How do I cope with the death of two loved ones in one week?

Answer 1

Take your time to grieve for your two love ones. Maybe go to a support group, and maybe help another person who is also grieving as you are. But this will take time, and give it the time you need. It does get better. But talking about it helps. But then again don't shut people out, be there for them also. It hurts losing loved ones. I had 9 deaths in 6 months all close relatives. I made it through, but I had support from a very good friends and family. I also remember they are also in a better place.
I am sorry for you lose. Remember to take care of you. You will get through this. It all takes time. Good luck, and God Bless you

Answer 2

So hard to deal with a situation like this, the grief is almost unbearable I know. Try looking for support through others who have lost loved ones, these people have been through the grief and have experience first hand how to cope. The grieving process is long but you do get through it, even though some days it might feel like you're not.

Answer 3

I honestly don't have that much experience with death but my grandma always tells me that when life is utterly overwhelming to take it one day, one hour, or even one minute at a time. Dont think about the future just figure out how to survive the afternoon. Turn to other loved ones for support and be as nice to yourself as possible. Let yourself feel your feelings and don't be ashamed. This will be very, very hard but you can get through it. Just remember happy times with your loved ones and also think of the good things you and them experienced in their lives. Just keep breathing and really lean on your friends. It will be ok. Don't give up. Also, I might recommend talking to a conselour if this is to much for you. I think it would be way way way too much for most of us and that can be helpful. ****HUGS****

Answer 4

I am so sad to hear about such a huge .loss

My 21 yr old son died unexpectedly four years ago. The loss is huge. I would advise you to let yourself grieve. When you have a crying or frantic spell.....let yourself cry. Then realize that it will take time to deal with this.

When my son died I couldn't say some words....so I spelled them...for instance..I couldn't say things like body b o d y
G R A V E. My family and friends knew I had to do that. I don't need to do it anymore. Thus you might have to find tools to deal with things.

My best place to cry was and sometimes still is in the car.

You might have to avoid some places or things that are too painful. That will pass.

If you know yourself you might know you can't have pictures up of them or you might need pictures up of them in every room in the house. Do what you need to do to honor them and yourself.

You might not be able to go to the gravesites or you might need to go there often.

If you are really down, do something to get busy. Go to a movie. Go see friends. Read a book or whatever it takes to distract your mind.

Death is a part of life.....and it sucks big time. We all know we are going to die and those we love will die. But, when it happens...we are unprepared. It matters little that many of passed to the other side before us but it is OUR life and OUR time and OUR family and just becasue death is a part of life doesn't mean we can deal well with it.

It isn't good when people say that "they are in a better place" or
"it was their time". if you are like me I want to scream at people like that. They mean well.

Also...never get too tired, too hungry or too lonely.

Answer 5

First of all let me say that I am so sorry about your losses. That is a tough one, When I lost my Father 10 years ago (on Father's Day) I thought that I would never make it through. You may be sick of listening to people telling you that you will get over this and that you will feel better in time...well right now that may be worth a grain of salt for you to hear. I don't know if you are of any certain faith or even believe in God, but if you do you must hang on to your faith the most right now. We always think that we have it really bad until we know what someone else is going through. My 40 year old brother is in the last stages of Multiple Sclerosis and slowly dying in front of all our family who is being taking care of by my 72 year old mother who refuses to put him in any kind of home. My 8 year old son has Cerebral Palsy and his "natural father" won't have anything to do with him because of that. I need to have back surgery, but won't because who will take care of my Angle then? My 12 year old son suddenly decided he wanted to go live with with his father. My niece just miscarried her second child at 5 months and may not be able to have anymore children. What more can I say sweetie? My most inner prayers are with you...if you have not visited your church in a while, go back there. Look within yourself for the strength that you need right now and pray for the guidance that you most need. God bless you and keep you.

Answer 6

Honey i wish that I had that magic answer for you but unfortunately I don't. People grieve in different ways. Some are able to deal with it and then there are the rest of us that can't deal with it at all.

I lost my best friend in September. She used to call me everyday. Now I sit and wait for the phone to ring but it never does. She was the only real friend that I had. I miss her so much but I don't know how to tell you how to grieve. I am still trying to get through the grieving process of losing one friend so I can only imagine how hurt you are at the thought of losing two. I am very sorry for your loss and hope that time will heal your wounds. If you would like to talk to someone about it, e-mail me or IM me at [e-mail]
I would be very happy to talk to you. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 7

I have not lost 2 in one week but I have lost my father,2 years later my brother and 6 years after that my mom.All I can tell you is no it never stops hurting but time does make it easier to bare.Take the time you need to grieve your loss.Let those who are close to you help you.And as harsh as it may sound remember that although they are gone you are still here.Live you life Live it well,Be happy,love and be loved.This is what your lost loved ones would want for you.Seek help if you need it .there are many places,groups and centers for bereavement.Some times it helps to talk to someone who's been there. No one ones how you feel but you.But I found it really helped to talk to people who have had similar experiences.I hope this helps some.

Answer 8

I am so sorry for your loss. When my mother died I found the most helpful thing to be writing my feelings in a journal. Maybe you could do a blog, like a tribute. Talk with friends when you need a shoulder to cry on. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Take care and good luck.

Answer 9

I do not know if tis will help much at all, but my belief is that life never really begins until you die. If you think about it, you begin to die the second you are born.
Another way of looking at it, (as I do) is tat for every death in the family, there is a birth...could that be possible?

Answer 10

I had to do it in 3 months and it was so hard to handle it. I remember giving all my energy to work and to all the hobbies I have had so that I could not find any time to think of these...sharing this experience and crying with a close friend and a relative does wonders as well....