it is something that happened personally to me as I am finding hard to deal with in the short term
2006-10-21 05:51:04 · 25 answers · asked by sexy_hot_relaxed 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ask yourself: What do I know for sure? That life is ever changing and I will survive! I have survived other changes in my life and will survive this!
After the initial shock you will go thru a grieving process.
How have you dealt with other unanticipated changes in your life?
Are you mourning for the future? Your idea of the future?
Emotionally you will be processing the grief in your way. There is no right or wrong.
However you adjust to the change is up to you.
Often we may experience shock and disbelief or confusion (why did this happen?), because we feel that certain things in our lives are permanent?
And we are sad over the loss of the future. How do we know that our future will be bad after this change?
Spinning around in confusion over why this happened is just that spinning, you may never know why.
Eventually you want to be able to view this change in your life as an opportunity.
Opportunity to explore yourself and the “why’s” in life can be part of the grieving process, part of the growing process.
2006-10-21 06:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by redpocket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Movies and ice cream. I'm not saying this to be cute, I'm serious, and it has to be the right movie for the right situation:
For a death in the family: Hitch
For being fired: Lord of the Rings
For a break up: the Shining
For possibility of having to move suddenly: Diary of Bridget Jones
Finding out something drastic about your family or a family member: Diary of a Mad Black Woman
Also, the ice cream is just as important, I find that fudgsicles are best for most situations but then there are those occasions when nothing else will do except a pint of hagen daaz vanilla and chocolate syrup. now if your a salt person then I would recommend a steady diet of microwave popcorn and soda.
2006-10-21 06:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by ts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Shock" is a pretty strong word. If this unfortunate experience was traumatic then counseling will help. If it something fairly simple, like a surprise reject from a friend or b/f then get on with your life. Go out with your friends, take a vacation somewhere you have been wanting to go but just didn't find the time to do it before. Go to the Mall and shop 'till you drop. Lots of things you can do to get over something simple. But traumatic is another story. If you don't have proper counseling and therapy, by holding it inside, creates deeper problems. If you feel you don't need professional concealing, at least confide in a close friend or mentor. Talking it out is a great healing tool. If this don't work then seek professional help.
2006-10-21 06:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I second the advice to take Bach Rescue Remedy. Its great stuff and will help without your realising its doing it.
Aside from that, my best advice is for you to talk about it. It is possible that you will be able to find some perspective about what happened to you that enables you to deal with it - and the consequences and after-effects of it - more easily. However, don't talk to just anyone about it, choose a trusted friend who will be sympathetic and supportive, or a group of friends who will react the same way. If you are truly alone in this world and without friends like this, then this is why the organisation Samaritans was founded. Call them and you'll find a sympathetic ear that will let you talk it all out without being judgemental of you.
Don't keep it all in - it will cause you problems in the long run.
2006-10-21 06:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by PoshPaws 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for whatever the shock was but remember there are other people out there with a lot more problems.
On a practical note speak to your friends about hat you are going through. Talk realy does help keep occupied and try and turn the negative situation into a positive one.
without full information it's difficult to offer any other advice.
if you want to chat away from here just drop me a line and I will help if i can I am a Spiriual Medium so maybe I can link with you
Take care and I hop you find peace
Jeff x
2006-10-21 06:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
two things:
Rescue Remedy is a Bach Flower Essence that you can get at a health food store and it works for trauma or high stress.
EFT is a technique you can learn (At least the basics) that has worked for many for many different emotional and physical issues including traumatic memories or events. It is based off of the energy of the body. I've used it for different things and when it works it works fast! You can go to www.emofree.com and learn it there. There is a free manual you can download. www.mercola.com also has some pictures you can follow, but emofree should do it. If that doesn't help you there are some trained EFT practicioners out there. Check it out! It's awesome!
2006-10-21 05:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some friends and talk it out. Big emotions are like giant waves crashing on the beach. They can drag you under if you try to fight them alone. But if someone holds onto your hand, they can't take you.
Remember that even the worst of times pass. In the beginning, they seem so big that they will take over our lives, but they don't. There is a beginning, middle and end to everything. Use the people that love you to help the time pass until whatever happened to you loses its power.
Good luck to you and take care of yourself.
2006-10-21 05:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
going through shock is horrible. i was in a car accident 2 and a half years ago and went into shock in front of the police. it`s ok it does wear off fairly quickly. mind u i guess it depends wot u went through. my shock started wen i was told that if i`d been another 20 yards in front of where the accident actually happened i probably wouldn`t of survived. if it`s really that bad go and see ur doctor and ask to be referred to someone that can deal wiv trauma`s. also try talking to friends or family. it does help to talk about it. i hope this helps u and good luck in ur future
2006-10-21 07:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what is the problem..and hard to tell you really...but when I am exposed to something shocking...personally I pray like heck for the Lord to handle it for me...and thank Him for being in my life and assuring me that I will get through it..through His Son, Jesus...just give it to the Lord..
2006-10-21 06:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Talk about it with people you trust and are good listeners;
2. Do something else that will make your mind find a different focus.
2006-10-21 10:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by todaywiserthanyesterday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋