She is around 35 years old and I am 20 years old. She has a shop near to my friends shop. She is very cute blond, nice body but she has 3 kids and her husband cheating her with other women every day. She knows that as my friends told me. She is smoking and she is very playfull. She doesn't know me but she have seen me.
2006-10-20 20:49:57 · 21 answers · asked by ben 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to her. plain and simple, most people waste all o fthier time "scoping it out, and figuring waht to do" you will always ahve that sick feeling in your gut unless you just dive in, dont pour it out, get to know her, hang aorund, sneak in the topic of relationships into conversation, se ehow she talks. then when you feel comfortable or a littel less scared anyway, tell her how you fell, adn if she points out the age difference, well heres my opinion/philosophy
screw age, its a number if you limit yourself in love or any aspect of life due to age, its liek shooting yourself in the foot, love is unconditional. if you let yourself be held back "social rules" you will never live or find that someone.
love is unconditional, and knows no bounds, i knwo it sounds sapy but look at the people who are i nlove, and those who have been married for several years, but at the end of the day, you gotta do what your heart tells ya dude, nothin else.
2006-10-20 21:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like Irishthunda's answer. However there are snags in adopting a romantic ideology like this, as it can make the real situation more complicated. I know this sort of thing happens, and no matter what people say you ought to know it's no infatuation or lust(perhaps these are secondary).
However even though I do NOT believe age 'should' be an issue, you might want to get to know her in person somewhat, and allow her the same liberty.
That was the romanticist in me talking, now for the statician.
She has 3 kids, not a nice arrangement.
This husband cheating on her may be speculation and he might turn a new leaf and she'll be waiting with open arms-probably.
Also their marriage may be one of social and financial security with some no emotional strings sex, which might make it hard to breach if that's your intent.
Also she smokes, you should consider how much, if it's enough to reduce her lifespan, it'll be a lose-lose scenario for you either way.
And you say she's 'playful', just how much, you reckon she would be committed enough.
Don't be disheartened though, just take my advice and get to know her, and let her know you. Slip through the fact that you have/had a crush on her for a while somewhere secure into the relationship. See where it goes, it's your game.
2006-10-21 06:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by yasiru89 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo dread. There are so many things wrong with your question that I could write a thesis on it.
You do not know her.
She does not know you.
She is married with children.
The only "proof" you have that her husband is cheating on her with other women every day (sounds like BS to me) is that your friend told you. How the F does your friend know?
Screw the age thing, that's of no importance.
Next time you're at your friend's shop, go over and talk to her like a customer. Then visit her shop several more times. You should be able to get an idea of whether she likes you after yo've been there 5 or 10 times. Not that it really matters, unless you think because she's "smoking" that she will get a divorce to be with you.
The entire thing is madness.
2006-10-21 05:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ozz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How in the world can you love someone you don't even know? That shows how immature you are. How do you know her husband is cheating? And if he was, it's none of your business.
Stay away from this woman. She is married and has a family. Find a girl your own age.
And grow up.
2006-10-21 05:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving her is no problem you can tell and face the consequences, but marrying is different because she has three children. You do not know the relationship between she and her husband .
2006-10-21 03:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. She's going through a rough time, be there for her and you'll end up with her. Walk up and say that you love her and either she'll get rid of you cuz you don't even know her, or you'll be mend my broken heart guy and lasts about a month
2006-10-21 03:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by kbuchanan802000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold your horses! How can you love her if you have never talked to her? You don't love her-you lust for her, or you like her. There is no way that you can love her at this point.
Don't even think about telling her you lover her. She will scream and run away in a panic. You will seem like a stalker to her.
2006-10-21 03:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are calling love your infatuation for that woman.
Before you walk up to her and say anything about love introduce yourself to her and tell her how beautiful she is, strike a conversation.
After getting to know one another for a while if you really will have strong feelings then would be the time to tell her.
2006-10-21 04:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by ateo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say she is married, 35 yrs old,and has three kids?Why don't you find some who is your age,single and dose not want another kid(you).
2006-10-21 03:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Big Eagle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you told her that you love her..while u havent even know her also??
i think you should think about lots of things when u want to say the word "love" to somebody.
dont say it if u dont really mean it..
2006-10-21 03:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by funneh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋