I am 24 years Old and I have never commited premarital sex but am feeling the urge for sex more and more each day. I am not ready for a marriage yet and I won't be ready for the next three years. Can I marry a woman for a short period of time say for six months or even two years with her consent so that we can have sex. Because if we are married we will not be committing any sins.
2006-10-20 20:00:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can't wait for three years before having sex and its absolutely out of the question for me to marry before three years had passed. I don't want to commit a sin and I can't fast as some of you have sugested. I have a choice between marrying the woman temporarily on her agreement with her knowing that its only for fixed period of time or having premarital sex
2006-10-20 20:31:54 · update #1
No sir, IT IS NOT!!! marriage should be with the intention of lasting.
those fixed term "contracts" are NOT legit in God's eyes.
2006-10-20 20:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Brother, you know this is not right. As a Muslim woman, I am offended. If you have those kind of urges, there are other alternatives you know. And I'm not talking about anything dirty, so don't even go there. You can fast to control your base desires. Do you understand? You are not to enter into a marriage without the intent for it to be for a lifetime in Islam. You know that. Please don't use some poor girl to satisfy your desires. This is not the Muslim way, and Islam prohibits this. If you marry with the intent to divorce within a certain time period, then that is not a real marriage. You are basically making a mockery out of marriage, and that is offensive to Allah. Fast. It is what the Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said to do to control those kind of desires. Assalamoalakum.
2006-10-21 03:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Safiyah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NOT IF YOU ARE A SUNNI MUSLIM !!!!! My husband tried to pull this with me until we could afford a big wedding with our families...I said no way it is not allowed...the prophet Mohammad made it unlawful during his lifetime. It is not a Sunnah practice it is absolutely unallowed. You must also have your muslim witnesses. If you do this you will be wrong. Dont you dare take the advice of a non muslim if they dont know the truth. You can never get married for a "term"...you have to have no plans now or in your mind about the future about divorce. It is a free process to get married in the mosque without a big production and alll you have to pay is for the marriage license in your City Hall. If you are a muslim man and would rather sin I find this odd. Why do you have to wait 3 years? If finances are an excuse I dont buy that because the 2 of you manage to live somewhere and eat somehow everyday, why would marriage change that? If you are avoiding marriage because you want a huge production then you had better be willing to wait....if you cant wait then go to City Hall apply for your marriage license...get over to the mosque and be married immediately....if you are not willing to do this you are scared of some legal problem or are hiding something. If you are scared of not being able to pay Mahr the bridal gift you can have it deferred until later time.
2006-10-21 03:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by precious z 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell me how is it any different from paid services.Marriage is an institution of trust and Honesty as it is the basis on which a healthy society thrives.FAmilies are build around marriages.If everyone starts to make Month long marriages and enjoy as many women as he wants what kind of a society would that generate.Men willing to enjoy women but not committ to any serious responsibilites and family raising.Women making money out of short term marriagesWe would be like animals even worse because we have wisdom they dont.You should consult proper scholars on Islam regarding this matter but dude if you are having problems with libido it is recommended in Islam to fast and keep chaste.Or find someone look around for someone who would accept you in your given position.I know its tough but piety has a price and a reward that is the good pleasure of Allah.It is worth the wait.Sacrifice a little gain a lot.:-) ,Wish you the best.
2006-10-21 03:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you can.
Think on the emotional issues here. If you start sleeping with her there is much that will happen. One or both of you will bond, so a break up will be difficult.
Better that you understand each other more first. .. then do what you will.
Some non-muslims think that a contract is good because it forces them then to renew or break their committment on a fixed time. I had read about a woman who for the last 20 years takes a month's vacation from her man each year. so far has renewed each time.
think on these things before you and she act.
blessings.
2006-10-21 03:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has to be the most immoral and dumbest thing I have ever heard. If you are really that devoted to God don't you think he is going to see through that crap. That is more of a sin than if you were having pre-martial sex with someone. You are mocking God and the sacrament of marriage.What a hypocrite you are.You Muslim's say the West doesn't know God, man that is the lowest. That way of thinking just sicken's me.If you have to wait three years than wait three years. Your faith should not be used only when it is convenient for you.
2006-10-21 03:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by matt 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In Islam it is not allowed for a person to have a "mutah" or temporary marriage contract. If you are having difficulty controlling your sexual desires then you must fulfil them in a halal way which would be to get married. If you are at risk of falling into sin then getting married (properly, with all its responsibilities) should be a priority over whatever makes you feel you need to delay this for three years.
If you are unable to do this then you need to remind yourself of the Major sin that adultery is and how much it is hated by Allah such that the person committing it becomes an unbeliever at that time.. if he were to die at that point he would die as an unbeliever and remain in hellfire.. does adultery/haraam temporary marriage contract seem as appealing when this is considered??
You need to do everything to avoid that which may cause you to fall into this major sin.. such as avoiding being alone with a woman/women, avoiding nightclubs, avoid watching programmes which make this type of behaviour acceptable, avoid the company of those who practice this..
Also, you should avoid foods which arouse sexual desires.
You need to strengthen your eeman (faith) by doing good deeds.. Praying the five daily prayers on time, sincerely, prevents a person from committing lewd sins, fasting helps nurture self-restraint/control, reciting Quran(with translation if you don't know arabic) helps serve as a reminder of the purpose of your life. Keep yourself busy in other pursuits.
These are just some suggestions as to how to combat this problem but most of all you need to make dua ( supplication) to Allah to make it easy for you to stay chaste and avoid this evil, and to make it easy for you to get married in a halal way to fulfil your desires.. And for Allah anything is easy. The above is sincere advice and i hope it helps.
I would like to say that masha'allah it is good that you have never committed this before and you need to strive so that you do not fall into this as Shaytan is trying his best to try and justify this evil to you at this moment, don't let him get to you. "Shaytan is to mankind a clear, open enemy!"
2006-10-21 04:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by RH 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to this, no. This is not what marriage is about in Islam. Try fasting and resort to Allah, He will provide for you from sources you have never thought of. We are all struggling.
May Allah give us all strenght. And Allah knows best. Why don't you ask a sheikh?
2006-10-21 08:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by daliaadel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are referring to Mutaah Marriage which is practised among Shia Muslims.
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2006-10-21 03:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Huda_Alee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is called temporary marriage ( contract marriage). It is high spread type of marriage among shia muslims. But it is not acceptable by sunni muslims and in Islam actually.
You can do it and she will be your wife in front of Allah. But when your"contract will finish" how are you going to justify the divorsing in front of God... Changed your mind?
Think twice before you committ this, please
2006-10-21 03:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by Suomi 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋