I need some advice. I dated this guy from work for 2.5 months. He lied to me time and time again. He went to see his ex one weekend & stayed at her house (sharing a bed), then a few weeks later, she came up here & stayed at his place (also with him in his bed). He claims nothing happened, they just held one another and slept. Both weekends she asked him if he was seeing anyone, and he said no to her. He and I are no longer together, but I still feel really bad for the ex who is trying to either get back together with him or get closure. I feel like telling the ex he's been lying to her. Should I?
2006-10-21 02:05:49 · 16 answers · asked by bella_suga_cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy seems to be a bad person...I think you should tell that girl, perhaps you could help her not to suffer anymore. Hope this helps!
2006-10-21 02:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother telling the ex. And I don't believe that they just lied together and didn't do anything sexual. And even if it was just lying together holding each other, isn't that still cheating to you? Clearly he's emotionally attached to her. I think that's as bad or worse than having sex with someone else.
If you tell the ex, nothing good will happen. It probably won't change her mind about anything, and she won't like you. And he'll just be angry and bitter at you about it. Just let it go.
2006-10-21 09:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some level, this woman knows what she's 'into' with this loser. She chooses to believe his lies and to continue to be used by him. Therefore, she's getting some sort of "pay off" from this strange set of circumstances. She's an adult and she can make her own choices. Chances are, she wouldn't listen to you if you told her the truth. She would just assume you were a jealous "cast off" who's trying to make trouble for her. Let the two losers feed off each other.
2006-10-21 09:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person I am concerned about is you. It isn't any business of yours if he lies to his ex or not. She was there before you and iam very sure she knows about his lying habit more than you so, i believe she can bail herself out when she wants to. As for you, I think the best thing for you to do now is to call it quit with him and start a better life instead of sharing him with his ex. there are better guys out there, get one.
2006-10-21 09:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't get into other peoples "affairs". Unless you are really good friends of his ex don't bother. It could only be trouble for you. Do you think she would be grateful to you for being the other woman? Keep clear of it.
2006-10-21 09:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother. You are out of both of their lives now, and probably better for it. Find a new guy, one who doesnt feel as though holding somebady at night isnt cheating.
GoodLuck.
2006-10-21 09:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by talz_talz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it is not a case of sour grapes? Move on and focus on your own happiness. good luck xx
2006-10-21 09:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by meucando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you do he will tell her just another lie (probably that you are lieing to her or so because you have a crush on him etc) it will make you look bad. had a husband like that... outch
2006-10-21 09:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by merlineaton 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't feel sorry for the ex. You want to hurt him. No keep it to yourself, you will hurt her not him.
2006-10-21 09:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will find out eventually. He's not yours anymore so it's not your responsibility to tell him. Leave it alone.
2006-10-21 09:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Rozari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋