if your daughter/son died at a young age (13), what would you do with thier possesions?
give them to her/his best friend?
keep them?
sell them?
2006-10-21 05:52:27 · 23 answers · asked by saveitforthemoshpit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry for your loss...
Depends on the time that has passed.
If it's recent, keep everything. It's normal to want to get rid of everything because of the pain. You will later want to look back on things for the memories.
Later, after some time has passed, it's ok to start giving things away.
2006-10-21 05:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child had a will, what would he have done? Memories are precious and keep someone alive. Give what you want for the closure, e.g., a baseball glove to Alec the best friend, and keep those that make you love all over again.
Possessions will only be valued by the people who know the owner and therefore the memories of those possessions will keep the child alive and living in each of the people who have made a difference and to whom he or she has meant something.
We are only here for a fleeting moment, and in every moment is a memory.
The dearly departed have moved on, and so must we.
2006-10-21 06:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by stadian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick out some special things, that I know he / she played with while with friends, and offer them to the friends. I would also keep a few special things for myself, give some to any siblings, grandparents, anyone who was a part of his / her life. The clothing, if it couldn't be passed down to other kids I knew, I would give to a charity group that does NOT sell them for profit.
2006-10-21 05:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a hard thing to have to go thru. I haven't lost a child, but if I ever did I would have the hardest time letting go of anything. My father passed away in almost 13 years ago and I still have some of his shirts and sleep with his pillow...so I know in my heart that I wouldn't bear to part with anything.
2006-10-21 06:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this horrible thing has happened to you or some one you love, I hope you find peace. That said, I feel you should keep what is meaning full to you and let the friends of the child choose what they would like as a keep sake to remember the life of their friend.
2006-10-21 06:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by sunkissed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take his best friends aside and ask them if there was something they would like but also that if it was to special I would like to keep it my self - or select a few items that they may choose from and let them do it that way but the rest I would pack up and keep till I could handle it.
2006-10-21 21:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very personal question, since it depends on the parents feelings...
How long ago did the child passed away?
Do you want to remember your child?
Are you ready to move on?
Are there other siblings that need your attention?
These are a few of the questions that must be answered before making the decision of what to with your child's belongings.
I hope this helps you.
(I am sorry for your loss)
Best Regards,
Don
2006-10-21 05:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by djvargas1255 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine loosing one of my children. I may keep somethings that he wore often, or really loved. Maybe even frame one of the pictures he drew for me. I would make sure his friends got a momento of him too. Then I think I may give the rest to a children's charity. But I could never sell any of them.
2006-10-22 06:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say hold on to them until your ready to let go. Sometimes that could take months or it could take years. Either way it goes it's on your time. Once you get there and your ready to deal with it. I'd say let whomever would like something to remember him/her by let them come get 1 or maybe 2 items and whatever left sale it and use the money to put a beautiful plant or small bush at his/her grave site.
2006-10-21 06:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few sentimental items I would keep. Then have my kids friends go throw the remainders and see if any of them wanted anything, then last I would give what ever is left to charity. (salvation army)
2006-10-21 05:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by Little_Lilth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋