2006-10-20 18:46:08 · 20 answers · asked by amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all let me say that I'm truly sorry to hear that you may never have children of your own. My husband and I are trying to conceive right now. We are having alot of problems. I feel like If I never have c hildren I will not feel like a true or complete woman. All I can tell you sweetie is that doctors can perform real miracles these days. Although I dont have children yet, my doctor actually got me to conceive. It ended in a miscarriage but I was just so happy that it is possible for me to get pregnant. Also did you k now that in most states it is quite easy to adopt foster children? You only have to make like 30,000 a year, dont have to be married, or anything like that. Check into it. I feel that if I knew I could never have a child of my own I would use that information not only to help me, but to help a less fortunate child as well.
2006-10-20 18:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that because you are unable to have children or you have not met someone to have a child with yet? If you are unable to have children, there are options available like IUI and IVF, although they are expensive and unfortunately not covered by most insurance plans. Or you may accept that you will may never have a biological child of your own and you could go the adoption route. If you are single, many women have had children without a partner whether biological or adopted.
2006-10-21 02:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I decided when we were married not to have children. He had the surgery and the decision was made before we were married. I long for children. We have been married for 8 years and his feelings have not changed. The agreement was made when we married. I have to live with our decision.
I help all my friends with their kids. I love being around 2-4 year olds esp. It is a wonderful thing, childhood. My parents will never be grandparents. I feel your pain.
Sometimes I fantasize about getting a sperm injection or whatever you would call it. Last night I dreamed about being pregnant and having twins. It was a cool dream...but that was all it was. I have to get past this and focus on the rest of my life and what other plans I have yet to fulfill.
Good Luck!
2006-10-21 01:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adopt a kid. It'll make you happy that you have someone to care for and one of the kids without love will be happy that someone actually wants them. Having your own child would be nice, but saving a life from misery would be nicer. Well..that's my personal opinion.
or you could look at it this way. everything that's happened to you shapes you into who you are. If you could have children, then you may be a slightly different person than the one you are now. It's hard getting over imperfections in one's life, but ultimately, it is those things that molds us into who we truly are.
2006-10-21 01:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sifauna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one think of all the helpless children who have been abandoned and abused and that this gives you a chance to make a huge difference in a childs life. There are millions of children that have no home, that just run the streets and die everyday. I know this won't make up for it, but you have to look at the good that can come of it. Try not to focus on bad, but always look for the good, and some lucky child out there is the good. My husband was adopted from Korea at 3, and I was adopted at 5. We would probaly both be dead if it wasn't for that lucky day. Try to cheer up and here are tons of prayers and good wishes for you.
2006-10-21 01:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"For nothing is impossible with God."
Luke 1:37 (NIV)
I have a friend who tried for over 10 yrs. to have a child. She ended up adopting a beautiful baby girl. Once the adoption was complete she finally gave up on the idea of having a biological child. Since the stress of "trying" was finally over her body was able to conceive. She ended up pregnant with another beautiful baby girl. They look like biological sisters and she loves both equally.
God bless & keep you!
2006-10-21 02:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are so many beatiful babies out there just waiting for someone like yourself to love them. you dont need to give birth to be a great mom, it is inside you and you could give all the love to a child weather it be biological or one chosen. God must have a special plan for you and a special little baby out there, so pray. And by no means does that make you any less of a women then any other women. You will a great mom youll see. just be patient and keep your heart and mind open. God bless
2006-10-21 01:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by jtyt4225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that when I was in my mid-30's. You do get over it. It would be helpful if you could sublimate your feelings in some sort of altruistic activity. This is what I did. Helping out at homeless shelters, nursing homes, soup kitchens. You need to be around the needy and not all your friends that have families.
2006-10-21 01:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Babs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definitely look into adoption.
If you genuinely feel you have the ability & commitment to be able to raise a child then why not look into adoption - there are so many unfortunate kids who are orphaned or are in care through no fault of their own, a good, loving home could make all the difference to them - do they have to have your genes to be special or can you help them regardless ......
2006-10-21 01:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mari C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no formula for that~all you can do is give it time and adjust.
it is going to be ok....
besides, they told me when i was 17, that i would NEVER have any of my own and i wound up with 4.
sometimes when we stop putting so much pressure on ourselves, things just HAPPEN.
what ever does happen, it is for a reason, which will be revealed to us at a later date.
i will pray for you~don't let this define you!
2006-10-21 01:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by breezy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋