Theres a girl whom i have not spoken to in about a month. we have known each other for a long while. we have been *friends and possibly something more* but have been known to be in an argument or two. the first one in may ocured and did not speak to each other for 3 months. then rekindled our "friendship/possible something more" a month and a half ago and hung out again which was nice. but then we had an argument over the phone which lasted literally 13 seconds. we havent spoken since. The argument was small but neither her or i are ones to give in and call the other.
Her bday is in a few days and i remember back in May when her and i were not speaking, she was still nice enough to come up to me and say happy birthday.
You can say i wish to do that same. I cant do it in person since we are far apart, and i cant do texting or call cause thats giving in and losing.
So i was thinking about sending an email. Dont underestimate the email!
This is where the question comes in...
2006-10-20 22:50:44 · 8 answers · asked by Legionnaire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just sending an email that says, "Happy birthday" is lame...
so what can i jot down to a girl whom i havent spoken to in a month and both her and i are still somewhat mad at each other. even though we both have rude feelings towards each other i still wish to be nice on her bday with an email.
So what do i write? "Happy Birthday." just? Or should it be a little longer with actual words and my thoughts... and if so, should i bring up the argument? I'm not saying im trying to clear things and start things up again...i just wanna be nice. thats all. Perhaps a link?
:-)
2006-10-20 22:51:01 · update #1
If you are ever going to get along in this life, you're going to have to learn to give in sometimes. And learn to say you are sorry. That doesn't mean you are losing, it means you are a big person and can forgive.
If you don't care for a friendship with this girl, then don't do anything. If you want to be friends, then call her and say you are sorry you had the argument, and just wish her a happy birthday.
I think you both need to grow up some. Life isn't about winning and losing. It's about showing some respect to another person.
2006-10-20 23:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say happy birthday in a way that shows you've been listening or paying attention to what she likes, use a background image in the card that will remind her of her favorite sport or travel destinate, use language like to the (use her own language like I always wanted to be a nurse if she told you that was her goal) best medical expert in the world bla bla, then my God the most important thing always use something sexy in there or she'll think of you as just a friend and not a potential mate, mention her great smile, something, but then just remember if she doesn't show interest, move on... if you're that excited and that pumped to get with a girl who won't even talk to you for a whole month imagine how great you'll do with those girls out there who are ready and wanting to talk to you right now and this next month! Go get em dude!
2006-10-20 22:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound like you are being a bit childish to me. Either you want to speak to her or you don't. If you wanna still be friends then get over these stupid arguments. if it wasn't her birthday now then how long would you go on not speaking to each other. Life is too short and if you want to know her then give her a call, if not then don't bother with the Happy Birthday thing and just move on.
2006-10-20 22:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by peachybumcheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me share to you my experience...
My ex and I broke up a month a half before my birthday but he told me that we will go back in being friends. Now, my birthday came and all my other male friends sent me their greetings in whatever way they can and I waited until the next day but he never sent me any greeting. The following evening, I sent him a text telling him how bad it was for him not to greet me on my birthday. Then he just replied telling me that he thought it was another day. I felt terrible. When it was his birthday, and we were just friends that time...I sent him an SMS...was there at their home for 10 hours since his mom asked me to cook for him and even gave him a gift. I did not understand why he could not just even greet me when in the first place it was he who said that we will go back in being friends...
I got really mad and declared war... when I toned down... he just answered me... "Isn't it that we were no longer lovers when it was your birthday?" If that was his reasoning, then I should not have done all those things on his last birthday since after all we were jsut ONLY friends!
See what I mean? There is nothing wrong with greeting her and sending her your wishes. Do it as simple or as glamorous as you like. It is always best to do good to your fellowmen than not to do something. After all, I believe you still consider her a friend. Go on and do the job!
2006-10-20 23:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mhel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if you haven't spoken in awhile! Everyone likes to have a good friend say happy birthday to them. I'm sure this can even rekindle your relationship. Sending an e-mail is nice still, but call her up and say what you have to say. If she's truely a friend she will be forgiving and forget about the past! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-20 22:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's with 'Giving in and losing'. It's not about winning and losing. Losing a friend is not worth it. Adult relationships are not about points scoring. You will meet few enough people in life that you really like and want to be with, don't spoil it by petty squabbles. What does it actually hurt to apologise? Go ahead, give it a try, you might be amazed by the response you get!
2006-10-20 22:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by stienbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, send her one of those singing website email animated things with flowers. Then go on and get another girl friend.
2006-10-20 22:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the two points!
2006-10-20 22:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by jad D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋