How do i get over my gf??

Question

I found out that my gf of 8 years cheated on me and when i confronted her she broke up with me and told me to never call her again.. I am deeply in love with her.. How can i get over her and live without talking to her? I can't focus on work, cant enjoy my personal life or interact with family.. I cant forget about her.. I only time I dont think about her is when I am Drunk..

Answer 1

My best advice is just let it alone if she cheated on you she isn't worth the time it was good while it lasted and just remember the good times you had and not dwell on it sooner then later you will be happier and be able to move on you just have to be strong

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are hurting right now. A break up is one of the hardest things to accept besides death of a loved one. You need to do several things to recover and make sure that this doesn't have any likely hood of happening again. First, don't drink. It won't fix anything and the longer you take to deal with your feelings the longer you will be in love with her. I know it may sound like a sissy move but have a good cry and tell yourself how hurt you are and what she did. Then ask yourself where you went wrong? After you cry get angry and remove all of the things that remind you of her (within reason) don' t destroy them just put them out of sight. Second, involve yourself in new things. Spend time with friends, get in some extra hours at work, go see grandma. Just something to occupy your time. After a few months the pain will start to lessen when you come to the realization that it wasn't meant to be and you can do so much better. It would be good if you don't date seriously until after you are really over her. Finally, always remember never to put 100% of your trust in any human. People are always going to let you down. Don't be a doormat be a man. Never give control to a woman. We don't like to keep men we can control, we like to cheat on them with the man that will tell us no and gives us boundaries because it is sexy as hell to be with a man that always takes charge. Next time know that everyone is capable of cheating just look for the signs.

Answer 3

If she cheated, she was bored and wanted some other excitement in her life besides you. Anyone who is as obsessed with this girl as you are will never get her back. Women don't like obsessive people. Get your dignity back. Find some other interest besides this girl or any other girl that will take your mind off "love." You need to restore your self esteem and you dont do this by obsessing over a lost love and you dont rebound. There are too many other people in the world to spend your time loving one that doesnt love back. You might want to seek some counseling until you are over the initial hurt. Don't feel deballed, plenty of people cheat, they just dont get caught. Alcohol just makes you relive what "used" to be. Alcohol does not help you live in the now. You are depressed and alcohol makes depression worse. Alcohol also helps you "rehearse" all the things that you want to say to her and the outcome will always be in your favor....until you try out your rehearsal in real life. The script changes.

Answer 4

it's a game, let the games begin...1st don't call her anymore, leave her alone. she probably is having affair & it's a waiting game. she will realize that u are better for her, because it's a trial date...8yrs, she can't forget that & she's probably telling him all the problems about you...and this romeo is going do whatever it takes to have sex w/ her. then he'll leave her & knowing that u will always take her back, has a spare. it's not over @ all. play the game back, no calling her her friends, pretend ur always busy when she calls back, try to better urself, get new clothes, go hang out w/ friends, but don't stay home staring at the ceiling. u will be burning holes up there. 8yrs-if was meant to be she will come back, if not let it go! better 2 feel pain now & experience it now. it will make u stronger & not care what any girl does to u. girls seem 2 come to u, instead of looking 4 them, you'll see. if u really want her back & if she cares about you. she will call u from time to time to see what ur doing as a friend, but in disguise, wanting to what your doing. so be strong!!! play the game ignore her. wait till she begs her way back.

Answer 5

Time... thats really the only thing that will help. I think drinking can help, as long as you do it with friends... dont drink alone. The most important thing to do is build memories that dont include her. Every aspect of your life over the past 8 yrs probably had her involved. Now you need to be able to look back on something that dosent include her. Travel, Concerts, Parties, get a Dog, spend time with family... just move forward and make good memories that you will be able to share with your next girlfriend... good luck

Answer 6

First, you are totally on a wrong path - getting drunk to forget an ungrateful person who dumped you!

Be brave to face the challenge and mingle freely and spend more time with your other friends around! With more such activities, you should be able to evaluate your goals afresh and sooner or later you will end up finding another girlfriend! However, make sure you are not unreasonably devoted to her - always maintain a balance in your relationship!

Answer 7

It sound to me that you didn't get proper closure and in such a relationship going bad it is necessary to get closure. You have been together for a long time and that entitles you to at least a good explanation.

Then you will be able to move on, I'm not saying its going to be easy but the faster you get it over with the faster you can move on and find someone even better.

PS # You are only hurting yourself when you get drunk for that, by drinking you are not dealing with the problem you are only creating more problems.

Deal with your problems hun, that's the only way you can move on.

Answer 8

not that you are, but please do not turn to alcohol as an answer for your pain. it seems like everyone has that one really bad relationship during their lifetime. i think you just had yours. instead of focusing on all the other stuff, you should be thinking about what she did to you. she obviously had no respect for you to do something like this. she completely disregarded your feelings and not to mention your health is she was sleeping with someone else. it is a good thing that you are rid of her. sometimes no matter how much you love a person, you can't make them love you back. nor do you have enough love for the two of you to hold the relationship together. with things like this, usually time is the only true healer of the heart.

Answer 9

i feel you . some thing similar happen to me. i became an alcoholic for 2 week and it helped but not for 2 long. talk to people go out keep your self busy. and talk to people about it it helps you for some reason, sometimes you need some one to talk to but what really helps is time . you seem like a nice guy and you shouldn't be sad for some like that , shes really not worth a tear drop.she soon will realize what she had .and who knows maybe by then. you might not even want her back .

Answer 10

If she cheated I would want to be over her real quick,find another girl and move on the hurt and anger will so be gone if you find another decent girl.Don't just go by looks,find a good hearted girl.