I've got a boyfriend who I love VERY much and I have been seeing him for 2 years, it's the best relationship I've been in...BUT (there had to be a but...!) there's this other guy who works at my work who I've known for 4 years and I can't get him out of my head- it was love at first site with him, I thought the feelings would go away once I got a bf but they haven't...we had a bit of a thing before I met my current bf, but nothing serious and I don't think that helped matters! I literally think about him ALL the time, he's sooo gorgeous and I actually like going to work cos it means I can see him! I haven't seen him for 5 months tho cos I'v been off work and I'm missing him so much, it hurts but I feel bad cos I wish I felt THIS strongly about my bf...
I always have a laugh when I'm with this guy and he gives me butterflies in my stomach, but he has a girlfriend and he'll never go out with me so I need to stop feeling like this - please help me, it's killing me!
2006-10-21 06:45:34 · 12 answers · asked by Bladette 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel that way, why stay with your boyfriend he will get hurt in the end, just do what you feel is right in your heart, tell this guy you want to be with him, if you are thinking of him constantly you are madly in love with him and need him in your life, go for it, take the plunge, i know i would
2006-10-21 09:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by ball_cathie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a break from ur bf and try talking less to the other guy for 4 weeks....you will figure it out then. Difficult...but could save you loads of regret.
2006-10-21 15:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by abcde_s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, only I haven't known my crush as long. I would suggest just trying to focus on schoolwork, though it's not easy. If this guy didn't have a gf, you could try talking to him. Maybe give him a call or e-mail/IM him and see what he's up to. Maybe he is no longer with her. Good luck!
2006-10-22 23:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow... im really sorry for you.. apparently you seem to be in the same situation as me im pretty much about that kinda desperate too but i guess my case will never be put to rest since i find myself quite a complex individual... yeah.. but about that guy you appear to have butterflies in yer stomach for.. well, i think you're right and so should you.. i mean, just be coherent w/ yerself.. dont be with the guy u dont care about n keep thinking about the other dude in the office! Or someday you'll end screaming his name while in bed with your actual bf!!! Omg thats gonna be hilarious.. hehehe sorry too evasive as an answer.. bottom line is< BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND HOPE TO GOD HE'S GAY :)
2006-10-22 16:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in a same similar situation and my friends are always telling me that i am not being fair to my currant b/f because of the feelings that i have for someone else.
But it is hard because i don't want to loose my currant b/f.
I am just hoping that time will help me with this situation. Maybe you should just allow yourself some time.
good luck girl
2006-10-21 17:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not much to say... he has a gf you have a bf...and i don't think that will happen something between you too if both are in a relationship... you have to be honest with your self and see what future you want with you bf...and if nothing in common break up and wait to see whats happen with your work mate..its you the one who can control your feelings..its not recipe for don't feel like you feel for him if you find one please let me know
2006-10-21 13:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by tenderpinklady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't love your bf or you wouldn't feel like this,try things on your own for a while it's not fair to you bf.
2006-10-21 14:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
beta stay where u r n forget about the other guy cos i just blv its infatuation.the devil u knw s beta that the angel u dont knw
2006-10-21 13:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by ebonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it looks like you still love this guy you will have to make a decision between the both of them - good luck
2006-10-21 13:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should dump your boyfriend and go out with this guy, it isn't fair on your current boyfriend if you love this other guy more than him
2006-10-21 13:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Star dust 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋