My dad died when I was 17 & my mother can't make my wedding since she lives 2,000 miles from me & we can't afford to fly her in (we're broke, it's going to be a very short, simple ceremony). I don't have any male relatives or know any older men who could stand in as the father figure to "give" me away.
What do you suggest?
2006-10-21 03:29:18 · 30 answers · asked by Wild Rose 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As for having my mom at my wedding, I really would like to have her there, but she can not fly (ie: since 9/11, the FAA forbids oxygen tanks being taken aboard planes & she requires one.) & the train costs more than flying! She will take Greyhound, but I feel a little cheesy sending her 2000 mi's (& 2 days) on the bus! LOL Also, there are other issues- my mother is disabled & requires a lot of care ie: a nurse & physical assistance. I do not have the money to pay for a private nurse to look after her for nearly a week.
2006-10-21 17:09:11 · update #1
We have thought about having the wedding where she lives, however, none of his family or our friends would be able to afford the expense. Also, my younger sister who's my made of honor would not be able to come, as well as my nephew, who's the ring bearer or the others who've agreed to do things we need for free. (re: pictures- friend of his is a professional photographer, video- another friend, DJ- another friend, the officiant- my fiance's best friend just happens to be an ordained minister LOL!
2006-10-21 17:09:53 · update #2
Ty so much for ALL of your wonderful, heartfelt suggestions! They are all so great & so it's really hard to pick a best one, so I'm going to have to put this one to a vote.
Thanks again & congrats to you all who are engaged as well!
2006-10-21 17:10:55 · update #3
How about any guy who when asked who gives this woman to this man he could say "I, name, give her in memory of her father Mr. name"? I think that would be touching.
2006-10-21 03:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by roxy 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly acceptable to walk down the aisle alone. (For a short simple ceremony, are you even going to have the formality of a procession and aisle?) If you are lonely you could be escorted up the aisle by your flowergirl or maid of honor, but not do the "giving away" ceremony. But again, hard to say since in such a simple ceremony maybe you don't have a MOH or FG.
Isn't there SOME way you can arrange for your mother to attend? Even if you pay by credit card and pay it off later? Not being able to have her there sounds so sad.
2006-10-21 12:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am having my son give me away. My mom passed away 4 years ago and I am not close to my father. If you are going to have a small ceremony, maybe you can change it up and walk down the aisle WITH your fiance. Then you can make it appear as a "journey" and then you both arrive at the same place at the same time and leave out, continuing on your "journey" of life...
i know it sounds corny, but i think it would be great!
That or you can have a member of your church escort you
2006-10-21 10:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Going down alone is always an option, but you can have ANYONE you want. My brother is walking me to my son and my son is walking me to my husband. (the idea behind that was "from the first man in my life, to the second, to the last- priceless!) You can have your best friend, or someone who just makes you smile walk you down. Whomever you choose, your wedding day will be wonderful! Congrats & Good Luck!!
2006-10-21 15:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone you want. It doesn't have to be a male. I hope your mother doesn't get depressed about missing your wedding. If there is a will there is a way. Good Luck and God Bless you!
If everyone in the world lived by the golden rule(treat people the way you would like to be treated)(do unto others as you would like done to yourself) what a great world this would be.
2006-10-21 11:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is simple now a days it can be a guy or a girl think about a person who is near you who is most impotent to you who is there no matter what a friend a sister a grandmother anyone and then you ask that person you don't need a person to walk you down but if it mean a lot to you that is what you can do
2006-10-21 13:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by pocketfuladreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my wedding, my dad had passed away two hours earlier and my mom wouldn't do it. I didn't want to walk down the aisle alone, so the bridesmaids and groomsmen walked in as couples, followed by me and my man.
You had better find a way to get your mom to the wedding - borrow money if you have to!!! You will always regret it!
2006-10-21 17:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does everyone that are invited know about your parents? If they do then if you walked down the isle by yourself, they would be in awww that you had the guts to show that you are independant. Or else, does he have any brothers or close friends or even his dad. Good luck anyways.
2006-10-21 15:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by j_elmo28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can walk you down the aisle or you can walk by yourself. I had my uncle walk me down, but it can be a friend regardless of them being male of female. That is not a male only position, it can be one of his family members of friends. The one wedding I coordinated the bride was walked down by her best girlfriend. She had no men to give her away and so she was given by her best friend.
2006-10-21 13:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,what about your father inlaw or a male person that you know.Maybe your husband knows someone that can walk you down the aisle if you do't have nobody that means you have to walk alone.
Good luck.i hope you have a good marraige.
2006-10-21 10:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Do you really need someone to give you away? It doesn't necesarily have to be on your side of the family. My friend didn't have neither of her parents in her wedding, so to the father of the groom gave her away. Just find someone that knows this is special to you and you feel that is worthy of giving you away.
2006-10-21 10:33:07 · answer #11 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋