Let me explain...I'm not actually planning my wedding, but I am in my head...more than other girls! I'm always watching "Whose Wedding Is It Anyway?" on TV, and I go online to research wedding gowns, hotels, cakes, flowers, etc. I can't help it....my wedding day is sooooooooo important!!! I know it's important for everyone, but I think for me, it means a bit more. See, I'm waiting for marriage to have sex, cause I think it's waaaay too important to give up to just any guy. I mean I think about Mr. Right everyday and every night!!! It's kinda like a Disney fairy tale...HaHa! I hope no one takes it the wrong way, but I just feel the reason I'm like this is because I've waited and will continue to wait for Mr. Right for sooo long.I refuse to be with any other guy, that I know is not him!!!Don't me wrong now...I'm not some coservative nun type, but basically I don't want to be in any real relationship with a guy other than Mr. Right! I love him that much! What do you think about all this??
2006-10-20 23:37:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hey! I'm so glad that there's someone else out there who's doing the same thing I am! I thought I was a freak. Don't get me wrong, I'm not consume with all these wedding planning stuff, I just do it on my spare time. I love watching "Whose wedding is it anyways?" too! I even created a program to organize the budget, guest list, vendors and etc... After doing all these, I helped my friends' planned their wedding reception, design the invitations and sites and it's fun! I've learned so much and it's been great. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing. I think you're being smart about it, because this way you have everything planned and you won't be stress out when it comes to your wedding plans. Just be sure to not let your future bf know what you're doing or you'll freak him out ahaha. If you ever need someone to compare notes with or discuss wedding planning with, contact me on my yahoo email. See my username. =)
2006-10-21 05:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing, in general, but I do wonder if you are doing the right thing being so public about it. I mean, it's not fashionable to respect virginity these days, you know. And about the only people that even pretend to (and I do fear it's mostly pretense) are rather religious and conservative in many ways. If you are not comfortable with such people, don't go becoming their poster-child.
But I understand about romanticizing the wedding event. And I figure it is the least Society can do for you in exchange for your providing the magic of a real virgin for the event. HOWEVER, please don't look at more than your parents can reasonably afford, because that could pressure them to behave in ways that are unwise. Rather, cultivate the various arts and crafts required to do your wedding largely yourself, or with the help of friends you cultivate through these hobbies and crafts. Many are older, and the privilege of being a part of decking out a real virgin bride in a vision of fantasy which is the fully-developed White Wedding, would inspire their fingers to overcome the demon of "creaky joint syndrome," or "the A-Word."
Yes, use all the magic that is in your virginity to have the wedding you really want. That beats throwing it away because you got drunk in the back seat of someone's car one night, doesn't it?
I've long wanted to write a book, "Aunt B Speaks to the Virgins," but I have decided there's just not a large enough market for it.
2006-10-20 23:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....well now ain't you about the "last of the Mohegans" in that area; waiting for marriage before the "grand opening"....what a concept!! Well, you get high honors from me for that one missy....keep up the good work of keepin' the "store closed", if ya git ma drift! Yep!, Like my old friend Paul Masone use to say..."We sell no wine, before it's time".
But now, gittin' back to the subject at hand. Some might say that you're putting the cart before the horse, but....I don't see anything wrong in planning your wedding rat now...WHY NOT NOW! (sakes alive) But now looky here, now, have u considered being a wedding planner? It could be a good way to earn money doing something that has your attention in it's grips rat now. AND...by u networkin' with the peoples aready in da industry....not only could u get some terrific ideas for your own dang wedding, but possibly some hefty discounts on your gown, cake, hotels, and et ceteras like that there. Now, how's that sound to ya? Just a thought. Y'all have a nice nite.
2006-10-22 15:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by arkedthecovenant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop waiting and start living!
Whilst you are busy planning the perfect wedding day, life (and probably Mr Right) is passing you by.
It's ok to conjure up an image of what your perfect wedding would look like in your mind but the researching etc that you describe - particularly as you are currently single - sounds a bit obsessive.
If I was a man that came into your life and witnessed the bridal magazines and extent of your research on weddings, I would be planning my escape within seconds!
Slow down, concentrate on enjoying your youth and experience what life has to offer, the less focused you are on finding the "right" man, the more likely he will be to fall into your lap.
You're only young, you have plenty of time to find someone and settle down - it's not a race!
Spend your time doing all of the things you want to do before settling down, have fun with your friends, come and go as you please, travel etc. I believe that you are setting yourself up for a disappointment if you continue down the path you have set yourself - how is any man ever going to measure up to your ideals if you have everything mapped out in minute detail?
Go with the flow girl and enjoy yourself - Mr Right will find you soon enough. xx
2006-10-20 23:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well most people fall in love before they start planing a wedding. How do you know if you have found mr right? Will your mr right want to do things differently? you should focus more energy on finding the important mr right and less energy on on material values. Whats a wedding with out the love?
2006-10-20 23:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely seem too consumed by these issues.
Your wedding day will be a special day, but perhaps not as exciting and perfect as you are dreaming it to be. Also, for most, sex is really no big whooop dee doo. I fear you'll be disappointed.
Don't live your life like you're waiting for it to begin after you find the person you'll marry. Live your life now. Get excited about other things.
You're not doing yourself any favors dreaming up this fantasy wedding day. Make today and tomorrow special, just for you, and stop worrying about weddings.
2006-10-21 05:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. I planned my wedding since I was 10 years old and I got married at 20. Still married 8 yrs later. Good luck to you. Your prince is out there somewhere.
2006-10-21 02:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that, girl- I only recently met my Mr. Right, who's also been saving himself for Miss Right. Virginity is da best gift to give each other, don't listen to those loose, dirty, weak and immoral people who secretly regret having lost their virginity and admire those of us who haven't for our strength of character. They go on and on about it not being fashionable, everyone is doing it, blah-blah and all that nonsense; hoping that we'll join them and then maybe ease their guilt.
That makes at least the three of us dreaming about our wedding nights...... and wedding days, too!
2006-10-21 06:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a little too consumed by it. I sure hope you don't have a list of characteristics of your ideal man and expect the men you date to live up to that or you will be single for the rest of your life. There is no such thing as a perfect man.
2006-10-21 02:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i did what you are i dont think it is too presumptous to plan ahead you are doing the right thing with everything. planning and that shows that you are prioritizing not just in your marriage but all decisions. now that you are planning for that day and the right man, make sure you pray for understanding in all your decisions and wisdom. yes it is much too important to just fall for anything. you are a rare one that stands for something and not fall for anything good wishes on your future,
2006-10-21 01:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋