I was with my boyfriend for 6 months. He talked about the future, told me he loved me constantly, and called me all the time. Out of nowhere he started pulling away and the phone calls stopped. He told me that he has been too busy with work and cannot give me the time it require to have a relationship. He said he realized he is not ready and does not want to be under the control of someone. He said "I'm not saying this is the end but I cannot do this right now". He told me that there is no other girl and that is not the reason. What does this sound like? I have been crying every day and unable to function.
2006-10-21 04:31:09 · 11 answers · asked by italiana2683 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a Drama Queen! I've seen this same crap a few times!
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2006-10-21 04:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is busy and dosent' think that it would be fair to you to keep you hanging on waiting for so long. So he has given you the opportunity to bail out and go find someone and that he wouldn't be upset if you did. If your crying you should be crying because you had a boyfriend that was so respectful of you and you don't get that very often. And besides he said it wasn't the end and there was no one else. So stop crying and respect him and give him a call once in a while to see how he is doing to let him know that your still around. Or you can call it quits and go find someone else. Either way you are not with him right now and it is very respectful how he went about it
2006-10-21 11:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living the life I was with my boyfriend. I broke it off with him. We had an on and off relationship for a year and 6 months. It was horrible, but I loved him and I was going to stick by him no matter what troubles he was going through. Later it just got to the point where I finally realized that something had to going on and it wasn't just the issues he was having. He said he didn't have time to talk to me, even if we saw each other everyday. Well one day after he told me that, I saw him laughing and talk with his friends. He saw me looking at him, then he stopped and walked off. You can only take so much and when you get tired of it, you'll leave. The choice is up to you, because even if I do give you the advice, it's your choice if you want to listen to me. Follow your instincts. I followed mine and found him with another girl a day after I broke it off.
2006-10-21 11:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be scared and this "under control of someone" thats a bit of a worry --- where is that coming from
no one is ready for a relationship -- you make it up as you go along
it sounds like he is trying to let you down easy
time will heal the wounds and you will move on
2006-10-21 11:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a male point of view I would say he is seeing someone else and is trying to fool you. You need to tell him that it is over forever. I know it sucks and having your heart broke nearly unbearable. If you can get over him now you will be better off in the future. I hope you heal and find love that is true.
2006-10-21 11:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Pull yourself together.
Calm down and think, You might just know the answer urself!!!
There is no point in Crying over someone. No bodys worth it, Execpt for yourself. The reason why he might be drawing afar from you might be that, he's just confused, or scared from commitment!!!!!
You just can't blame him for being insecure or scared of commitment, Just talk to him, listen to him and things just might work out again. Best of luck :-) Hope thing really work out in your favour,
2006-10-21 11:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Nithin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Italiana, do not push your self on him, you need to face this emotion with a clear vigilant mind, think of your future with him, with your early stage of relationship he is changing his mind. Please note of that if he really,really love's you, he will not put you on this type of situations which hurt you " If he wants you,he will make a way no matter what to call you regularly, if he does not love, there are a lot of excuses....come on move on, you need to move forward, it's your life not his....move forward, you have all the time to be happy, there are a lot guy's out there who will not hurt you the way he did....come on.....my prayers is with you....
2006-10-21 11:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Pray and Believe in Yourself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cry and look at the future i thing that any relationship does not end with marriage it wont continue .forget him
2006-10-21 11:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by sameh w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Leave him alone.He wants to be with both of you incase one don't work he has a fall back. Don't put yourself through that he is not worth it.
2006-10-21 11:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by djfinger2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give him more space.
2006-10-21 11:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋