How do I feel better about myself........?

Question

My boyfriend said that he just wanted to get to know me BETTER .......than he already does. I feel like i have done some thing wrong what should i do to not feel like a pile of $hit?

Answer 1

I'm not sure why you're feeling so bad about yourself?
But whatever it is, don't! I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you and if he is complaining, it's probably his own issue...

and John- are you just going around all the questions sticking the same answer over and over again? what's the point?

Answer 2

A few times in a person's lifetime, they get confused or really tense. Your boyfriend's probably just really having a hard time in his life or maybe he's just stressed and he's lost. He doesn't always know what he's saying or maybe he does, because he wants to get a hold of his emotions; he just wants reassurance that you're still in love with him.

The best thing to do is treat yourself first though. Go and take a massage or spa or whatever you do for relaxation. Don't even think about your boyfriend but yourself; but try to keep the thoughts to just what can you do better to clam your nerves. Go out with friends if you have to, because it will take your mind off of him for a bit so that you can have a better understanding of yourself before trying to piece together the impossible puzzle of love now.

Exercising can help, [first it's a grueling ordeal but after, you'll feel as is you've just been through Hollywood or something like that] it will boost up your confidence by giving you a better lifestyle and better complexion and figure. And make sure you eat though [when you feel depressed, it's the worst to not eat].

And after all that thinking about yourself in a bad way, just tell yourself, 'oh well.' Just forget what depression or melancholy you've felt and put it in the past. Because it's not going to come back unless you really hold onto it.

Then after that, call up your man and do what you two like to do best.

I think he wants to know the real you or maybe he just wants to know something he has always known from you; your love. Dress comfortably and just relax the whole time. You'll mess things up or say the wrong things if you're tense.

Really, all you have to do is say the three words and really mean it.

Answer 3

Listen careful and save yourself some grief............You do not need him if his need to know you "better" makes you feel like he's done something wrong. What you need to ftell him is that you want to know HIM better, and not in a physical way, before he deserves to know you better. ALWAYS be true to yourself, you'll have plenty of boyfriends b4 you settle down. Never do anything you might regret in your future

Answer 4

First of all it's important to realize and respect the differences in people; including yourself. Secondly as far as your boyfriend is concerned,I do not know your ages but sometimes when a male says he wants to know you better, it means he wants sex.

Answer 5

If everyone in the world lived by the golden rule(treat people the way you would like to be treated)(do unto others as you would like done to yourself) what a great world this would be.

Answer 6

Not sure why you get upset when he wants to get to know you better. Maybe he is trying to see why you feel so bad about yourself. maybe he feels you are holding something back from him. Are you completely open and honest with him? If not maybe that is what he wants. Or maybe he wants the relationship to go to a deeper level. Maybe he is falling in love with you and he wants to be sure that you are the person he thinks you are. I once fell in love with a man, he was charming, polite and great. I later found out that it was all a fake persona that he learned to put on. He was projecting to be a person that he thought he shouldbe or a person that others wanted him to be. The real character of who he was...was not anything like the role he played. He worked for hos Dads beer distributor and he learned how to play the BS business role. He had charm but that was fake. He was actually a miserable person who set out to destroy women. He really hated women but no-one that never got intimate with him would have ever known that. He was desired by many women. He was handsome, sweet etc. I found many other women he dated and we got to be friends and we all found hgim out to be the same. He was a fake. We all fell in love with the role he played...but later when his true character came out then we realized we fell in love with a man that never existed. The man we loved was not a man at all...it was a role...designed to suck us in. He continues to charm in public, he plays quite a believeable role, if you met him...you would adore him....but if you ever got close to him and discovered the real man he was...you would not have the same feelings. So, I think it is really important to know the person on a deep, genuine level before falling to deep in love. I never fell for personality after that. I learned a valuable lesson. Poeple can be fake. Look beyond the personna. Don't fall for looks or personality. Get to know the person...really know them...get to see if they are who they pretend to be.
Last point, people can't make you feel like anything unless you give them permission to do so. You feel by what you believe. If you feel bad then you believe your bad. You must examine why you feel bad. Soul search. Get your baggage cleaned out. You can't be in a good relationship unless you are complete and happy within yourself. best of success. You deserve to be genuinely happy and so does your BF. Be open and honest. Trust and love.

Answer 7

first find a new boyfriend and if you have any money go spend some on your self,you know buy some new clothes, a new hair do,things like that

Answer 8

Get over it, maybe hes right maybe ya'll moved into the relationship to fast and he wants to take his time. Only time can tell