I caught my g/f and another woman haveing sex but I don't feel like she is cheating on me. Should I ??? They won't let me join in. She admitted to being BI and said I must accept it which I do.How would you feel ?
2006-10-21 03:46:43 · 33 answers · asked by irishlad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a very open sexuality policy...meaning that I enjoy physical relationships from both males and females. I am always honest about it when entering a new sexual relationship, but i feel cheating is cheating!! Unless the two of you have an understanding that this IS part of your sexual terms!!! She may as well be F#&*ing your best mate!!! Which is okay too if that's part of your terms!!
I'm courious a bit if this was your way of asking me how serious I was about you setting me up with my mail order gift!!!!
I'll bet the couriosity still lingers!!
2006-10-21 04:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think most guys would see a woman's relationship with another woman as cheating but would hit the ceiling if they found her with another man.
With that said are you willing to let her being sexually involved with other men? Or do you not feel threatened because it is a woman?
If you are willing to accept this then you know what it is not cheating. Only you can determine if you feel this is cheating. Many people have a monogamous relationship with a partner who is BI and only sees other women. They are content -- the point is can you handle this?
Don't let someone dictate what is good for you, but trust me as long as she doesn't go for another man -- you are THE MAN!
good luck
2006-10-21 03:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating if she's hiding it from you. If you know about it and don't care, then it's not cheating. It's an open relationship (at least where she is concerned. She would probably have a problem with you sleeping with other women, but then again maybe not.) However being Bi isn't a reason to be unfaithful either. You should still have a level of commitment. But it is your relationship.
2006-10-21 03:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would not stay in the relationship. It is your choice. I do not think that anyone should share sex, intimacy or any other parts of them with others that is intended to be shared with a couple. Whether male or female, it is still a betrayal. How would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Like you wearing her high heals with her brother? Would she allow you to have sex with her brother? How about if you were having sex with another man or women...how would she react? What about STD's? What about ethics? What about family dynamics? This is a selfish and rude act on her part. I would get out now and preserve your dignity and respect! You deserve a good and loyal woman!
2006-10-21 03:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a personal choice on both you and her. If she was honest with you and told u from the beginning that she was BI, then as long as it doesn't pose a problem between the two of you, I see no reason why it should be called cheating...besides, if she won't let you join, at least ask her if you could watch...lol
2006-10-21 04:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Christal L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it was okay than what do you do, But it does not mean you get to join in because it is another woman instead of a man.Because if it is not something you do together or that she is given I guess the word would be (permission) or your approval then yes IT IS CHEATING.Regardless of the sex of the person
2006-10-21 03:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's cheating, just with a different gender. Unless you want an open relationship I suppose, but sex with someone while you're dating someone else is generally regarded as cheatinng. Being bi and faithful shouldn't be mutually exclusive.
2006-10-21 03:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Purplepossum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did cheat on you. She should havetold you she was BI before you ever had a chance to catch her.
On the other hand, if you are OK with sharing her with other women then your relationship will be fine. Just make sure that you will not get jealous, because that will make you very unhappy.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-21 03:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am probably going to get lambasted for this but...why is being bi an excuse to have sex with other people...a relationship is a relationship...I am heterosexual...does that mean my bf should allow me to go have sex with other men? I don't know why men or women saying they are bi means they are lacking the commitment gene.
2006-10-21 03:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to answer you bluntly no you do not have to accept the fact that she is bi. If you want to stay with her then you have to accept it . if you dont want to accept it tell her to do a ray charles,you know hit the road and dont come back. I would feel betrayed it is still cheating. Good luck and god bless.
2006-10-21 03:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋