I need straight forward answer please it will help in my marriage,My elder son is my step most a times if?

Question

i try to be firm with the house rules he feels am maltreating him and it gives me concern.Recently he starts bringing him to sleep on the our bed with us.Which the boy is capitalizing on He looks for any reason to wake us up like coughing knowing he will ask him to get to our bed.How do i address this issue i know is wrong i always leave the bed for them since is small for us.Help please

He will be 7years on December 19

Answer 1

Well, I can see where adding a seven year old boy to your bed would get a little crowded.

Ask your husband if he would consider laying down with his son in his son's room and then coming back to bed.

Or, go sleep in the kid's bed. Sooner or later your husband will realize he's not sleeping with his wife anymore. Dawn breaks over marblehead. How bright is he?

Answer 2

you really need to put your foot down. tell him that you are not going to continue to share your bed with the 7 year old son. i think the child is jealous. and kids can do alot of vindictive things when they feel they are being left out. and i would not let it concern you that he says you are maltreating him, if he says that to someone that can be easily checked out by a medical exam.you need to tell your husband that enough is enough. that when the child wakes you up he does not need to be brought into the bed with you.your husband needs to tell the child to go back to his own bed. if he is not willing to tell the child this then you need to tell him that if it does not stop you are leaving. the sad thing about that is then the kid got what he wanted.maybe you could spend time doing things with the son so that you and he can become closer, so that maybe he wont feel as if you are taking his dad away from him.

Answer 3

You didnt include his age but im guessing hes scared and he needs the security what you need to do is find him security where he sleeps wether it be a night light,monster spray(water in a bottle to spray anything he thinks might be coming to get him) but you tell him its special spray or perhaps a radio if he is not staying with you all the time and then it cuts out the irregular noises he doesnt normally hear...hope that helps

Answer 4

I think you should put your feet down and do the right thing. Stop leaving your bed for him as this isn't helping matters. You have to be a little strict otherwise, you'll ruin yourself and your child. He knows you have soft sports for him and he is playing on your intelligence.

Answer 5

I would tell my husband that you need to go to his room so I can sleep in my bed, Your husband should know that you do all you can for the child , but you will not tolerate him in the bed cause he has a bed and he need to sleep in his bed

Answer 6

i can't quite get my head round your problem ; but if I'm reading it right ; the kid needs to be told to sleep in his own bed and not expect the attention that he obviously seeks . there's a distinct problem here that you may well need to seek professional advice on . good luck .

Answer 7

Get professional help.