Ok, slept with a guy from work last weekend. Wouldn't have been as big a deal had I not had a major crush on this guy since I met him a year ago. And, he hasn't called me since- even though I KNOW he had a good time (just trust me on this one). I did call him Tues night and he sounded happy to hear from me, but the conversation was really superficial. So, I have to see him tomorrow on the job. Should I just act as if nothing has happened? Should I approach him and ask him why he's been ignoring me? Does this sound salvagable into a relationship kind of deal at all? Thanks guys!!
2006-10-20 19:47:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't approach him at work about what is or is not going on between the two of you. You should not bring it out in the open there. You should invite him out for a drink, coffee, dinner, etc. You can talk things out there. If he does not accept your invitation, or even suggest a better time to meet up, then you should be comfortable enough to realize that you have entered the one-night-stand zone and just let it go.
2006-10-20 19:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this were just a case of how to approach a guy you have a crush on it would be easy. However, the fact that you've now had sex with him definitely complicates things. To be honest, at this point approaching him directly would be the best thing. You may want to consider the possibility that he was just looking for a lay and you were ready and willing, and now that he got what he wanted he wants to just ignore you. I hope that doesn't happen but you should be ready for the possibility he will just blow you off. I think part of this depends on what you two's relationship was like before you slept with him. Were you friends or was he a guy you just maybe said hi to every once in a while and kind of admired from a distance? This is a sticky situation, but the best thing to do is go up to him and ask straight up. The only thing worse than knowing is not knowing, right? I'll wish the best for you, though.
2006-10-20 19:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dale H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you had sex for the first time. It's not 'common', but sometimes the two people in a relationship don't know exactly how to go from there even if it was amazing. Maybe that's the case? Don't add any more awkward vibes to your relationship by addressing the situation just yet. Instead, be casual. Go about your business, both business and social, with him just like you would if you weren't uncertain. Maybe by the end of the first day it'll have a completely different feel. Ask if he wants to make plans for this Friday if you're feeling gutsy.
If this isn't the case, then maybe just ask. Hope for an honest answer. Take it from there.
2006-10-20 19:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
act honest act happy to see him as you did before this happened be friendly and normal do not give him the cold shoulder do not act like nothing happened do not talk about this at work continue to be charming give him a secret wink and a smile and go on about your business don't tell him,show him in settle cute ways you enjoy his company.don't act stiff and uncomfortable you got him to want you the first time you can do it again but don't get stupid and play games like it didn't mean anything continue to treat him special lots of my Friends married someone from work just let it flow.even if he doesn't know how to act for a while.good luck
2006-10-20 21:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I would not act like nothing happened, makes you look like its something you do all the time, dont accuse him of ignoring you but maybe mention you enjoyed the evening with him, You will not know anything unless you ask, then you know either way, and thats easier for you. good luck
2006-10-20 19:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically, go with "nothing has happened" for most of the day.
give him time to show his intention. be cheerful and friendly, and flirt with him if he flirts with you.
mid to late afternoon you can start to press him on the matter if you still need information or you are convinced he is holding back.
at the moment it's not looking like a relationship.
2006-10-20 19:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal about it, don't ask, act like nothing happened. Do you really want him thinking your stressed about him?
2006-10-20 19:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Asia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be cool wit him, if you enjoy his company and conversation, and he does too, you shouldn't even talk about it. If he wants something he will find you and call you, only when he knows that this is what he wants, leave him space and forget about him. Just be nice if he is around, and most of all be professional.
2006-10-20 20:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by tanlonghair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is and was no relationship, you have just learnt that sex can ruin some good friendships and stop them from happening. Learn from it. Ignore him when you next meet him
2006-10-20 19:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to just act as if it never happened.....I think hes already doing that. Good Luck
2006-10-20 19:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋