2006-10-20 23:21:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't imagine a "small" misunderstanding causing someone to "hate" you. If it truly is small, remember two things, first, it may not be small to her & to say so may imply that you are insensitive to her feelings & 2nd, if it really is "small" as you say, then question whether or not you want to invest more time with someone that can take small issues & erupt them to the status of "hate". It may be better that you recognize other ppl's feelings & move on to someone more on the same page as you.
If it is with her that you want to be, try writing a letter & sending it via "courier" i.e., ( pay a friend of hers to special deliver it w/a rose, etc.), dedicate an "apology" song & make sure she hears it... we females are driven by emotion so if this doesn't work, move on & chalk it up. Obviously one of you is done with this phase of "learning" & ready to move into place where the perfect mate is waiting for you. think about this, "thank god for unanswered prayers". look back on your life & you will see what i mean by that. Good Luck to your heart & you. Peace.
2006-10-20 23:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by angels02_2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she says she hates you after a small misunderstanding it means that she is immature. Only a child tells someone that they hate someone when they are angry at you. If she won't listen to you when you try to clear up the understanding, then she is "punishing" you and trying to assert dominance over you.
If you give in to her or apologize when you haven't done anything wrong it will set a pattern with her and she will be leading you around by the nose until she is tired of playing with you.Women try to do this kind of thing all the time. If you fall for it she will not only try to dominate you forever, she will never have any respect for you either.
I see one of the people who answered you said that you might not have been sensitive to her "feelings". There is a thing about being insensitive, but that is another way that women try to control or dominate men. When you think about it, what does it mean to be "sensitive to a woman's feelings?" It means that you are never to say or do anything that "hurts their feelings".
In practice what does that really mean? It means that you are never to say or do anything that they don't want you to. Also, that you are to do everything they tell you to do. If you actually treat women that way, you will be like a well trained puppy dog and they might give you a little treat once and awhile.
The treat is sex. That means you won't get very much of that either. Because if you do, she will have lost some of her control of you. Now she might give you a lot of sex in the beginning, that is to "catch you". Later if she starts to withhold sex from you for no apparant reason, that is her "setting the hook". If you let her get away with that, she will either, "play you" untill she gets tired of you, or, at the right time she will "hall you into the boat", just like any fish you have ever caught. Halling you into the boat is getting you to marry her.
A lot of women will admit they are this way, but not if you are the one they are trying to catch and train.
I'm 63 y/o and I was told this was how it was when I was in my 20's. I wouldn't believe that women were that way but it has taken me untill just a few years ago to admit it to myself. Learn this early and you will save yourself a lot of the pain and heartbreak that I had to go through.
2006-10-21 07:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey if she really lovd u then surely she's not HATING u now, she just Can't. Actually may b she's insecure...she loves u so much that she can't even bear the thought of losing u and thus is behaving wierdly. Talk to her nicely...call her whatever she likes u to call her. Try to remind her of the happy moments spent 2gether. Request her to b mature saying that hard times do come in life n promise that u'll always b with her but she has to trust u....N don't 4get 2 add the line.." U r the only 1 4 me. Plz 4giv me".. Blive me all this works. I myself am a girl in luv n something like dis happened in our relationshp too sum time back....N ven he talked 2 me like that n gave me time 2 cool off I realizd my mistake. But after all..U r her love, u must b knowing her best. So decide urself what approach she'll like best.
2006-10-21 07:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by True_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and try and see that she sees your point of view
coins like situations and misunderstandings are two sided
2006-10-21 06:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Franky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince her more, since she loves you sooner or later she will have the heart to forgive you, love will always conquer hate. Anyway she loves you, just wait and give her time to think but dont take it so long, you need to follow her up.
Relax, everything will be fine.
Would you mine help me on my prob also.(:-) thanks
2006-10-21 06:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by eloi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her on your best ever convincing speech. if you really love her you will do anything. goodluck!
2006-10-21 06:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her space....be courteous to her..time will tell...
2006-10-21 06:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋