Right now there are 3 girls that are coming around. I'm pretty sure at least one of them is attracted to me. Maybe more. My problem is that I am painfully shy. Making the first move is scary to me. I know it's a fear of rejection, so thats not what I need to hear. I'm looking to the ladies (or guys in the same situation), to give me some tips on when is the best, most comfortable moments to move in for that first kiss. The best way to make the first move. I'm supposed to see her again tonight, so please help!
2006-10-21 01:46:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No big deal... At that precise moment when you two are alone, just ask her if she has a problem with you kissing her. If she says yes, just be polite and tell her to let you know when she wants one. Don't feel rejected. Maybe she is as shy as you are... But, if she says yes, then don't wait a mili second longer... Give her a five second peck on the mouth... Then look at her eyes for two seconds and kiss her again. This time, a very long kiss...
I bet you are a great kisser and it will be her loss if she says no .....
2006-10-21 01:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to Firstly Relax and be calm!
Instinct is the best Remedy for First-time Nerves and Shyness!
Do not place yourself in Any Situation where you feel Uncomfortable-So,Make the Atmosphere relaxed and Conducive to being sociable.
From there you need to use your instincts(If they tell you to lean over and Plant a Peck on the Cheek-Then do so!)
YOU WILL KNOW!! Trust me!
From there you are treading water as there is No Remedy for Shyness other than Experience and a learning Curve!
Yours maybe short and Fun-Just be Positive!
And Finally, a woman always loves to laugh! That's the Only fact I can offer you!
Just be Yourself! Most Women Love that about a Guy!!
2006-10-21 01:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for being shy, get over it. Not doing the things that you want to do is a waste of life. As for making moves, first pay attention to how the girl acts when she gets near you. A friend will only get about 24 inches from you, a family member will get about 18 inches from you, and someone that wants to be more intimate will get as close as 12 inches. When you want to find out how they feel about you, just work your way closer to them, if they move away you will know where you stand with them. When you want to ask them out or for anything that might embarrass you just ask in a not so serious way. I once jokingly asked a girl if she "wanted to go get something to eat or would she rather go parking", she answered "go parking". If you don't ask you will never know. Then you will always wonder what would have happen if you did ask.
2006-10-21 02:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, where are you taking her tonight? It's very hard to make a move when it's in a movie or something else where you're not having a conversation. Get her talking: you'll be more comfortable, and it'll be easier to make that first move. DON'T leave it up to her. Girls take that as a sign that you're not that into them. And I can tell that you're into her. I am shy too, and have a fear of "letting loose," but relax and, well, let your true personalty shine! If she doesn't like it, it sucks for her. You have like two other girls if she's not that into you! Relax and don't think about it too hard.
2006-10-21 02:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by why? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan some things for you both to do while she is there, that way you won't be dwelling on your nerves. Try to do something that will make you physically close and then see how she reacts. If she keeps trying to move away she might not be ready. Something that has worked on me in the past is we made a desert of strawberries dipped in chocolate. After much joking about making such a mess he licked offered to help me lick the chocolate off my spoon, and then my finger, and then my lips....... Good night, we had a lot of laughs
2006-10-21 01:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by pipsqueak678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if one of them is attracted to youthen just act the way you think what might have attracted her in the first place, her friends will catch on to what she likes about you and, may even compete for ya bud! ;) as for bieng shy i used to be pretty bad about it myself, just realize that they are humans with the same everyday probs that you have if not a lil more, just ask questions and get to know them and be genuinley interested and listen
then for when you make a move, whichever girl youve identified with and had a real connection just express your feelings to her, but dont sound desperate, just say it as if its the most normal unimportant thing in the world with a cool clear and calm voice. it takes work and courage.
as for the kiss try to pick a time when your in private with her, and if your in close enough proximity and really want to go ahead and kiss her whever you want, but cheek and lips are a good start
hope that helps!
2006-10-21 02:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 5000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol I hav this problem 3 days ago. well dude just be your self don't be something your not. I tried being something i'm not i lost the girl. Buddy just be your self if she doesn't like the person the you are shes no for you buddy. And First kiss Well when you feel its time jus move in lol.
2006-10-21 01:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is to take the lead. Don't assume that he gets hints. Don't asume if he does't respond verbally he is weirded out or scared off. I wouldn't worry too much about scaring him off. Few guys are really scared off by sex, most are scared off by rejection, talking about sex, or trying to bringup sex. Unfortunately, shy guys are afraid to talk about it, so phone sex might not work. Cuddle up to him while watch a rented movie. Undress while he is in the room. Remove articles of clothing from him.
2016-03-18 22:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to accept yourself as you are. Then let your concern for the girl be shown in your eyes. Encourage her to make the first move. If she is interested in you, she will definitely make the first move. Seek her advice in selecting a perfume for someone you love. Well If she is in love with you, one thing will lead you to another.
2006-10-21 01:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by blacktea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunni first you need to seperate these girls, so you got time with the one you want,once alone still act normal as its no big deal her mates aint there,then she'll be comfortable. maybe take a walk,yeah sounds gay but its easier then trying to kiss her watching a movie,try holding her hand or putting an arm round her first.don't just jump in and put ya tongue down her throat.good luck
2006-10-21 01:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by kiles11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋