Me and my brother have always been there for eachother, I am sad help me...?
my brother is my only family member who I ever could rely on. His new girlfriend has stolen from me ALOT and from my boyfriends family at family gatherings. I told him I did not want anything to do with her anymore. Enough is enough! I think she is cheating on him and doing drugs behind his back also. Confirmed to me by her sister. My bro doesnt believe until he sees. I don't know how to get him away from her. She is destroying my heart and his what do I do? I have cried so much about it. I miss my brother, and would love to set the ***** up to get caught. Only that will hurt him too. Help me...I'm sad
2006-10-21 05:24:11 · 9 answers · asked by determined26a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately you have done all you can. You have warned your brother about this woman, and he doesn't want to hear it. (love is often blind) Don't push the issue, anything you do beyond this point will only further aggrivate him and push him away.
Just let him know, it's him you care about and don't want to see him hurt, you're just looking out for him. He will prob respond with : "I'm a big boy" - and he's right. They are his decisions to make good or bad and you can't change that or make him change his mind if he doesn't want to. Time has a way of bringing things out into the open - have you ever known of someone that could do drugs anc cheat forever and never ever have a hint of it exposed? Me either.
If you set her up and your brother finds out about it, it won't be her he blames, you know who it will be? You guessed it, you.
Tell the girl, you know what she is doing and you don't like it. But you are going to put up with her for your brother. Then nuff said. Sit back, and let time take its toll, which it will believe me.
When things crash be there for him, and don't say I told ya so, he'll already know....
Goodluck! Sometimes the worst lessons ppl have to learn are on their own and the hard way. But take my word for it, lessons learned that way, are often taught better, and less easily forgotten.
Hugs!
2006-10-21 05:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. We all know what it is like to have someone we love be blinded by shiny stuff. Let your brother know that you love him. Unfortunately, You can't get him away from her. Only he can. Don't lower yourself to her level. The more you insist that he drop her, the more he will insist on keeping her. Believe me, I know it is hard to watch a loved one be dragged down. Sometimes you just have to walk away, but be there when your brother comes to his senses. Remind him you are always on his side. The bottom line is that you need to make it so that your brother feels good about doing what you are asking. Ask him to spend time alone with you, and build your relationship with him. And resolve not to nag him---he knows, and needs to see what you are saying for himself, instead of wanting to defend her. I hope something I have said helps. I will pray for you. Sometimes letting go and letting a higher power take care of things is the best thing, too.
2006-10-21 05:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by M H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if your brother won't believe you or anyone else.. then there is NOTHING you can do. You will only push him away and into her arms more. Continue to be there for him. Don't lie to him if you know something but try to stand back a little. HE WILL FIND OUT on his own...it's a matter of time. If you continue pushing, he won't want you around. It's hard but it will work out eventually. God has a funny way of working.
2006-10-21 05:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love you and your brother have will last. Don't be in such a hurry to discredit this girl. He will blame you if you do. He will find out in his own time and you will be there for him when it happens.
Are you sure you wouldn't feel this way about any girl he has, if the two of you are that close. Because any girlfriend he has, is going to want to come first in his life - not after his sister. That may be hard for you to deal with.
2006-10-21 05:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to allow your brother to find out what this girl is all about all on his own. other wise you are just going to push them closer together and the two of you further apart. i know that you miss him and i know that it is hard. but you did not lose him he is still your brother.give it time he will see what she is about, and in the mean time don't tell him that you want nothing to do with her or him. that's being childish on your part.
2006-10-21 05:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it and he will see for himself. If you keep attacking her it's only gonna make him draw closer to her. What's done in the dark will come to the light. Just be there when his heart gets crushed and please don't tell him "I told you so" cause he's going to need all of your support. He's going to beat himself up enough for not being able to see what everyone else has been seeing. Good Luck & GOD SPEED!!!!!!!
2006-10-21 05:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sad.
I think you will eventually have to expose her to your brother for who she really is.
Yes, he will hate you for it, and probably for a while, but if you really love him, that's what you should do. It will be better for all of you if that girl was never in your life any longer.
2006-10-21 05:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Patty_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set the trap but only if you know for fact that they will never know you were a part of it. try to not talk about her to your bro.that will just make him more distant. he has to learn on his own---or maybe by----video...........sh
2006-10-21 05:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR BROTHER KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HIM, THAT ***** IS SOMTHING ELSE, WIHP HER ***
2006-10-21 05:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by lesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋