Why is this a sin?

Question

Is it a sin to lay with a woman or a man without the union of marriage, as it suggests in the bible. Or perhaps what the bible meant was that it is a sin to lay with a man or woman without love which in gods eyes is the marriage of man and woman. Is god not love? (the union of god, man and woman= marriage.)
I have seen many who are married, but do not have love in their union, but felt pressured from acceptance of societys standards to do so. Is this not a sin, to lay with a man or a woman without love. Do you think that is what the bible was suggesting, and man defined the scripture for himself?

Answer 1

That is an insightful perspective you have. I think you may have something there.

The fact is, as far as I'm aware, the Bible does not actually say that it is a sin to have premarital sex with the one whom you will marry. In fact, if I am not mistaken, (and I may be), one of the things that bound 2 people together in marriage was the act of "laying together." If they did that, they had to get married, I think. (I really shouldn't be speaking on this since I'm not sure).

But anyway, it definitely came to be seen as wrong, in both Jewish and Christian society, to have premarital sex. But keep in mind that premarital sex is NOT adultery. That is something altogether different and more severe. Adultery is having sex with another, while you are married. If you are unmarried, it is impossible for you to commit adultery, according to this definition.

That's what the Bible says. I personally believe there is much value to some of what the Bible says, but I do not see it as anything more than the words of human beings. In truth, I believe that it is immoral to be committed to one person (even if you're not married) and then to go have sex with another. That can cause tremendous hurt to all the people involved.

Also, I think you have a good point. To lay with one whom you do not love seems to me to be a very "fleshy" thing. In other words, if there is no love, it is just physical sex, and as such, it lacks the deeper meanings that sex ought to serve, as an intimate act between 2 people. When there is genuine love between the two, then sex can seal that bond quite effectively. Otherwise, it seems shallow.

Answer 2

You should join a Bible study, it will take you into the deteils, and they are discussed within the group, in that way you gain better understanding. The Word of God is definite about marriage, there should be no doubt of how to interpert it. Marriage is between a man and a women, this is not a sugestion, as with the ten Commandments they are not the 10 Sugestions! but Commandments As to laying with a man that is clearly an abomination to God! Again not a sugestion! Love for each other is necessary, yet many marriages often fail in this area, because man is a sinner, and falls short,and that includes women . Scripture is not for private interpretation, join a Bible study, and your question will be all answered in more detail then you can get here, with brief answers. God bless you in your search for Truth .

Answer 3

Insightful as the actual marriage union varies from culture to culture, even in Biblical times it was the act of "laying with a man or woman" that 'married' the two people together, not so much the sharing of vows in a public setting. Although the betrothal period was in a sense a public profession of the marriage union and usually once a promise had been made to "marry" or "lay with one another" those in the community pretty much considered the couple a "forever item".

This is why God says in Scripture that if two people 'fornicate' (Have sex without the intention of making it a marriage union) that they are to remain together forever as husband and wife.

He also told the woman at the well who had led a very permiscuous lifestyle that she had, "many husbands". Why? Because it is the act of having sex that UNITES A MAN AND WOMAN TOGETHER FOREVER. There is no such thing as divorce in this sense as they have COMMUNED and UNITED and BROUGHT TOGETHER something that can never be separated again. We in modern society tend to call this, "Baggage."

However, the laws of the land are also very important to God as He has chosen our leaders (Be they Godly or not) and he has many Scriptures that tell us we are to obey the laws of the land, so long as they don't ask us to deny Christ as our Savior or bow down to other gods. Therefore, if in your culture you are not considered 'married' until an actual ceremony is conducted by a licensed person and papers are filed according to law, then... you are not considered fully married in God's eyes and any sex outside of that marriage union (according to your cultural standards) would remain 'fornication' which is a sin.

Answer 4

yes, read 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 7:2-5, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, Hebrews 13:4. All scriptures in the Bible are inspired by God Himself although He did use men to write His thoughts down. See 2 Timothy 3:16,17. There are alot of people who are pressured into marriage because the woman had gotten pregnant. People tend to confused lust with love and get into a marriage thinking that sex is the most important thing to a lasting relationship. It's important that people who date should get to know each others likes, dislikes, attitudes first (build that friendship up) before they say "I do".

Answer 5

Um, I believe that the union of marriage was defined as a commitment ordained by a minister of God. Love in marriage is a perk. Back in the day women were married away with out love, yet they were married to produce children. It was all ordained. A man (of God) couldn't just take a woman to have a child with, They HAD to be married. 1: to carry on a name of honor, 2: to please God so that they could continue to be blessed. See, there was real faith back then, cause u didn't have all the things we have now.

Love is all good, but to lay just for pleasure is where the sin comes in. Love comes and goes, Sometimes, but marriage is a commitment that God has blessed.

1Corinthians 7:1

If you can't seem to keep your pants on, then it would be best for you to marry and no sin But keep in mind that u shouldn't just marry to have sex. Remember that Marriage IS a signed agreement with God that you don't want to be with anyone else but the one u wish to marry and Lay with.


AND THE PART WHERE IT SAYS THAT SEX WITHOUT MARRIAGE IS A SIN CALLED FORNICATION IS WHERE IT SAYS IN THE BIBLE THAT IT IS A SIN!!

Answer 6

A man and a women do not have to have a marriage ceremony to become man and wife, making a commitment or to give yourself to another(to have sex) is enough in God's eyes. And when we join together we are not to separate (divorce) but to live together for the rest of our lives.

If a person gets a divorce(with or without having a marriage ceremony) and then marries another while there ex-spouse is still alive, then they sin against God and each other.

Answer 7

Bible describes a man and woman not being married as fornication. Which means there is no bond. According to the bible, when you are married, the two people become one in God's eyes.

Answer 8

Since this is an attempt by you to justify having sex outside of marriage you probably won't care about the answer, but anyway. It's about being married, love isn't an emotion, it's an act of commitment, not an act of lust. Having sex because you are enamored with someone is nothing but fornication, which is a sin.

Answer 9

Actually it isn't. At least it isn't in the Bible. In Exodus, chapter 20, we read the Ten Commandments, and are told that we should not commit adultery. Adultery however is not defined as simply having sex outside of marriage. It's defined as having sex with a married person. Nothing is said to prohibit sexual relations between two unmarried people. In fact, if we look in the book of Leviticus, we are given a list of every situation in which we should not have sex. We're not to have sex with married people, or with family members, or with animals. We are not, however, prohibited from having sex with an unmarried person who is not in our family.

Some places in the bible, such as Mark 7:21, state that "fornication" is a sin. Fundamentalists like to interpret that as meaning "sex outside of marriage." It's not true. The Greek translation identifies "fornication" as being any "illicit (illegal) sexual activity." However, as we saw above, God did not mention sex between two unmarried people as being illicit.

Answer 10

Sex outside of marriage is fornication. Fornication is a sin.

It's simple.

Sex is meant to pro-create, bond a marriage and be enjoyed between a husband and wife.

We don't get to pick and choose what we want to believe from the Holy Bible. It is either all true and the Word of God, or it is not.

I believe the Holy Bible.