We dated for a year and a half.He has a normal job during the week, and plays music on weekends for extra money and for fun. I would often go see him, but when it came to every weekend night, I just couldn't do it. I like to do other things and that lifestyle is rough(staying out too late all the time and being in a bar all the time). I would usually see him most nights, but then plan something with my friends once or twice a month. He would get mad every time I did that. I would go see plays, go shopping, or bikeriding with my female friends.He wanted to slow down after talks of moving in together and marriage(HIS idea)and I stated that was fine, but he had to then not get angry when I wanted to do something with friends.Well...he stated that I didn't want to be with him and ended the relationship right there.May have been the wrong time to bring that up. He now won't return my calls, hasn't for 3 weeks. Advice (besides "Get Over It"). Be nice and genuine, thanks
2006-10-21 03:34:38 · 5 answers · asked by Barbara 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it sounds like he does have some seperation issues. Some may call him controlling, but he may just not be able to deal with feeling like he might lose you to some other guy. Unfortunately, if he's not going to return your calls, it could be difficult. Maybe you could write him a genuine letter that tells him that you definitely have feelings for him, but you also need to have a bit of personal time. You in no way want to be away from him, but you need time to be with friends, and have girl-time. If he really still has feelings for you, then he'll get ahold of you.
2006-10-21 03:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by smashley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK , THIS IS A PROBLEM I SEE ALOT , THE THING IS , WE ARE SO PIGEON HOLED IN WHAT WE DO BY EVERYONE ELSES STANDARDS ETC ......HIS WEEKEND LIFE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE YOURS......AND HE NEEDS TO SEE THAT , AND ACCEPT IT ...YOU ARE A SEPERATE PERSON EVEN THOUGH THE TWO OF YOU ARE TOGETHER , AND SURE YA WANT YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER TO BE AROUND YOU AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE , BUT THEY DONT HAVE TO BE NEAR YOU 24 - 7 AND THATS REALLY NOT ALL THAT HEALTHY ANYWAY!...SO LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU REALLY FEEL , AND DONT BACK DOWN A BIT , YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY TOO....IF HE REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU AT ALL...HE WILL ACCEPT THAT YOU CAN ACCEPT HIS LIFESTYLE WITHOUT BEING WITH HIM AT THE BARS ETC , AND THAT YOU GET TO DO "YOUR" OWN THING AS WELL... , AND DONT LET SOMETHING SO INSIGNIFICANT RUIN WHAT YOU TWO HAD / HAVE / CAN HAVE.....JUST DO YOUR THING ON THE WEEKEND , AND LET HIM DO HIS , AND RETAIN THE WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP IN BETWEEN......ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN HERE ...IF HE SAID ALL THAT , HE MAY INDEED BE A CONTROL FREAK , AND YOU MIGHT HAVE GOTTEN OFF LUCKY FOR FINDING THIS OUT SO SOON .....BUT IF HES UNWILLING TO SEE WHAT YOU ARE SAYING AS WE ALL CAN HERE , THEN HE IS NOT A GOOD PARTNER IN THE FIRST PLACE....I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK , AND TAKE CARE.......HAVE A GREAT DAY !......GR1M
2006-10-21 10:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by (\ G®1M R34|Dê® /) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you regret it, ask him if you can get back together... if he feels the same way, this time talk about the things that will make you happier and if he gets mad of every little thing you do... then maybe it's time to find for another person.
2006-10-21 10:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by aly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think you should move on.
2006-10-21 10:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by dot&carryone. 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try sex men have no resistance to sex
2006-10-21 10:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋