Dont you find people who get married at 18 years old pathetic?

Question

You have to be one messed up kid to want to be married at 18. Your either too scared to live the world alone (if only for a while) or your such a dork you think the other person will leave you if you dont get married, your still a kid, You can live the exact same life without the complications. Im not saying break up with everyone, just dont be a pathetic ret@rd and get married when your a kid and supposed to be learning about yourself.

Answer 1

heck yeah they are losers.

Answer 2

You know, if we went by the natural order of things, boys and girls would find a mate during the time they enter puberty and then grow together over time. Contrary to popular belief, you are not a kid at 18. If we went by the natural order then by the time you reached that age you would have already had children and be well on your way to maturity. American society has dim views about people getting married young, but they never have anything to say about the fact that we have one of the highest divorce rates in the world compared to other countries where people marry young and are more family oriented. It hasnt been so long ago that americans were getting married at the age of 11, 12, 13, 14 etc and most of those marriage's have been long lasting.
One reason being, is that those younger persons were most likely virgins and being so are satified with there spouse where as persons of an older age have most likely had many differant lovers and will most likely never be satified with their spouse and will continue to search for something better. Two young people will grow together creating a life long bound but two people of an older age have already grown and most likely will never achieve the same type of deep bond and love.
Our goverment and religous leaders have over a period of time removed us far away from the natural order of life and in so doing caused more harm than they have helped.

Answer 3

Have you ever thought about a career as a diplomat?

Actually, you pretty much are correct. Getting married at 18 is a bad, bad idea. Not only should people not get married at such a young age, they also should not be in a long term totally exclusive relationship with someone. They need to be open to all the possibilities that God has for them.

Answer 4

In some cultures this is very common and expected. Including mine, although I do not personally practice this, my parents did! No divorse, or poverty,or even yelling exists in my family. We have big house, each child is going to college. I find your stereotyping offensive. You sound very childish and naive.
Take a look yourself.
"just dont be a pathetic ret@rd and get married when your a kid and supposed to be learning about yourself."
Not only do you insult people who may think or behave differently then you, you also manage to slur the names of people who have mental deficiencies.
Try empathy, its one of the most basic of human concepts.

Answer 5

I married at age 14,had all three of my children by age 18,there
are two sides to every coin,by nature I was meant to be a mom.I had babysitting jobs from age 12 and I so loved the little ones, I wanted my own.I enjoyed them, when they reached there 20's i was in my 30's.I was always able to relate to them,and they were proud to show off there mom.They are grown and I am young and have time to do anything I wish,with a certain type of knowledge.I would do it all over the same way.

Answer 6

I won't go as far to say they are pathetic, but 99.99% of the time, it's a big mistake. Young people who marry expecting the idealistic American apple pie version are the ones who end up divorced in 1 year. Because of our current society, marriage (and for that matter, rearing children), isn't a good idea for 18 year olds. To be able to make a lifelong commitment to another, one has to truly know themselves. And most 18 year olds do not. I sure as heck did not.

Answer 7

Doesnt matter when someone gets married, early or late, if it is meant to be it will be and who are we to judge someone else's journey?

Doesn't matter if you are young...you still discover yourself if you make the time...I know plenty single young people... who never make the time... so it does not stop self discovery, if at all marriage brings more responsibility which is learnt earlier, makes for much wisdom later when still in early years...

...marriage teaches co-operation, same team life membership, unconditional love, humility, friendship, ethics & morals become priorities, committment, responsibility, self discipline, independence and stability....

...all trials & errs meet these integrations into married life.....

...and those who fail young, would have failed later any way...as that experience had to be learn't...we can not run from what life is going to deliver, however we can certainly learn to perceive them in a different way....so we dont keep repeating them.....

....also, it is nice to know that love does still exist romantically with the young....it's a blessing in these times.

Love, Light 'n' Laughter,
Harriett Potty ;)

Answer 8

I kinda did that at 19.

I'm not 19 anymore, and I may have been a scared pathetic retard.....but I don't regret the mistake I made. I learned a lot about myself through the experience.

I like the point you make, because it's relevant to lives lived hard. But....we do learn, and that should be enough!

Peace!

Answer 9

How times have changed.
Half my HS class married at that age.
The rest married by 22.
My grandmother married at 17.
My sisters at 19.
Maybe some people know exactly what they want and when.

Answer 10

Mt grandmother got married when she was 17,and my grandfather was 23.She and my grandfather have been married for 53 years,and have never split up.They still love each other very much.

Answer 11

I think it is wonderful if two people find love with one another at such a young age...some mature faster than say...you.

If they are possessed of the mental maturity to handle it, leave them alone and let them love each other.