He doesnt like me hanging out with other people besides him and he gets mad when i do. i was talking to a friend on the phone i hadnt spoken to in forever and he called me and i told him id call him back b/c i was talking to her and he got pissed off.
2006-10-21 03:24:57 · 31 answers · asked by california gurlie poo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he seems controlling and best to dump him now before it gets out of hand.
2006-10-21 03:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,if your boyfriend wants all of youre time you need to talk about it because in a relationship you work things out together.Also if you don't tell him he will take advantage of you so you need to set him straight that you want to be with your friends and be with him and if he doesn't agree then i think you should brake up because he can't always say what you need to do.Also that part where you said he" doesn't like me hanging out with other people besides him and get mad when i do" you should do the same thing with him give some revenge so he can feel what he makes you feel.
sorry about your boyfriend hope everything works out.
Goodluck.
2006-10-21 10:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i could have been like your bf had i been dating when I was in my teens. I didn't have any close friends at that time and I'm sure I would have latched onto a girl if I had the chance. Like almost everyone who has responded, the best advice is to wean this guy off of you gently before he becomes completely controlling of you. He doesn't show any respect for your needs of having time alone or time with friends.
2006-10-21 10:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by bhuto36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to him and let him know that he is crowding you. That you like spending time with him but that you also miss your friends. Let him know exactly what is on your mind and don't let this situation get out of your hands. Try to explain to him that as much as you enjoy being with him you need your space as well. If you really believe that he is controlling then that is not a healthy relationship. If talking to him doest not work then you should really sit down and think about what you want, and what is best for you. Good luck!
2006-10-21 10:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, I could have been reading from my own thoughts there!
My b/f is constantly phoning me, texting me & visitng me & can't understrand that even though I may not be seeing my mates, I just want some time to myself.
I get so mad with him, I just want him to leave me alone. Last night I asked him to leave several times because I wanted some "me" time and had to practically push him out the door.
If you, like me, can't seem to get through to your b/f, then you might consider, as I am, letting this person go. I don't think he's the person for me, but you have to ask yourself that question.
2006-10-21 10:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or u could try and re assure him that you r his and that he doesnt have to worry about losing u and that if he continues to be possesive he will push u away. He may have been cheated on before and he may lack selfesteem. Men do have feelings and we do need support we need to be assured that we r the only one and realize he is doing it because he loves u and doesnt want to lose u he doesnt mean to be controling he just doesnt know any other way to show u that he is worried your gonna leave. And if u do leave all your doing is confirming his fears. not allevating them if u really care for him stay and help him see he is good enough and if he isnt good enough then leave i guess
2006-10-21 10:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Vinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes in a men's life they want you to do what they mother sometimes didn't do.Men want to be up under you cause they maybe never had a special woman in there life to cook,clean,wash cloths,and the best thing of all you respect and have good communciation skills.And you know that you satiffy him in every way possible and when your the only person that his ever done this for him you got to understead that he is going to be jeolous.It's only LOVE!talk to him and tell him how you feel and he's not stupid or a controll freak cause i he was he would be cheating.
2006-10-21 10:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to work on his inner strength and self feeling of security. He is insecure right now and that is putting a damper on your social life, which is a bummer. We all need space from time to time and it is nice when we can be with someone who can understand that and respect it. Tell him he needs to respect your space and that you are not trying to diss him and that if he can't understand that, then tell him that it just isn't going to work. That will open up his eyes. Good luck!!
2006-10-21 10:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by His Dudeness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's just going to have to put up with it. You have a social circle that extends beyond the relationship you have with him. These are people YOU want to spend time with, and he shouldn't care about it. Doesn't he have any other friends?
2006-10-21 10:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even married couples have friends you have to let this guy know that you like him but you have other friends that you had before him and that probably will be around after him he has to trust you
2006-10-21 10:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by big Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly does not have a understanding bf......try telling him that u need your personal time if he refuses then forget about it this kinda guy! Mutual respect is important in a relationship, he shld respect your decision of having personal time.
2006-10-21 10:31:05 · answer #11 · answered by Ignatius corleone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋