the love of my life and i broke up about 8 months ago because she was tired of the fighting. she got a new boyfriend and we didnt talk for months. then we started talking again and she tells me all the time that she still loves me and everything. talks about us having a future all the time but when its time to get serious about it she always says she dont know what she wants. she stays at my house all the time and lies to him about us. we dont do anything sexual just hang out and have fun. but in the end its just mind games to me and its tearing me apart. what should i do i dnt want to lose her
2006-10-21 04:41:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats rough........you're now the 'other man'.
Next time she wants to come hang out, tell her that you are unavailable, that you are going out a date. Have a bit of a story but don't give away too much information. Tell her that since she is with the other guy as well as seeing you, it is only fair that you explore your options. Be sure to leave your house that night because she will drive by looking for you. Go to a movie by yourself. When she asks what went on tell her a few details about the movie and the 'date' but not too much. Say you feel uncomfortable discussing this with her and you would rather keep this private.
I'm sorry, but the love of your life is a spoiled brat and wants it all. It's up to you how much she gets away with. If she really loved you would she torture you like this? When you feel yourself start to weaken, think about her having sex with this guy while she refuses you.
2006-10-21 04:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by kitty-mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one because I can feel how much you love her but, she's playing both you and her current boyfriend. You need to give her an ultimatum soon. Tell her it's you or him and if she doesn't choose you right away then sadly, it's time to leave her and move on. Staying would just mean more heartache. Also, she could be on an ego trip, having two guys fawning over her.
2006-10-21 04:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't want to lose her, sit down with her one day and have a heart to heart discussion spanning all aspects including her other contact. You place all you conditions before her and let her choose. If she is prepared to stop toying and get serious with you, fine, otherwise just tell her to buzz off.
2006-10-21 04:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over her she's using you! It'll be all right get out in the world meet new people! Been there done that! My bf who i thought i wanted to spend the rest of my life with cheated on me and didn't tell me. I left him and got over him! Now i am with the best guy ever!!!
2006-10-21 04:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by crazedrumr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to sit down and have a serious talk either work through this or move on. Why put your life on hold for someone who don't know
2006-10-21 04:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth do you mean, "I don't want to lose her"? You ain't got her. HE'S got her. She's not the love of your life. She's the addiction of your life.
Here's the thing. Think about how lucky you are to NOT have someone who's as screwed up, cheating, and sneaky as she is as a wife. Could you trust her? No!! Could you rely on her? H___ no!! Tell yourself how lucky you are to not "have" her. THAT's the truth.
2006-10-21 05:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is already saying that she prefers to be with you
she is playing mind games with her new boyfriend --- she is cheating on him --- even if no sex is involved
talk to her and clear the air
2006-10-21 05:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to lose her? Why?
2006-10-21 04:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you don't want to lose her
2006-10-21 04:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by dancing_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋