im 28 and been with my bf for 7 years but still no proposal. he moved to another country last year for work but asked me to wait for him. saw him last month and still nothing, no plans. in that 7 years he's been pretty reliable and straight -- no cheating, whatsoever. not getting any younger and feeling really frustrated.
2006-10-20 20:32:27 · 14 answers · asked by Seraph78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh Dear! How much more u can wait? u can atleast ask him to get engage with u and take a call by when u shd get married. If he is not responding positive its pointless to wait and spoil ur young age.
2006-10-20 20:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by slimshady3in 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That shows INCREDIBLE patience. But, yeah... no one is getting any younger.
Don't know what state you're in, but some consider 6 years a 'common law' marriage? That's what I hear it's called around MN.
On another note... my wife was the one who proposed.
And that was just after 5 months of going out with each other. She was just a little bit younger than you are now.
2006-10-20 20:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by bouta45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... OH MY GOD !!!!!!!! ....
DO NOT ACCUSE HIM OF CHEATING !!!!!
Jealousy kills relationships...
and most guys take it as a hint that it's actually you who is interested in someone else...
with his not being around, you know it will eventually posion his mind and heart...
and then what will you have...
a best friend who now thinks your sneaky, tempted, or betraying your promise ???
Is getting married more important than staying together?
He did ask you to wait for him.
Does/did he know you want to watch your grandchildren play with him from the front porch?
He maybe be planning on more when he comes back...
So, just get drunk with him and before you both pass out, tell him you want to have his children... he won't forget and will figure out the rest of the details, and, because your both drunk and sleepy at the time it wont be a discussion... message delivered... fall asleep.
PS: Find out if he can he afford or finance a ring before he has to return... might be why he needs to wait.
Knowingly going from single and struggling to married and struggling is a a real issue for many...
Best wishes...
2006-10-20 21:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jesus H. Zeitgeist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want HIM then wait. seven years is a long time but he has been with you all that time, still some people need that commitmente. have you contemplated proposing to him? this is a brave new world where everyone should be able to ask their loved ones if they wana hitch up. have you discussed the why haven't you asked?
a terrible advice to give you, tell him you are tiered of waiting, and that if he cannot commit, to set you free. and of course you have heard that old tiered metaphore if you set your loved one free bla bla bla., (the reason it is a bad advice is this man has strung you along for seven years, i would guess as soon as he says bye you will crawl back to him. people have a tendancy to develope a codependancy with other people etc. etc.)
good luck hope he asks
2006-10-20 20:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by diablito69us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years? I think it would be better for you to move on. If he can't make a commitment after seven years, he's not going to. I know you are probably looking at the past seven years as vested time and want it to work out, but it's better to cut ties NOW and move on. Good luck!
2006-10-20 20:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Glasspder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of i want to congratulate you on the relationship.. have you ever thought of asking him about tit?? i might be weird but maybe the doesn't ask you cus he doesn't no if you ready or not? i think you guys should talk about it and go from there. also what if he's not ready?? you said his in another country. which means his job is really important to him and maybe he wants to focus on that for now and get him self together before he take the big step into marriage. hang in there girl . you've done it for this long..so why not wait?
2006-10-20 20:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by nothingbuttagthing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he,s now @ that point after 7 yrs were he feels familiar with you & does,nt see he as to commit.
You could ask the question, like will we ever get married?
You asked me to wait & i have!! Thats showing commitment to you, how about showing commitment to me.
Give it a go BUT dont forget there are 2 ways it could go
2006-10-20 20:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you need to talk it out.. otherwise , any decisions taken for good / bad in future will affect your children. ( i mean their future)
as you have been together for the past 7 years , i am sure verbal sorting out of the problem is the only thing that will work.
never fear a negative answer , convince him out for the formal function. I swear , if i was in his situation , i would have understood what is going on within you and helped to remove the prob
2006-10-20 20:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. ask him what his future plans are. you need to let him know though that you want to get married one day soon if you are to continue on with the relationship. what your hopes and dreams are. you can not sit there assuming he knows what you want. you need to tell him. not everyone in the world wants to get married. he might say he does not want to marry ever but does want a long lasting relationship with you. so be prepared for that as well. think on if you can accept that kind of relationship and pass by a wedding and a paper that bonds you together then the commitment he makes to you himself. if you can then stay there. if you can't and can't let go of the wedding you dream of you need to move on. but you need to talk to him. if its a marriage you want one of the most important things in that marriage is going to be communication with each other. good luck to you
2006-10-20 20:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years is a long time. better u propose
2006-10-20 20:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋