They have been married for more than four years and they have two kids and he'd suddenly confess that he's having "that" problem because he thinks his wife is cheating on him. He ended up using the money reserved for paying bills and other miscellaneous stuff to gamble and buy marijuana. His wife ends up bailing him from his debts and looking for alternatives to pay her supposed to be "paid" bills. His wife's planning on leaving him because she felt so tired of his husband and his jealousy over things that she says she never really did. She's been the best provider between the two of them. The man has lost his job for two times because of absenteeism. Now, her husband is asking her to help him out of his problem after losing the last chance given to him. Should she stay or should she go after knowing that her husband is a gambling and marijuana addict?
2006-10-20 23:01:21 · 11 answers · asked by Undecided_Dr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask him this question: "What can marijuana and gambling do for you that you can't do for yourself?"
Love is not enough to keep you two together. Contact your local gambling hotline, seek couples counselling. If he is unwilling to help himself, then I would leave him if I were you.
He is compensating for something inside of him he feels he lacks. Lift his self-esteem, the addiction will vapourize.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 23:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the gambling can be addictive and he should seek help.second I think his jealousy is a sorry excuse but weed is no big deal.He shouldnt buy it instead of paying bills but it would be far worse if he drank alcohol.At least all that will happen with a stoner is the munchies.Its her decision but heres the deal they married for better or worse and this is worse.When we promise forever we are not really just promising each other we are promising God.Also they have two children to consider and as long as long as he is not violent and he is trying to work and he seeks help for his gambling they should stay together because how do we know its not just his rock bottom?Maybe in ten years she too will have a rock bottom and wish she had her husband and children around her,Life for women is unpredictable and she will be better off working things out with him.Maybe he will even quit weed when he sees how much they cannot afford it but really I dont think that would be worse than a beer or cigarrette habit its just illegal most places in the USA.
2006-10-21 06:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But she pays the bills like double or more than double because her husband spends the money for their bills and she has to pay her husbands debt/s (of course there are losers in gambling and most of them end having debts with other people)
I think leaving the guy could help her and their family.
They guy can just show that he has changed and show his kids that he could change for them.
He is such a weakling if he'd continue and be like that.
Duh... making others feel it's their fault that he ended like that makes him a total sucker!
2006-10-21 06:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Den 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way the children could be hurt the most. Try to work it out and help you husband thru his problems. Marijuna and gambling are not that serious of problems, it could be worse, he could be a drunken abusive father. ..... be the best wife and mother you can be and do everything you can to save your family. Its not just your life your thinking about its your kids......besides if you break off your marriage you will be raising your kids all alone and you will still be struggeling with bills....... its not like you will find the perfect man to pay all your bills and help raise your children........ Stick it out and relax, maybe you should sit in on one of your husbands marijuna sessions and try to communicate with him .
2006-10-21 06:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! She just found out?? She might try for awhile to stay and help him through his addictions, but it's something that he has to decide...he's an adult and she cant 'make' him change. She could give him a specific amount of time to decide on change...like say a year?? and then if he doesnt give up these things for the sake of himself, the marriage and the kids...hmm. She should check out!! Maybe file for a 'separation' while he's trying to quit his very destructive addictions. That might wake him up to reality.
2006-10-21 06:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try your best and help him to get out of this habbit. As there is no other choice. And its necessary for family that he leaves the addiction.
2006-10-21 06:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing worse than a stoned-out gambler because he doesn't know what the hell he is doing. Maybe he should blow a few bowls and start playing the stock market.
2006-10-21 06:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is best that she attends some 12 step programs; Al-Anon, NA and GA to clear her head and understand her position within her situation.
Good Luck to her!
2006-10-21 06:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by canyonview11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw him to the dog's cause that's what he is! He's a user/abuser/loser! She should not have to carry his sorry butt! He most likely he will Never change no matter what he promises!
2006-10-21 06:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to get help, she should leave. Life with an addict is HELL!
2006-10-21 07:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋