he is 29 and i am 21 years old- we´ve been going out for 3 years and soon were getting married.. al my girlfriends are planning on going abroad, to europe or south america, for a year or so.. i want to go with them a little but i i go for a year, i know and my bf know we would break up in the meantime, and he is THE MAN of my dreams... he is perfect, loyal, atractive, fun, etc. i have already been abroad twice in my life... should i go with my friends and risk the best thing that has ever happended t me or stay with the person i love and want to spemd the rest of my life with? do ur life plans shange when u meet the one?
2006-10-20 22:04:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are only 21. Do you really think that this is the man you will be with for the rest of your life? Sure, it happens, storybook and all, but I say at 21 you don't know yourself well enough yet to commit to being a wife. Go on the trip, experience life, learn, meet new people. If when you get back your boyfriend is still there and you are still available or interested in him then go from there. Unless you want to be 25 with three kids more than anything in the world I would travel and soak it all up! I can tell you this about me. I have been with my wife for 9 years and married for 7 and there is no way I would leave her for a month let alone a year. The fact that you are struggling with this choice leads me to believe that at 21 you are not ready for marriage... and there is nothing wrong with that at all. Best of Luck!
2006-10-20 22:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will change so much before you turn 25, and by then you may wake up and realize that you missed out on so many experiences in your life. If he really loved you, he would encourage you to discover all that you can. Your biological clock is not ticking, and neither is. South America is amazing, I have been there twice. You are too young to make a mature decision about getting married.
2006-10-20 22:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should go with your friends. You are much too young to even be thinking about marriage. You chose this person as your "life partner" when you were all of 18 years old - and what does anyone know at 18, I'd like to know? Trust me, your idea of the "best thing that ever happened to you" is going to change a few more times before you're ready to settle down.
2006-10-20 22:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you are getting married soon. Why would you consider going off with your friends at all if you plan on getting married soon? That makes no sense to me. Your life plans always cater to a life with that person you call 'the one'.
You imagine a life with that person. Unless, maybe you in paricular, imagine leaving your new spouse alone while you travel the country with your friends as part of the life plans you desire. Anyway, your partner should take priority over your friends.
2006-10-20 22:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you go aboard for a month with your friends and then come back!!!!! you can tell him to do something similar and if this is the man of your life nobody will be able to take him away from you!!!!! The two of you are so young that it is a pity to start already a marriage with some regrets. Believe me!!!! do what your heart tells you.. By the way, if you are coming to Italy I can give you some good advice!!! You can email me if you want !
2006-10-20 22:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by marque1717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go abroad. for two reasons, one if he is all that , that you think he is he will understand and wait. second, if you do marry this guy, have you one last trip, party, what ever. you owe it to yourself to enjoy your freedom while you still have it.
my personal view, enjoy your youth, you are 21, he is nine years your senior, which isn't bad, but man there from 21 to 29 it is several life times of living enjoying etc. you are still very young.
he should be part of your plan not an either or.
good luck go have fun abroad.
2006-10-20 22:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by diablito69us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the one you love expects you to change your life to suit him, he's obviously not the one. Do you want to be changing your life for him for the rest of your life?
You sound a bit insecure, do you think you won't find someone else if he leaves? Don't worry about it. Your friends love you just as much if not more than he does. Make your own decisions based on what you want. If you start making life changes for him now, you'll be doing it forever (and even then it still may not be good enough for him).
2006-10-20 22:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know that this man is the one you are to spend the rest of your life with and that by going abroad could somehow jeopordize that then honey you best stand by your man. What is one year compared to the rest of your life? Plan a great year of things to do with him and tell your friends to keep in touch
2006-10-20 22:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is Mr. Right, he will be there when you get back!
Go Girl Go
Use this chance to grow, to explore and to LIVE.
Have fun! Because you really are only young once,and you should experience all life has to offer before you commit to sharing that life with another!
Good Luck and Bon Voyage!
2006-10-20 22:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people marry early in life and miss alot of things. he is at the age of wanting to settle down and you are just starting your life. he should understand that you want to try things also. you have the rest of your lives to be together. but if you marry will you ever be able to up and travel? no cause there is jobs, kids, and bills. you are always tied down. if he truely loves you and wants you to be he wife he should understand or at least be able to work something out. if you love one another why break up while your apart? that sounds like there is no trust or loyalty.
2006-10-20 22:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋