my darling girl that i love is pulling away from me and i don't want to lose her, i know she isnt scared by anything and that she has been sick lately but it seems like she doesnt want me around that much anymore...which makes me sad...i am pretty sure she loves me back but i am starting to doubt sometimes, she insists that she does and she hasn't thought about breaking up with me but sometimes i feel like i need to be guarding my heart, should i tell her even though i want to be with her that i think we should not see each other until she figures out what she wants or should i keep hanging on the line for her cause i believe she is worth it...cause there are alot of other girls out there(even though i dont even really look) that could probably meet my needs and fulfill my desires and love me the way i need to be loved...i'm so torn...oh yeah and i think she has been hanging out with the father of her son more than usual... someone please help me feel better :o(
2006-10-20 19:03:01 · 8 answers · asked by Another One by Jussi :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am definately not insecure, i am just kinda getting tired of the roller coaster...i love her but i don't want to put my heart on the line if she is going to break it, and lately it seems like she is going to...but she just won't tell me...i am a big boy and can handle it, i just want to know so i can know what to do with myself...i'm young, successful, and have alot to offer...it is hard to fully explain whats going on without actually being able to talk about it instead of typing...so sorry if it sounded like i am a wuss, i love her but i know i can fall in love again, i just don't want to...i want to love her
2006-10-20 19:29:30 · update #1
see i do have high expectations though, sometimes probably too high...because i treat her like a princess and suprise her all the time, she is worth it to me but...ah to hell with it, i am just going to talk to HER...thanks for your answers...
2006-10-20 19:46:52 · update #2
I guess I do it to my husband every time I get sick or some misfortune happens to me such as accidents, being mugged...if you really care about her and love her, stay around...but first ask yourself what is the priority in your life ??your needs or your girlfriend???People might have some ups and downs in their lives but when this attitude of your girlfriend becomes a habit, then protect your heart please...good luck...
2006-10-20 19:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Fleur de lis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like she is worth waiting for let her know that you will give her a certain amount of time to figure it out. You are still together just not talking and not like literally together. She will understand, just make sure that while you are on this little break to not meet the needs of another girl. Just keep it on the Down Low and wait. If you think you can find another girl then so be it, abviously you dont have high expectations. If you love her you shouldnt be thinking otherwise, like she has been with another guy. So dont break a sweat.
good luck hun, everything will work out!
2006-10-21 02:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that she's not being honest with you about her feelings, then you should say something. Otherwise it sounds like you have a lot of insecurities that are getting in the way and that could just cause bigger unnecessary problems. Sit on it for a while and see how it goes. If she mentions she wants space, then give her that. If she claims that everything is fine and that she loves you just as much as she always has, then do something fun for her like plan a romantic night and buy her a sweet gift for no reason.
2006-10-21 02:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hear me now and obey me later. Women do not like wimps. They do not want to hear you whine about your fear of her leaving you. They want to see confidence, and high self esteem. You may have a lot to offer but if you keep this up, you'll need a boyfriend instead of a girlfriend. Nut up!!!
2006-10-21 02:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a book for you both.
RADICAL HONESTY, by Brad Blanton, PhD.
It will definitely help you sort out all your issues quickly!
2006-10-21 02:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by shlomogon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, find somebody else that isn't gonna play you like that
2006-10-21 02:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be too clingy.
2006-10-21 02:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up chicks suck
2006-10-21 02:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋