I really dont want her to have this baby but shes so determined.
2006-10-21 03:27:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You can't. If she wants to have the baby, it's her body--her decision. Sorry. If you didn't want one, you shouldn't be having sex.
2006-10-21 03:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by dr_imzadi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do that. You know it takes TWO people to create a baby, not just one. Even though you don't want the baby right now, you don't want any responsibilities when that baby gets here you'll be much happier. A baby is a gift from the lord above =) You know there is other options then to killing your baby, she has other choices. But it seems to me that she wants the baby, hopefully you'll change your mind too! I know how hard it is, I've been going through a lot of stress which by the way is not GOOD but i am because I'm only 18 years old. Good Luck!
2006-10-21 10:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice try!! Put yourself in her shoes. Just imagine how hard it was for her finding out she was pregnant in the first place. An abortion isn't as easy as you think it might be. If you didn't want this to happen, then you should have thought about that before you had sex.
All you can do is tell her how you feel. But in the end, it is her final decision.
2006-10-21 13:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by imasooite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you my boyfriend or what? I am going through this situation right now. So let me give you a word of advice: there is NOTHING you can do or say that will influence her decision either way. What you say and do right now can affect how she feels about you, because depending on what you say she can and will resent you. That wouldn't be good if you have to spend the next 18 yrs raising a child with her. You may feel like you have rights, but let me tell you why you dont. Whatever decision she makes, SHE has to live with. Not you. If you chose to (if you did you'd be lower than scum) you can walk away and at the least only have to pay child support, not even be involved in raising the child. She would be fully on her on, but if she chooses NOT to have it, she and ONLY she would have to live with that for the REST OF HER LIFE!! You could never know what that decision does to a woman for the rest of her life. It can affect her psychologically, mentally, and emotionally until she dies. No one has a right to persuade anyone to have to live with that. The only right that you have at this point is to be supportive and understanding. Otherwise you dont really care for her. If you didn't care for her, you should NEVER have put yourself in position to father a child with her. We all know how kids are conceived, it is no big mystery. ALWAYS protect yourself. That is what I tell my son, he is only 10 yrs old. But I already instill in his head that if he has sex, he HAS to wear a condom because sometimes women lie about birth control. You cant blame her, nor is it your decision anymore. You made your choice when you chose not to put on a condom to keep your soldiers from finding her egg.
2006-10-21 13:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the hell............ Do u really understand what an abortion is? Its a kind of killing or a murder which u are going 2 attempt. Pls don't kill the poor life. If God has given it a life, let it live. Try 2 make a family and u'll understand how nice is it 2 b a dad
2006-10-21 10:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by twinkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion should not be a means of birth control. There are other options you might try to persuading her into such as adoption. Otherwise, you can't make her do anything. Consider this a lesson learned in being irresponsible and not using a good form of birth control.
2006-10-21 10:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a little life that you are talking about! Your girlfriend wants this child and you can't talk her into it, it is her body and she has the right to choose what to do with it. Next time invest in some condoms. Just learn to deal with the situation. You know children are fantastic and you may just learn to be a Dad, it is one of the best jobs that you could ever have.
2006-10-21 10:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just get out of her life and let her have the baby if that's what she wants. Clearly you are unsupportive. If you didn't want her to get pregnant, you should have planned better. Abortion is NOT after-the-fact birth control and you have no right to pressure her to get one, especially when it is half your fault she is pregnant in the first place. Just do her a favor and get out of her life, unless you want to step up and be a man about it.
2006-10-21 12:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by gspmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant! She is allowed to do what she wants. Talk to her about how expensive it is and that you both arent ready and convince her to consider it or consider adoption. Tell her that you really want her to explore all the options but if she wants the baby then it sounds like she has probably made up her mind to keep the baby.
Take her to planned parenthood so she get can information about abortions, adoption, everything. Talk to her about what your future plans are and what she wants to do with her life. Be supportive though, no matter what she does because you caused this pregnancy too.
2006-10-21 10:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't and shouldn't. Its her body and some woman can't get pregnant after having an abortion. Do you really think she should suffer her whole life and possibly never have children just because you couldn't keep it in your pants or wrap it up. Grow up alittle your not mature enough to have sex if you can't handle the possible outcomes of it.
2006-10-21 10:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't talk her into anything that she doesn't want to do...It's her body and her decision...and abortion is a big deal and it can change a woman's life and her body forever...think about what you are asking her to do and if you would want to be put in the same position...
2006-10-21 10:29:55 · answer #11 · answered by Brittni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋