We do live together and have started a life together. But I am just really wanting sex from another guy. Ugh! Can I get over this, girls????!!...guys?!! Would it be so bad to try a little bit of someone else?
2006-10-20 22:59:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no one in particular. But I often find myself thinking like a horny teenager. Yuck!
2006-10-20 23:19:35 · update #1
Btw, I don't want to cheat. I love my partner, I just feel this urge to be satisfied... and he's not or ever going to fulfill that need...I feel.
Does that make sense?
2006-10-20 23:27:01 · update #2
You have a serious problem which you must address. Feeling sexually attracted to another guy rather than your partner is no way to start a life together and unfair to your partner. Sex is part of a healthy relationship and I presume that your partner is expecting that you would be sexually attracted to him.
You need to be candid with him and if some partner counselling cannot help you improve sex with him, then you need to be fair and tell him that you must move on.
2006-10-20 23:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one of two things, you can't respect him so you can't feel it when you're having sex, by feel it i mean Feel it! or he just aint doing it right. If it's the first one you may not respect him cause he put himself in the wussy boy position and made you mom of the household or something just doesn't turn you on or he has some insecurity that's turning you off or he's just not a good listener, or he just doesn't care or he's not attracted or is lazy. If he's put himself in the wussy boy position you can sit there and live queen of the hill and be sexually miserable the rest of your life or you can elevate him back up to king of the hill, lose your control and spur him on to be The Man. It's called a relationship for a reason, you can't do it by yourself maybe? If that doesn't seem worth it go with the guy you're attracted to. Just realize first if it's a problem he's having or your having or both and try to communicate it to him and by that i don't mean once. Guys are very slow listeners when it comes to making lifestyle adjustments and psychological attitudinal adjustments, but it does happen if..... if the man has drive, motivation, determination, something to hang a coat on that your words will fall on, just remember it's a process, he won't catch on over night, no guy does and a lot of guys need a woman's support and freedom to allow the man to express their true manliness, i think it is a bit humbling for women, but it's actually what they crave, a man, so let the men be men and be on top so to speak, it's sort of like when you go to a home game or away game in sports, the home games are always better for the home because of the support, be a cheerleader for your mate and you will bring out his manliness to satisfy you sexually if he has it, if he doesn't then he needs to either hit the gym, learn something about women or move out of the way and let you get your needs met. Hey, can you please give me some answers along with all of you on a couple of key questions I'm having?
Thanks,
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2006-10-20 23:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that if you start having sex with other men you'll find someone that you'll want to stay with. That's not good for your partner. How would you feel if he cheated on you? If it wouldn't bother you then you probably shouldn't be with him anyway. If you don't want him then let him go. Let him find a woman who does want him and will make him happy. Then you'll be free to find a man that makes you completely happy. If he really loves you and you cheat on him and he finds out, he'll be crushed and the relationship will be over. Save him some of the hurt.
2006-10-20 23:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be a complete disaster. If you go down that road it will bother you all the time until you finally give in and tell him and possibly face ending the relationship. It is natural to notice that there are nice looking people but that's all. Why would you want to go to them and express passion for a person other than your mate? Do you love him? Why not marry him? You are living as married people anyway, only this will confirm that you are committed to each other. If you don't want that then you might as well leave anyway.
2006-10-20 23:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by NDK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it another guy in particular ... or just ANY other guy (slow down fellas I'm volunteering first :) )
Maybe you've become bored with the same old drudgery if the sex has stayed the same e.g. missionary position, or he finishes and "nods off"
Maybe a little role reversal where you take control will help ... or if you're really concerned and want to save this relationship seek professional help ... I hope you get it sorted one way or another without too much hurt and heartache
2006-10-20 23:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have sworn to be loyal, you should be. It is not strange to feel some kinds of attraction to other people, sometimes one misses the thrill of seducing somebody else, the first kiss and so on. You have to weight your situation with your partner and the need for that emotion. Once you know it, you will know what to do. But if you decide to go for it, please, tell your partner, so he can decide either to leave you or do the same thing. Let's be fair.
2006-10-20 23:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Absintha . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a different partner, plain and simple. Nothing you can do will fix this situation so the best thing to do is get out of it as soon as possible. You are both on a different wavelength, that's all. You need to find someone on the same channel as you.
2006-10-20 23:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You really oughta move out or break up with him. Its unfair to him and its restraining you from doing what you want. It shouldn't be something to "get over", sexual attraction is the most natural thing and if you're not feeling it, it really ought to end.
2006-10-20 23:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by anabanana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think thats perfectly normal. Your hormones is in overdrive and your bf can`t satisfy your needs. Try something else, like toy`s with your bf.
2006-10-20 23:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by spatz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer:
Don't cheat, that's not good, goes against ur conscience
Maybe you can pleasure yourself, buy a dildo or something
Wow this is a tough one...im glad there was good answers here
2006-10-21 18:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋