-21 13:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your going to a shrink , theres something definitely wrong with you to began with
2006-10-21 15:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not start a relationship with someone who you are seeking professional help from.
2006-10-21 13:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you shrink about it and he can analyze it. LOL
2006-10-21 13:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋