okay my question is a little like joni's exept i can get my 15 month old son to help clean up but not my 25 year old husband does the same thing with the laundry if i leave it in the basket it ends up in the floor i clean and when i get home from work the next morning their are soda can, food packaging, dishes, and dirty socks everywhere how can i stop this?
2006-10-21 02:57:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take away all his socks until he learns to pick them up properly and so forth with the other things as well.
2006-10-21 03:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by bchylik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same prob, I let the house go to hell for about three days(couldn't handle it any longer) and then sat his lazy a** down and said look at this , is this how you want our child to live? Told him he needed to help out more that it wasn't just MY home. I made him help clean up all the mess and eventually he did start helping out more. I would leave a list of things I needed him to do (not a long list) and he would do them. Mind you don't expect it to happen over night but he will start helping a little. Probably not as much as you would like but it's better than not helping at all! Good luck!
2006-10-21 10:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so common. Sounds like he takes for granted that you're going to do everything... as alot of men do. You can leave his mess there and refuse to pick up after him, hoping he'll smarten up and take the hint. Or if you don't mind a total mess for a while.... then try not picking up after yourself either....don't do the dishes or laundry.... don't vacuum.... and if he complains... just say that since he doesn't help pick up at all, you assumed he hired a maid... so you thought you'd take advantage of it too.
2006-10-21 10:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well his mom must have cleaned up after him so now he thinks you should. and it must be working because your doing it. so, to stop this from happening, stop cleaning up after him. as hard as it might be to walk past the mess that he has left you have to.but you also need to tell him that you are not his maid or his mom and that you are not going to clean up after him any more. and after all this if he still keeps leaving this mess, pick it all up take it out side to his car, put it in the front seat [drivers side] and when he gets in his car i guess he will have to clean it up then now wont he. i hope for your sake that you don't have to use the same car.
2006-10-21 11:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate with your husband. Speak in short sentences. Not one big long drawn out one like your question.
2006-10-21 10:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't clean it up, and when your slob of a husband complains you can point out that you both work and that marriage is a partnership, not slavery.
2006-10-21 10:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by steven b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started to leave an answer, but just re-read bchylik's answer, exactly my sentiment.
Darryl S.
2006-10-21 10:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Stingray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very easy, tell him to be mature, that you aren't his mother and if he doesn't help you will go buy yourself a ravenous rabbit (vibrator) & he can forget about sex.
2006-10-21 10:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋