is my dad giving me bad advise?

Question

i met this girl and she wants me to sleep with her on the first date my dad says i should do it but something tells me its just not right what do u think

Answer 1

You have to live for yourself! If you feel it's wrong then it's wrong.
Don't let anyone push you into doing something your don't want to do. You live your life to learn and to be happy.If you live your life for other people you will spend all your time trying ot make others happy. Please be true to yourself. It is very important to be happy with yourself. When you are yourself and a happy person, you attract people to you who are of a like mind and disposition. These are the sort of people you want as friends. They will stay true to you and your views of life.
Be happy!
- Red :-)

Answer 2

I think that you are an incrediably smart young person to know that parents might not always have the right answer! Your dad is only human and will make mistakes I think this advise is probably the worse of them! Pleas don't sleep with any girl on your first date or you will have a hard time getting to know each other except for that one thing and miss out on a great relationship! That and it's morally wrong and dangerous. In our area we have a large group of young girls that lure the boys in and then scream rape, I think they've discovered it gets them attention and lives are being ruined.

Answer 3

You have a good question, and your question is more sensible that your Dad's answer. Of course if your Dad had a daughter ask him if his answer would be different? You should not engage in sex with anyone, or of any kind, until you are married. That will protect you as well as the girl. The something that tells you is your conscience . Listen to it. It is not right to sleep with her , even if she wants to, and tell the girl why you feel that way .

Answer 4

Dear Maceo,

Usually parents are wiser than their children, however, you sound a lot wiser than your dad. Your conscience is speaking to you and that is a wonderful thing. Remember that it will be with you for your entire life.

Have you heard the saying When In Doubt, Don't.

Sex is a wonderful thing when it is between two people who love each other. But if this will be your first date how can it be love?

What about the dreams that you have for your future? Casual encounters do have a way of hindering great dreams.

Answer 5

I think that their has been too much pressure created around this issue, and therefore makes it difficult for you to make a decison of clarity. Go with the moment. If things feel right, then a natural progession will occur in that direction. But be responsible about it as well, you must have respect for your body(protection of std's)
If you decide that it is not what you want, then dont feel pressured to do so. Your father is only acting upon his ego, and male testosterone, that men thrive on. Dont let it affect you and follow what is true for you.
I wish you well

Answer 6

This is really something you should be asking yourself. Why would you want to sleep with someone you do not even know, why would you put yourself at the risk of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. If she is so eager to sleep with you, how many others has she been eager to sleep with? And if you are a christian you know the answer. You should wait until marriage.Sex should not be taken lightly as if having a casual lunch or breakfast with someone. So good luck and God bless

Answer 7

"and she wants to sleep with her"

do you mean

"and she wants to sleep with me"??

Uh, that's terrible advide. You dad is probebly just kidding around or doesn't realize the dangers to adultury and STD's. (sexually transmitted diseases) Adultury can really mess up a childs life if they have a different father and ugh, It takes so much more effort to make things work out. That's just one child too. Biblically, the bible also does not allow adultury.

As for SDS's, there's not much explanation needed. People who commit adultury are very likely to do it again and again. That's why so many people die of diseases that start in a very uncomfortable place to start.

Answer 8

It's either the girl wants to have a baby BADLY or she's just using you. When people have sex on their first date and NOT use protection, possibly, there will be a baby in the future.

Waiting is not bad. Save the sensation when you've found the love of your life. Guys expect women to be PERFECT. perfect body and such but no one likes knowing their ptential in the real world. It's not all about having sex and pleasuring ourselves in clubs. It's about actually having a worthy life.

Don't waste your time. Go ahead and date another girl cause that girl is just trying to entertain herself to you. And your father is missing action with HIS life, that's why he's telling you to go ahead with the girl.

:) :) :) :) :)

Answer 9

If it doesn't feel right to u , then don't do it, your dad sounds like he has a eego thing going on, and nothing more. With all the diseases, and pregnancy's, aid's and such be as careful as u can, Just cause dad say's go for it,does not mean you should, if he thought u should jump off a cliff because it was good for your health would u? Go with your heart. sunnydays

Answer 10

NO im telling you out of my own advice if you're not sure wait up to 3 months till you are sure and know her better.any girl that wants to sleep with you on a first date is a first class whore. youd be better advised to go look for one on the next street corner.they wont ruin your reputation that bad