My grandparents say I'm fat...they're like trainers or something. They call me fat right in front of me!! And it really hurts my feelings...and the kids at schol call me fat and ugly. I think I'm beautiful....from the the inside out. So does my boyfriend.(which I luv to death) I weigh about 89 pounds....middle school. Am I fat?? And what should I do?
2006-10-21 05:21:49 · 27 answers · asked by J.D. 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
How tall are you? Middle school, 89 pounds? The chances of you being fat at 89 pounds in middle school are small. I won't say anything about your grandparents because I don't have something nice to say and they are your grandparents. The kids at school? Bunch of jerks.
This body image concern is extremely important and shouldn't be addressed lightly. The last thing you need to do is become an anorexic or bulemic over this.
Let's not even address how many pounds are the right number. Let's take a different approach.
1. Eat healthy foods prepared in a healthy way and don't overeat.
2. Make The Healthy Triad part of your daily routine: Flexibility exercises, like Yoga or just plain old stretches; Cardiovascular exercises like walking, jogging, or bike riding; and strength training like weight lifting.
Practice this regimen routinely and your body will find it's healthy weight.
Good luck.
2006-10-21 05:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell you without your height... but keep in mind:
You're still growing!! So things are coming into proportion the way they're supposed to be. Give it time.
http://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/dnpa/bmi/childrens_BMI/about_childrens_BMI.htm#How%20is%20BMI%20calculated
http://apps.nccd.cdc.gov/dnpabmi/Calculator.aspx
Read the info in the first link. It will help you understand about BMI. The second will take you to a BMI (body mass index) calculator especially for children and teens. This should give you an idea- but remember- these calculators do not measure body fat vs. muscle percentage. (For example: a bodybuilder would have a relatively high BMI because they weigh so much.)
What you should do, is tell your grandparents that it really hurts when they say this to you. Tell them it only hinders your ability to change into the person that *you* want to be. Tell them that they need to accept you the way you are, because it's who you are and not what you look like that should matter. If they can't do this for you- try to limit your contact with them the best you can *if* this is the only treament you recieve. Sometimes real family are not the people you share blood with.
You already know you're beautiful, so there's really nothing you should be worried about. Just let it roll off your shoulders, and avoid it when you can.
2006-10-21 05:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by punchy333 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your grandparents are not really taking into consideration that you are STILL in your growing years where your weight will go up and down as you gain height...I do not think from what you have told here that you are over weight...the main thing to rember is you know you are ok and you are happy with yourself...as to the kids at school ignore them...kids at this age can be very mean because they are immature and are following whatever the crowd is doing... in this targeting you for something to make fun of...I know it is hard but try to ignore it...it doesn't mean anything certainly doesn't mean you are fat!....the best way to handle it is how do you feel... talk to someone about it don't keep it all(negative feelings) bottled up talk to a older person...adult...like your mom...or a favorite aunt....likely they went through this kind of thing when they were your age and will understand where you are comming from...I know I did.....If you are conserned about your weight... just try to eat less of the fried foods and junk food... choosing healthier foods instead...and you will be fine....and rember there is all kinds of Beauty...and it isnt necessarly what everyone else is doing....You hang in there...you will be fine....
Blessed Be!
2006-10-21 21:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, your grandparents are idiots. Tell them that you don't appreciate their comments. If you think you are beautiful and are happy with the way you are than that's all that matters. Screw everybody else. If you are in middle school, you really shouldn't be concerned about your weight either, you're still growing. But, if you are worried about your health, start trying to eat healthier. Incorporate green vegetables and fruits for snacks and try incorporating more physical activities into your day. You are as beautiful as you feel.
2006-10-21 05:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
89 lbs and how tall? What does your physician say? I have to wonder if your grandparent know that you will outgrow any baby fat you have. I would tell them it hurts your feelings. Ignore the bs at school, kids are mean and hurtful. Besides if you like who you are and are comfortable with that who cares what others think?
2006-10-21 05:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how tall you are. you can check your BMI at special k . com....go to the free etools, and poke the bmi calculator....i went through the same thing, and ended up losing too much weight, so i advise you to just keep eating healthy foods, since you are still growing, and then, if you need to, worry about it when you get to be about 18 or 19. and i think you should tell your grandparents how you feel! and just because people say you are fat, doesnt mean you are. as long as you are happy with yourself, than nothing else should matter. good luck!
2006-10-21 06:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by lardball777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your grandparents probably stay at home watching countless amounts of superficial soap opera's and reality tv that demand women to be slim and stick thin.you're not fat,trust me.grandparents are like that,even mine,they say things but not out of cruel intention-next time they say it don't bother cos' they don't really mean it and noone can hurt you without your consent.middle school students don't know anything about inner beauty,its all about peer pressure and trying to control yourself,building you self esteem as defense against growing pressure.
so,no,no matter how big or small you get,its up to you to either love or loathe what you see in the mirror
2006-10-21 05:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still growing so dont let it worry you to much right now. yr grandparents shouldnt say these things as these are the ppl that we should be looking up to and respecting not doubting and being hurt by. tell them how it hurts you so much. check out the BMI on this site
2006-10-21 05:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by intrigue_ m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your parents about what the grandparents are saying to you. Your parents can also help you deal with the kids at school by encouraging you to maybe talk to the school counselor about how the other kids are treating you.
2006-10-21 05:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by willowrose24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you weigh 89 pounds??? that is really skinny for a middle school-er. i thik you are just being too body concious, because from what i can tell, you are not fat at all.
2006-10-21 05:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by aah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋