I dont have a problem with him cross dressing every few months in the privacy of our home, but I just have a problem with owr friends and family knowing. I know they are judging me the same way they are judging him. We also have a 2 year old and he sees his dad wearing womens underwear. What is the best way to tell him that I don't want my child seeing that?
2006-10-21 01:10:57 · 16 answers · asked by nikalby 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Yes our family and friends already know. After he split with his ex girlfriend she told the world. Thats another thing I have to worry about my kids being teased about in school.
He only dresses in full drag every few months but every day of his life he wears a thong or panties. I have asked him to stop but he just says its part of him that I knew about before I marries him, which is true, BUT He promised to hide it from the kids, Also it's not a sexual or kinky thing..he says it makes him complete. actually we never make love when he is in drag. He is going back on his word about hiding it from the kids. I just hope my son doesnt have grow to follow in his footsteps.
2006-10-21 01:35:00 · update #1
Wow...what a loaded question! First of all....you need to be very firm with him about this issue....your child seeing his father in women's underwear is not exceptable! You need to be very firm with him on this one. The fact that you are feeling judged by friends and family due to a fetish your husband has is not a good sign for the state of your marriage, if i were you I would seek some consoling asap! It seems like you have a huge problem with communication in your marriage, if he is not willing to seek consoling as well, you need to open your eyes to how much respect he has for his family.
2006-10-21 01:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight up and without shortcuts. Ask him what does he wants for his boy? He's already a grown up person, so he suppose to be mature enough to know what he wants, but the child is something else. Ask him if his father use to do the something he's dong right now? If yes may be that's the reason for his confusion. Does he want his baby to finish like him of may be worse? There's something else, What you gonna do if he decides to keep with this stupidity before the child? Do you want your child to be like his father or may be worse for the rest of his life? And, What life gonna be? If I was you I already started to over look for the best of my son, and having a travesty in the house isn't the best way to raise him up, often when the travesty is his own father. So your husband better decides, His women dresses or his family? If he can decide is up to you, Your son or your husband's likes?
2006-10-21 01:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd point out to him that lots of people do kinky type things & that no sex stuff should be done with the kids seeing because really, that's just not cool. If you have no problem with it then just encourage him to do it a little more discreetly. Do your family & friends already know? If not then they don't need to know the ins & outs of your sex lives but if they do know then it's their problem for judging.
2006-10-21 01:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the Rocky Horror Picture Show once in a while and let him dress up in costume. That way it is seen as normal and he can indulge his fetish at the same time. A 2 year old doesn't even know what ladies underwear are so don't freak out about it.
2006-10-21 01:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by billy p 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to stop wearing womens underwear in front of your son that is a traumitzing expeirence....Tell him if he loved his son and his well being that there is a time and a place for that sort of thing
2006-10-21 01:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by MiZaLiTy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a problem than there is no problem but you need to explain to your 2 year old as he will have to grow up seeing it ,not something you will be able to hide forever.
2006-10-21 01:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by mummapink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to arouse his masculine feelings so that his mind does not go to dress women cloth. Secondly talk to him directly about the effects of his doing so among your family and friends particularly your 2 yr old. He may desist from doing so.
2006-10-21 01:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by khayum p 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personaly i think he just likes to express his feminine side and showing his son tht you dont have to be ashamed of yourself ater all it is a free country ansd maybe the child will proberly see a funny side to it give the guy a break.
2006-10-21 01:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reminds me of the woman who siddles up to her husband and in a sexy voice says ... take off my blouse ... now unzip my skirt ... unclasp my bra .... take of my nylons .....
and if I ever catch you wearing them again !!!!!!!!!
Talk to him .... explain you don't have a problem with it ... but people talk .... and it's hard enough for kids in the world as it is without your 2 yr old having to explain his dad to the others in day care class
2006-10-21 01:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have some issues to deal with. Why on earth would you allow your child to be around that crap? Talk to your husband if that don't work leave. "you are who you associate with"
2006-10-21 01:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋