But I got drunk one night and slept with a guy I know... I am so disgusted that this happened; and I'm scared she would think I'm gay or something... it was just too much drinking though... should i tell her; or hope it stays quiet; and would she be able to forgive me?
2006-10-21 03:35:10 · 16 answers · asked by cantichoose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want your marriage to start off on the right foot you definately need to tell her. Don't let her find out the hard way she would never forgive you for it. Be totally honest with her. Getting drunk is no excuse for sleeping with someone else. Just think about how you would feel if you found out she slept with someone and you found out after you were married, it would just rip your heart out. Trust me I know, my first husband was sleeping around on me with his now current wife. I wanted to kill them both but instead it ended in divorce after 11 yrs of marriage. It is better to get it over with now and yes maybe she will break up with you but it is better to be totally honest with your self and with her.
2006-10-21 03:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might just be a good time to NOT GET MARRIED!!!! If your cheating now with a few drinks, what makes u think u won't do it in another year with a few more drinks? Plus u went the other way - I honestly think you have some major issues to be worked out and you owe it to your fiance to tell her the truth! It should be her choice whether or not to continue with the marriage, she should have a say in the rest of her life and you keeping secrets is NO way in Hell a way to start a marriage! I am sure u feel terrible as it is But OMG what the heck were u thinking. Its not only you now your part of a pair and she deserves the truth - put yourself in her shoes think of someone other than yourself!! I hope it works out for u - u have issues that go much deeper than just cheating on a fiance!! Talk to someone u honestly trust - a bunch of strangers online just don't quite cut it!! GOD BLESS!
2006-10-21 10:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you just accidentally sleep with the same sex??? What did you have to drink? Gay punch!! That's a big deal. If she knows you slept with another man she's going to be pissed and disgusted. She'll probably call off the wedding. It's your right to tell her though regardless of how she takes it. You owe it to her. If you don't tell her now eventually she is going to find out, the truth never stayes hidden for too long! How do you know your not bisexual are you sure this wedding is the right thing anyway?! I think you need to find out who you are first before you bring marriage into it.
2006-10-21 10:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her th truth because when you chose to do that she was involved as much as you were. Because when you came home after and slept with her she slept with this guy as well and not telling her is a violation of her. Also you have to think about other things when you do stuff like that , the world carries diseases and you never know ecspecially when alcohol is involved what can happen. But I think she deserves to decide how she wants to feel and how you want to mend before you get married Because getting married is not like breaking up, and what kind of blessed marriage can you have if it starts in deception.
2006-10-21 10:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u better tell, or someone else will, and i don't care how drunk u get , that is no excuse, and because u done that proves u r definetly not ready for marriage,sounds like u also have a drinking problem as well, u need to get your life together first before even thinking of marriage.............good luck, hope u do the right thing
2006-10-21 10:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by cc 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keeping secrets from each other will not be a recipe to have a fantastic marriage,I think she would think more of you for your honesty and courage to tell her, I'm sure she won't be thrilled about it but if you 2 are serious about each other it will not be the end-but geeze I'd be sure it never happened again !!!!
2006-10-21 12:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by sue m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously evaluate your sexual orientation drunk doesnt justify gay sex. Your partner has a right to know, marriage involves two lives not just one. Did you think about AIDS and std's?
2006-10-21 11:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by kristy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't believe that your b/f would ever tell anyone (he may be likewise embarrassed) then you should just file it away in your memory. And, just because you happened to sleep with some guy does not mean that you were performing with him. You should not tell her...it might give her ammuntion for when she decides to divorce you.
2006-10-21 10:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa...don't know WHAT to say to this one. Drunk or not, sleeping with a man?!! You weren't that drunk. Good luck!
2006-10-21 10:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man what a mess. Stop drinking
2006-10-21 10:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by copestir 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋