My sister was desperate for a loan of $2000 so i did it on the basis she would pay me back in 2 months.Its now 3 and she has not spoken to me about it all even when i travelled to the same town as her and saw her at my mothers she said nothing yet bagged me out for talking about having another baby with my new partner.Now she is travelling to the same city that i live in and would normally stay with me but she is going to stay in a motel.Yes i was stupid to lend but what is done is done the more hurtful thing right now is she is being so horrid and not even discussing it with me.I would have record of the transfer from account to account but i dont want to make waves so to speak.Anyone think of any alternatives?
2006-10-20 23:22:35 · 8 answers · asked by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would simply confront her. Tell her you lent the money in good faith that it would be repaid as per your agreement. You should not feel bad about confronting her, after all it is your money. In the future if you lend money to anyone, be it family or not, get a notarized agreement.
2006-10-21 01:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm too undesirable to lend people money, so easily I hate it whilst people ask. As a usual rule, i do no longer lend money except i'm arranged to settle for that i wouldn't get it lower back. Lending money may bring about lots drama, resentment, broken relationships ect. A twelve months in the past, I went to pass meet a pal (for the 1st time) in yet another state. we are living very some distance aside, so met in a state interior the middle. I had offered a airplane cost ticket and each thing. a week till now the holiday, he tells me he isn't gonna be waiting to pay for his 0.5 of the inn, yet that he ought to pay me lower back a week or so after the holiday. I had no selection yet to assert specific (i could no longer refund the airplane cost ticket). in any case, so he's by no skill paid me lower back the $a hundred he owes me. And he lives some distance away, so it extremely is not like i will merely pass and demand it. i'm nevertheless bitter approximately it in spite of the undeniable fact that. He makes greater $ than i do and has way much less costs, and that i'm a suffering unmarried mom. there have been many cases as quickly as I desperately might have used that $a hundred. So i in my view attempt to dodge lending people money.
2016-11-24 20:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by saragosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lent your sister money because you wanted to help her and you were being kind. For your sister not to pay you back when promised and avoiding it all together is very inconsiderate of her and it is not fair to you. What you should do is sit her down and talk to her. Let her know that you now need the money that was lent to her and try to set up a payment plan for her. Also, it is very important that if you set up a payment plan you get it writing and have her sign it. I know she is your sister, but it doesn't make it okay for her to stiff you. And next time have her borrow the money from a bank.
2006-10-21 04:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by frosty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a comfortable situation to be in. I've been there. Your sister has problems handling her finances. So your problem within her perspective is probably petty cash. You may be surprise to find out that she is probably bankrupt or close to it. The end of her spending days is probably close. Take the jerk to small claims court and do her a favor. The relationship is already blasted so at least get your money back and teach her a lesson in civility. Otherwise keep quite and pray for her to repent and mend her ways.
2006-10-20 23:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by latin-solomon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell anyone who asks that question before lending DON"T DO IT. My husband and I lent his brother a great deal of money 29 years ago to get him on his feet. Today we are still paying off our house loan and he is travelling the world. He sends us postcards and e-mails. It makes me sick. He has never paid us back a cent. My husband says that that's family we should just accept it. He gets it all NOW, we struggle. He would not lend us a cent.
2006-10-20 23:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by jojammum48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cheerful.
Be nice.
But, smile and say "Would this month be a good time for you to get that money back to us, or do you need another week or two?"
She may be avoiding you because she can't repay the money right now. You could also suggest that she pay some of the money back now and some later.
Good Luck!
2006-10-21 04:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u bring it up to her and tell her that with a new baby u will need this money.
good luck
p.s if u find away to get it back plz let me know how so i can get my money back off my sis
2006-10-20 23:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by mrs nevz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her don't be acting all shitty with you until she pays back the 2 grand. And after that, she can act anyway she wants.
2006-10-21 00:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋