never having kids. a good or bad option?

Answer 1

For me, I'd be very sad to not have children.
But if you do not want them 100% you should not have them.

Answer 2

Most people can have children. It's whether you want to be a parent that's the question.

Forget the pressure from family and peers, forget the cute kids on goofy films, forget "keeping up" with your friends. Unless you are Madonna or Brittney, a child is not an accessory. Parenting is an 18-year job contract and should not be entered into lightly.

Ignore the posters who tell you how you should have kids because they can't imagine life without them. That's them, not you. My gut instincts told me that my life and energies were intended to be directed elsewhere, and I was lucky to meet someone I loved who felt exactly the same. I have never regretted my choice. I spend plenty of time with other's children but am always glad to say goodbye.

Not having children is certainly an option but neither good nor bad. It is just an important choice we make.

Answer 3

That depends on your personal values, your own wants and desires. Nobody can say if it is a good or bad option for you to have children. Kids need to be wanted, loved, protected, taught/guided, financially provided for, etc. They also require a lot of your time and you cannot raise them without help from others.

You must have a heart that is willing to give - not only until they reach the age of 18, but as long as you have breath within you. Being a parent is an incredibly wonderful and amazingly terrible thing to be.

Now, is never having kids a good or bad option for YOU?

Answer 4

I absolutley agree, (in personal choice)
if you do not want children then I personally want to thank you for not doing it. There is no reason to bring a child into a world where no one wants them. At least you are smart enough to know that you don't want them. As for the option don't care what others think when you tell them you don't want kids, especially if you get married. Right away people will start asking you when you are going to have kids. It's none of their buisness it's a personal choice. Good for you for knowing what you want

Answer 5

I for one have no human children. but have two beautiful furry 4 legged children who I love very very much. I read on here a few days ago that having pets is nothing like having kids. But they can be seen as a precursor to the real thing and I think that is good practice for someone like me that is one the fence about having children. Children who will bear the rearing I gave to them and that will be around long after I am gone. However, This issue is a hot one for me. Because I am tired of walking around this world and seeing children with babies!!!! what kinda society do we have to live in that think procreation is for everyone. If you want them, make sure YOU can support them and live up to the responsibility. Sorry, I had to vent.

Answer 6

Well I never thought I'd have kids as I had a fertility problem.

In some ways I felt it was good. I had more time and money for myself and was able to do all the things I dreamed about - go back to college, travel, try different careers etc. I also felt I looked and behaved younger than many of the parents I knew of my age (who all seemed to look about 10 years older and talk of nothing but nappies and schools!).

But I always wanted to have a baby because I wanted to know what it was like to be amum.

A miracle happened earlier this year and I got pregnant naturally. Baby is due in 7 weeks time!

I'm really looking forward to my baby (a boy) being here. I have had to give up many of the things I love whilst pregnant (plus work as I'l been really ill with pregnancy sickness) and as a result we're struggling for money right now but I'm sure it'll be worth it. I hope to be able to get back to work and some of my hobbies/passions after baby is born, time, energy and childcare permitting!

I feel in some ways you have more rights and are treated with more respect if youi have children. At least in the UK. Lets face it, its easier for a single mum to get a council house than a single woman on her own!!!

There will be sacrifices but I'm sure they'll be worth it for my little man!

Answer 7

It really depends on your lifestyle and your personality. Some people just make better Aunts and Uncles than parents. There is nothing wrong with that. I cannot imagine not having children and I look forward to years down the road when I have grandchildren. They light up your home and your life, carry on the lineage of your family, are a blessing from God, and a perfect blend of you and your partner. Some people have very busy careers and social lives or they like to travel or feel they aren't cut out to be parents. Some want to wait until they feel ready- after time has passed they realize they are happy with their life the way it is. As long as you make the choice you are really happy with and not what someone else wants you to be happy with- whatever choice you make is the right one.

Answer 8

it all depends on you and the other half if one does but the other doesn't it will always cause a rift between you, money is a major option for they do cost a lot, the freedom u are use to will be lost, but the memories you and happiness you get when you have children, to me is worth more then anything else in the world.... each and everyone is different and only u can decide what will be best for you but what ever road you take i hope it makes u happy.

Answer 9

sometimes it's not a matter of choice unfortunately. I was told 9 years ago that i would never have children due to a medical condition. there's nothing worse than being told that you can't perform the most basic function you're put on this earth to do. After several years of feeling sorry for myself I decided that it had to stop and i had to get on with my life - perhaps I would have been a bad mother anyway. Now I have freedom, lots of sleep and no stretch marks!

Answer 10

that question depends apon your lifestyle and what you want your life to be like for example if you are committed to all work and travel and making decisions for activites at the drop of a hat and you arent settled down yet then no you shouldnt have kids and thats your choice as long as you are happy with it. i had my first child when i was 21 do i regret it no do i wish i had waited till i was at least 30 yes there were alot of things i missed out on going back to school for a new degree, travelling, vacationing in cancun for a week etc. after i had my first child i had made up my mind that she was all that i wanted i was happy and content with that but 5 years later i had my son. oops!!!! well i am finished so if you dont want to have kids i think its a good option for you if you dont want them thats your choice and i hope it makes you happy.

Answer 11

Hi!

Never having kids would mean that your bank balance will ALWAYS be in the black and you'll have TONS of time to yourself.

Having kids means that you can expect to never have any spare money and your every waking (not to mention sleeping) hour will be consumed by your thoughts of your kids.

We were married for ten years before we had children - our choice. Then we decided we wanted children and have never looked back.

Be prepared never to have a life of your own again - it's GREAT!!

Kids are worth far more than an in credit bank balance, and anyway your 'love' account will always be millions in the black!!

I know that sounds corny - but it's true!!