Im scared about my baby?

Question

I had an abortion when I was younger, there was nothing I could do but I still think its my fault and regret it everyday, now Im six months pregnant and Im scared something will happen to my baby and I wont get to see him. I keep thinking God will punish me because of what I did and that I dont deserve this baby since I had an abortion. Im happy and look forward to my life with my baby but then I think it wont happen and it breaks my heart. I can get the thought out of my head that something will happen to me or him and that is affecting everything, I look at clothes his new clothes and get sad. Do you think I should seek preffesional help?

Answer 1

Yes you should seek professional help even your obgyn may be able to help you. Its not just guilt you are felling, pregancy brings apon a lot of hormones that usually wouldnt flow as strong within your body and can change your emotions and mood you should seek help so you do not have to feel like this anymore.

Answer 2

Honey, it seems like every woman I know who has had an abortion feels a lot of guilt about it afterward. You are not alone. I am not religious; however I believe God is not a punishing God. In the New testament, the emphasis is on God's forgiveness if we repent (realize we did wrong) and not do the same thing again. Jesus said to the crowd, "He who is without sin, cast the first stone.", then to the woman <"Go and sin no more". What else is that but forgiveness?

You said there was nothing you could do. Sounds familiar. At 4 years old, I believed it was my fault that my Father beat my Mother. Was I at fault? Then neither are you. Look at all these responses. Can all these people be wrong? I don't think so.

If you cannot let go of the fear, by all means, seek therapy for yourself. There are many out there who specialize in the kind of guilt you are feeling. Perhaps your doctor or a friend can recommend one.

Good Luck to both of you. Have a happy child with a happy mother..

Answer 3

See, it is not unusual that u r feeling guilty in this regard, but u must have been right in getting ur pregnancy aborted, if it was not for medical reasons too. Would u have been able to provide self-less love to a child u wouldn't have wanted in the first place? Moreover, if u r healthy right now & r taking right food & precautions, like not smoking, no drugs or alcohol, not suffering from infections--getting immunization against, say tetanus or whatever is the standard protocol in ur country & 10 hours of sound sleep (which is necessary for good blood-supply to ur growing baby)--then u shouldn't have any problems. Take care before taking any medications.
Since, I don't believe in God (I hope that doesn't offend u), I can't comment on that aspect, but I can just somewhat relate to ur feeling of guilt, & it's not at all misplaced. Take care. Professional help is a good idea if u can't enough sleep or if that's interfering with ur daily activities. If u get any suicidal thoughts, definitely let know some of ur confidante, & that needs to be taken very seriously. All the best for a healthy baby, & HAPPY YOU.

Answer 4

There are grief counselors who specialize in helping girls get over the guilt of abortion. Many are very religious-oriented, so be careful who you talk to, but I think it's clear you need to talk to someone.

I, too, had an abortion I later regretted. But I never got pregnant again, and I think you need to concentrate on how lucky you are to have a healthy pregnancy, and accept it as evidence that God has forgiven you. Without going into what I believe or what you do, surely any God worth worshiping can forgive a young woman for giving in to family and social pressures in the past. That sort of thing happens too often to be considered unforgivable.

Notice that in the Harry Potter series, there are only three "unforgivable" curses. They are all produced by very intense will to do harm, to enslave or to cause pain or to kill. It is the WILL of the curse that makes it unforgivable. Since HP is, after all, fiction, we can take this for the metaphor it is. But the point is there: it is malicious will that makes anything an unforgivable sin. Repentance is purifying.

Forgive yourself, my dear; that's the first thing.

Answer 5

I am sorry to say that I can identify with you. My life took a similar course. Yes, go and seek some help. Having a negative attitude and a "God will get even attitiude" can effect your unborn baby. Your child feels and shares your emotions as he is with you 24/7. We can, psychologically, make things happen to ourselves when everything would go fine without the "sin" we are carrying in our minds. Unlike alot of right to lifers, I believe that sometimes abortion is the only recourse to a very bad situation. This does not mean that you have to carry the burden for the rest of your days. Our punitive God is also a forgiving God but people seem to forget this. You must mitigate your guilt so please, for the sake,of your new and beautiful child, talk to someone. I have two wonderful children so things did not go bad because of my past.

Answer 6

You should deff. talk to your doctor about how you are feeling! Stress and depression are not good for the baby. God has forgiven you for what was done in the past. Things happen for a reason, and if God didn't want you to have this baby he wouldn't have given you a second chance. I had 2 miscarriages when I was younger and felt it was my fault somehow but realized everything happens for a reason and it was God's way of showing me that it wasn't meant to be or something was wrong. I'm still waiting on my second chance...(the 2 miscarriages was twins) Good Luck and relax!

Answer 7

First of all calm down ( as so many others have said) and realize that your baby is probably fine. While it is true that 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage almost all happen before sixteen weeks. As to God punishing you I can only say that if someone told you this there is a special place in hell reserved for them. Your baby is a gift enjoy him/her and know that by 6 months if something was going to happen it would have by now. Best of luck and my prayers are with you

Answer 8

I had an abortion when I was younger, then when I wanted to have children, I had 4 miscarriages in three years. I come from a strict religious family and was convinced that God was punishing me.
I had many tests with no explanations, then I spoke to a Dr. who was a Christian and he assured me that God is not a punishing God and that he would have forgiven me.
As soon as I relaxed I fell pregnant and stayed pregnant! I now have three beautiful children.! You can't change the past only learn from it. Relax and enjoy your baby.
Good luck I wish you every happiness.

Answer 9

I think you should calm down... What you did in the past was tragic, but... I dont think God is going to punish you for it. He gave you a wonderful gift of getting pregnant again to make it right. Think of it that way. There are so many women in the world who cant have children (like me) who would LOVE to get pregnant and pray every month that they are, only to have everything crushed... EVERY month. I dont think God is punishing me... I just think he is telling me to do something else with my life. So I am. Im in college with a 4.0 studying to help people with cancer one day... God doesnt do things like that to hurt people, he just opens a different door for each of us.

Answer 10

Have a serious talk with your obstetrician. Explain what you are feeling, and your concerns. Your worries can affect your pregnancy in small ways, and he or she can point you in the right direction for counseling to resolve your issues with your previous abortion.

Also, are you married? Or with the baby's father? Talk to him. This affects him, too.

I wish that the abortionists would explain this possible reaction to all women who have abortions. It is fairly common. Depending on where you live, there may be a support group, filled with women who feel like you do.

God is very forgiving. You will get to see your baby, and he will be fine. So will you, in time. But go Monday morning and talk to your doctor and get the wheels rolling to try and put your mind at ease. Part of this could be all the hormone changes that go along with pregnancy. It can cause your emotions to go crazy, and you react to things that in normal circumstances wouldn't bother you at all.

If you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me. I'll be happy to talk to you, or just listen.

Take care of yourself like you know you need to, and enjoy this time. Your new baby will be a joy to you, but you need to get yourself in the frame of mind where you can enjoy it.

Best wishes and hugs!