I'm having serious dating issues.I recently met this guy,we have some serious AMAZING time together.Everytime we go out we can't keep our hands away from each other!We enjoy each other's company,he introduced his friends and his family to me within one week!It's so hard for me to find someone I am attracted to AND have a good time with,but it's him!I work at a bar,so I meet men every night.I really like him! He works as a restaurant manager and I am SO INSECURED.I feel like he meets girls all the time..He came up to me in the restaurant he works in, I feel like if he can come up to me,he can go up to anyone he feels like!I like him a lot, but recently, I've been texting him a little too much during his work hours and we had a "chat"..He thinks I am too clingy and I must admit,I am.But I truly like this guy and I believe he likes me a lot too.But after that "chat" we said give it a few days.Think he will call?And when he does,how can I change to keep him?I need help!I really like him!
2006-10-20 21:46:27 · 11 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you constantly think hes going to cheat on you then the relationship is doomed before it begins. I'm not trying to be mean, but if you want the relationship to last then you have to trust that he may talk to other girls, but will be faithful. When he cheats on you or gives you any indication that hes not entirely truthful with you then you can start asking questions, but bottom line is.....hes going to be ecountered with girls no matter where he goes. If he really likes you then those other girls will just remain aquanitces and you'll be the main sweetheart in his life. Give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-10-20 21:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are like a starved woman oblivious to the others at the table, slopping in the chow with both hands, as if there were no tomorrow, and no more food.
You got way too close too soon. When intimacy comes in the introductory stage of a relationship, then the getting-to-know-you- stage comes with all these attachments that the relationship shouldn't have yet. So then it gets real sticky because one of the two may see that this was a mistake. He got intimate with you. He introduced you to his family. He even introduced you to his friends. Life was wonderful. I had an acquaintance who had a girlfriend like you, very clingy. He shacked up with her, but confided in me the if it weren't for the sex, he would throw her out. He really didn't like her in that way. But she wanted to marry him. The relationship was one sided, lopsided, you might say. Finally when Chiropractic school started and he moved to another state, that was the end of the pragmatic, for him, relationship. She was heart broken for awhile, and she carried the sting of rejection for awhile, but she recovered and got her needs met by some other bloke for awhile. Anyway, your relationship with Mr. Wonderful got lop-sided. Will be interesting to see if he is a cad or a man of honor. However, a needy women seems like a wonderful thing to a man because it looks like love, feels like love, and plays like love. Men fall for that. Once it becomes apparent that the love is really nothing more than the acting out of a loved starved need, then that man starts seeing his woman as a love starved vampire sucking his "blood". A real relationship takes time to develop. That's why intimacy, if we were wise, would be held off until there was a certain level of love, dependability, security, commitment and loyalty. That all takes time. The problem is we don't like to wait. We want our ice cream now. Well, there are consequences, but we don't care about consequences, We want what we want right now.
2006-10-20 23:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am speaking from experience... many guys had that same "chat" with me when I was younger, they all said wait a few days, and I never heard from them again. Take this as a lesson learned, and in the future you'll make sure not to make the same mistakes. Guys enjoy the pursuit, and you haven't allowed him to do that.
2006-10-20 21:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most self proclaimed attractive, outgoing and funny girls are NOT.
their personality drives people(men and women) away from them.
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I believe that he will not call.
if he does
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believe him that you are tooo clingy....
and STOP!
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If he does not call after a few days
call him...
and DONT BE CLINGY!
just say hey.. and talk.
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You will meet someone that likes you for yourself.. you may have already and it is this guy...
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staying yourself or being an actress.
which do you want for yourself?
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2006-10-20 21:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by DM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny! 10!
2016-05-22 07:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off, don't be clingy, it's as simple as that. Act as if you don't need him thatmuch, and that you have a life too. Turn him down for a couple of dates, that helps too. Stop texting so much.
2006-10-20 21:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make sense.
He intro'd you to his familly within one week??
You can bet that if he came up to you at his restaurant, you are NOT the only one.
I wonder if you are just a booty call in training?
2006-10-20 22:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
puppy love, oh how i miss thee! ur ok chick, just back off dude a little bit, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-10-20 21:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may make guys insecure
2006-10-20 21:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you becouse you are yourself!!!!!
2006-10-20 21:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by artis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋